2XtremeENFP
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OK OK OK, I know I ask a lot of ISTJ questions, it's mainly cause I start to overanalyze his words SO MUCH, and that's why I need you guys to help keep me rational ![Blush :blush: :blush:](/data/vbsmilies/blush.gif)
So.. quick question, easy to answer probably...
ISTJ boyfriend is on vacation, has been gone for a few days, we've texted maybe 5 consecutive messages a day, so no major communication. He said that he would call every night, but has yet to do so, but that doesn't bother me because I know he's probably busy...
Here's the issue, after about 3 days, he called me before he went to bed, which is the first time we spoke on the phone since he left. We get to talking and started playing around and I teased him about how he hasn't called me until after 3. He started getting defensive, and to justify his actions he said, "Sorry I didn't call you, I mean, haven't you ever been on vacation where you are just having so much fun that you don't miss me?"
My response was, "No... no matter how much fun I am having, I miss you and think about you"
He still stuck by his answer...
I am trying not to take offense, but it's not working so well.
So.. ISTJs, can you go on vacation and have 'so much fun' that you don't miss/forget about your love interest?
Did he REALLY mean what he said? I mean, I am looking at a deeper meaning, but the deeper meaning is just what he said... he doesn't miss me.
When I do asked him to clarify, I think he thinks I am trying to trap him so he says what I want to hear...
![Blush :blush: :blush:](/data/vbsmilies/blush.gif)
So.. quick question, easy to answer probably...
ISTJ boyfriend is on vacation, has been gone for a few days, we've texted maybe 5 consecutive messages a day, so no major communication. He said that he would call every night, but has yet to do so, but that doesn't bother me because I know he's probably busy...
Here's the issue, after about 3 days, he called me before he went to bed, which is the first time we spoke on the phone since he left. We get to talking and started playing around and I teased him about how he hasn't called me until after 3. He started getting defensive, and to justify his actions he said, "Sorry I didn't call you, I mean, haven't you ever been on vacation where you are just having so much fun that you don't miss me?"
My response was, "No... no matter how much fun I am having, I miss you and think about you"
He still stuck by his answer...
I am trying not to take offense, but it's not working so well.
So.. ISTJs, can you go on vacation and have 'so much fun' that you don't miss/forget about your love interest?
Did he REALLY mean what he said? I mean, I am looking at a deeper meaning, but the deeper meaning is just what he said... he doesn't miss me.
When I do asked him to clarify, I think he thinks I am trying to trap him so he says what I want to hear...