[ISTJ] ISTJs, what type are you attracted to?

[Max]

Okay, yeah, I'm definitely way too selective about who I'm attracted to. It's so much that it's probably impossible to find the right person. I was just thinking about extroversion vs. introversion today. I recently made the transition from introversion to extroversion myself. I think about it in others and what appeals the most to me. If someone is too introverted, they're too lazy and they prefer to have a small close circle of friends, which is more or less what I meant by clingy. If someone is too extroverted, they constantly have so much to do and so many people to talk to that it's impossible to spend enough time focused on me.

 

[Giggly]

No Maxie lovin' for any of those clingy types!

 

[Max]

Well, at least in the case of this one person, it didn't work out. I think she wants to be with me, but it's not going to happen.

 

[Giggly]

Well, at least in the case of this one person, it didn't work out. I think she wants to be with me, but it's not going to happen.

Aww, that's hard.

 

[Max]

Okay, new situation: I told this one other girl I love her. She's very outgoing, loves to talk, and is attractive. So, why not? She's always really busy though, on the move, so I don't see her a lot. Guys are trying to get me to, uh... get with her, but I don't think this would work out either. Heheh, just another entertaining story for you guys.

 

[browneyes94]

Probably ISTJs, ESTPs or ESTJs. As long as he doesnt have too much F. haha.

 

[Max]

Probably ISTJs, ESTPs or ESTJs. As long as he doesnt have too much F. haha.

I guess that's another factor. Since males are generally T and females are generally F, it seems to be preferred that they're not too far from what's more usual.

It's probably the ESFJ or ESFP that I'm attracted to, but seeing how things have been with me, I doubt I'll ever be in a real relationship.

 

[Lambchop]

Okay, new situation: I told this one other girl I love her. She's very outgoing, loves to talk, and is attractive. So, why not? She's always really busy though, on the move, so I don't see her a lot. Guys are trying to get me to, uh... get with her, but I don't think this would work out either. Heheh, just another entertaining story for you guys.

You told her you love her because "She's very outgoing, loves to talk, and is attractive. So, why not?" You have a loose definition of the word "love" my friend!

 

[Giggly]

Okay, new situation: I told this one other girl I love her. She's very outgoing, loves to talk, and is attractive. So, why not? She's always really busy though, on the move, so I don't see her a lot. Guys are trying to get me to, uh... get with her, but I don't think this would work out either. Heheh, just another entertaining story for you guys.

You tiger, you. Rawr. I say go for it.

 

[Max]

You told her you love her because "She's very outgoing, loves to talk, and is attractive. So, why not?" You have a loose definition of the word "love" my friend!

Don't you love your friends and those who are closest to you? I don't see what the problem is. Oh, wait, I only knew her for like, a day. Nothing wrong with loving someone though.

You tiger, you. Rawr. I say go for it.

Haha. We'll see what happens.

 

[ChocolateMoose123]

^ you did right by switching to ESTJ....I dated one for a year and have been great friends with him since and this is exactly what kind of stuff comes out of his mouth about dating... So simplified and yet he goes so in depth with things that most people don't even consider worthy of considering when dating someone. Strange juxtapositions. Crazy ESTJ's

 

[Max]

You remember when I had my type as ISTJ? I don't think that all ESTJs or any personality type need to all be exactly the same or do/say the same things, but that is a noteworthy similarity, I suppose.

 

[ChocolateMoose123]

You remember when I had my type as ISTJ? I don't think that all ESTJs or any personality type need to all be exactly the same or do/say the same things, but that is a noteworthy similarity, I suppose.

No they don't. I agree. But to preface that remark before every post here would be exhausting

 

[Max]

Hah. I love the ways of my type.

 

[Max]

Hah, I'm really turning this thread into "ESTJs, what type are you attracted to?"

Anyway, it didn't work out. I've classified her as an ESFP. I knew there was some kind of problem, and I kept trying to talk to her about it, but she kept running away and making excuses. Thanks to typology, I can understand why she was like that. She was afraid of hurting my feelings, whereas I just wanted to get to the bottom of things.

 

[Lambchop]

Don't you love your friends and those who are closest to you? I don't see what the problem is. Oh, wait, I only knew her for like, a day. Nothing wrong with loving someone though.

Haha. We'll see what happens.

Oh, my bad. I do love the people closest to me. However, the "romantic L word", I save for very few special people. I've only ever said it to 3 people in my life.

You are so funny Max...you always make me laugh!!

 

[Bubbles]

No INFP love?! Man, the ISTJs into me must all think I'm an ENFP or something...poor mistaken souls. Honestly though I think an xNFP would drive you all insane! Well, maybe just xNxP. My SJ friends laugh at the bizarre schenanigans that ensue when we all get together... ^^;

 

[Max]

Oh, my bad. I do love the people closest to me. However, the "romantic L word", I save for very few special people. I've only ever said it to 3 people in my life.

I see. It hasn't gotten me much of anywhere good in the past couple of weeks. I guess I need to be more careful about how I use it. I just don't understand how things got the way they were.

You are so funny Max...you always make me laugh!!

Hah, thanks! Good to hear.

No INFP love?! Man, the ISTJs into me must all think I'm an ENFP or something...poor mistaken souls. Honestly though I think an xNFP would drive you all insane! Well, maybe just xNxP. My SJ friends laugh at the bizarre schenanigans that ensue when we all get together... ^^;

I think the general consensus a few pages back was that anything was fine, as long as they weren't T. However, that was only the opinion of a few individuals.

 

[BlackCat]

I think the general consensus a few pages back was that anything was fine, as long as they weren't T. However, that was only the opinion of a few individuals.

Yeah a lot of us were curious because INFPs seem to hook up with ISTJs or other NFs the most often... my aunt is an INFP in a good relationship with an ISTJ.

 

[Giggly]

Yeah a lot of us were curious because INFPs seem to hook up with ISTJs or other NFs the most often... my aunt is an INFP in a good relationship with an ISTJ.

Well, someone back there said that they think NF's are more mysterious. In other words, a lot of people are insanely attracted to their opposite, even if their opposite may not be what's best for them.