I wouldn't say ESTJs are the most hated type, I think a better word would be "predictable," since we've all had an ESTJ authority figure at some point in our lives. They're very straight forward and grounded which makes them super easy to identify.
Te in itself isn't bad when it's justified, like, don't be late for work. It's a rule worth abiding by when you weigh out the consequences of challenging that rule, but at the same time, we all know what happens when that unique brand of Te+Si is challenged in a way that makes them vulnerable. Also, a lot of cops are ESTJs, so that's a thing.
Not a pretty sight.
In my experience, the best kind of ESTJs are the ones who exercise their Ne in quirky ways, which makes them less rigid and actually really fun to be around. They're a rare occurrence, but worth finding when you sift past the fat guys in ties in dead end middle management careers who think they know everything about the way the world works.
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It's not that they are rigid alone it's that they are wrong, annoying, controlling, bossy, pushy, power hungry, close-minded, etc. So they are doing all these things while stomping on the personal freedoms and convictions of others all to impose their bullshit onto the world around them, while being wrong. They are always imposing their beliefs and the way they think things should be done on others, and they are always getting in the way, causing misery and wasted time, all to feed their own need to be in charge and to have their will be done, and to be able to take credit for everything. There's also a reason they are the most popular/common type for bullies: they pick on and prey on anyone weaker than them, and anyone they are jealous of or that is a threat to them for their own personal satisfaction. Sickening. Also, ESTJ along with ESTP are the types a psychopath in their broken state are likely to test as. That is, they have what is closest to psychopathic tendencies, and the only question is how extreme/unhealthy they are.
They are always wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, but they are always convinced they know what to do, and are always convinced they are correct. This is especially felt in the world I live in, where it's all about innovation, creativity, progress, free-thinking, out-of-the-box thinking, etc, because all they are about is taking credit for whatever is discovered/created while getting in the way and meddling with the process as much as possible, and while doing the most ignorant shit, and while trying to twist what's being done to what they think is so fucking appropriate (but is actually garbage), and while trying to keep everything status quo.
The thing that's most annoying about them is that they are bossy and have this drive to tell people what to do in the most dehumanizing and degrading way, but they don't know shit, or are completely redundant half the time.
The good ones are more "submissive," but it's usually because they've been "tapped out" or have had their ass handed to them, or the shit beaten out of them. But even in that state, who they really are is always waiting to surface, and while I can hang around them, I only do so temporarily, because I know what can happen. ESFJs/ISTJs have caused the most problems in my life, but ESTJs are the ones that drive me up the wall with their actions. If I'd ever lose my mind and get into a fight with anyone due to their actions, it would be them.
Their methods leave much to be desired.
This is funny, because for the longest time I had this thing for a chick that tested herself and came out ESTJ (not an out of control, but all the signs were there). I can't even begin to imagine the horror that would have been. I wonder if we had ever gotten around to having sex if she would've just sat there trying to tell me what to do.
"You're a nerd so you're not good at this." (while thinking she's doing me some sort of favor, because she's hot)
"Stick it in here. No wait, not yet, now."
"Wait, you're too rough"
"Oh God (when I start ignoring her and doing what I want), do this now"
"No, do it this way"
I would've probably lost my mind and walked out in the middle of it, or just held her down and done whatever the hell I wanted. That seems to be the only way to get anything done or to make any progress around them, just say fuck it and beat the shit out of them with it. I can only imagine how draining that would've been for me. But then afterwards she'd probably turn into a clinger nightmare annoying woman that would annoy me 24/7 for a rerun of what happened. Because it's not about trying new things after that, it's about playing back that same old shit over and over again.
"Suffocation, no breathing."
Fuck that.
