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    Default ISTJ & ESFJ relationships

    I have picked up lately....many of them seem to exist. Do they work?

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    Do they work? For a little while. Then the control & mood issues come up and the neither the ESFJ nor the ISTJ like to give up control. And since the ESFJs are better manipulators than the ISTJ, the ESFJ usually comes out ahead.

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    I have never dated an ISTJ but my son is one.

    We get on great and like each others sense of humour. He's very kind, considerate and practical. He likes his space which i understand and he is aware when i am worried so gives me the common sense speech.

    I know mother/son relationship is different to partners so who knows.
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    the most common husband/wife american pairing on tv is an ESFJ wife and ISTJ husband. But like saslou's situation, my mother is an ESFJ also. my biggest complaint to her is, "When are you going to stop doing everything for everyone else, and think about yourself?"


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    My mom is and ESFJ. She married two NPs before marrying my step-dad who is and ISTJ. They've been married 25 years now and they're both happy. My son is also and ESFJ and his closest relative besides myself is his uncle who is and ISTJ.
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