I wish I were able to make friendships more easily. I get the sense that always being polite and unrevealing makes people less willing to approach me personally. It's like being respected but not loved. So in that capacity sometimes I wish I were more E.
But then being more I I think creates a little more of a mysterious aura around me. It makes me a better listener and makes my words count more. And I have time to develop deeper relationships with the fewer people. I guess you could say I'm more "real," which pleases me.
Do you ever wish you were less introverted, and more extroverted?
I prefer to see the strengths of being and introvert (Less prone to loneliness, ability to work independently, and such) and use them to my advantage rather than seeing the strengths of being an extrovert and simply drooling over them.
That used to be fine for me in the past, but now it does me no good. On the very limited opportunities that I've had to be with others on the weekends, it is by far the best thing I experience. I no longer look forward to spending my free time playing my video game system and watching TV or whatever, though it used to be fun for me.I'd rather be introverted. I'm slightly expressed introvert- so I can and will often come off as extroverted. I know for sure i'm introverted because because on Fridays, after work, I beeline straight home, sit on my couch, and 'recharge' by being in total silence, or playing a video game or looking at tv. No phone or other outside people. Depending on what type of week I've had my recharging can go from a few hours to the whole night!
That's a pretty cool story. I especially like how you got active in doing things like sports and running for president. I never did anything like that at all. I wasn't known for anything really except that I was going to permanently abandon everyone as soon as high school was over when I move to Florida. But it kind of backfired in the sense that people actually showed some interest in that since it's more of an ambition than many of my classmates had, so I became more friendly with people over the years.Your situation sounds a lot like mine Max. Somehow I came to equate being sociable to being better and once I came to that I've made it a goal to be more extraverted. Whereas in 8th grade I was voted "Most Quiet", in my later years of high school I ran for president, joined a few sports, got myself thrown out during an assembly (peacefully), and generally just tried to make it known that I am not the person I was before. (Apparently, it worked so some extent. Some of my friends explained that people were talking about how different I had become. Of course, nobody told me how their perception had changed.)
Er... I've definitely lost that ability. While from late '04 to early '08 or so I enjoyed time alone with video games and the TV or just walking outside, it just depresses me now. Whether I'll be able to satisfy what I want or not will soon be determined.Introversion does have it's advantages though. The ability to endure through long periods (seriously, like weeks) without having a real conversation is not something I would want to give up, even though I should hope that won't occur again.
True, but not necessarily 100% of the time. There are extroverted people who very rarely, if ever, say anything stupid, and I've said plenty of stupid things in the past.Too much comfort around people also seems to let people be more comfortable doing stupid things.
I'm not an expert on the functions, so I'm not exactly sure on how to tell them apart, but I suppose it's a better trait to have than some others.Additionally, Introversion makes Si our dominant trait which I'm not sure I could go without.
Well, maybe. Couldn't back that up based on my personal experience, but I guess it depends on the individual.And, at least specifically for us ISTJs, we're supposed to be good with the ESFPs which is just plain awesome.
Yes. Yes I do.
I see what you're saying there, but I actually have become extremely prone to loneliness as of lately. My personality really could be undergoing a change, if that's possible.
That used to be fine for me in the past, but now it does me no good. On the very limited opportunities that I've had to be with others on the weekends, it is by far the best thing I experience. I no longer look forward to spending my free time playing my video game system and watching TV or whatever, though it used to be fun for me.
My deal is that I'm going to college soon for my first year, and when I visited there a few months ago, I made the realization that I really need to change my ways of being a loner. I really loved the people I met there and I felt like it was the first time I could really connect with anyone. Over the past year or two, I noticed that my lonerdom was becoming less satisfying than it was from 8th-10th grade or so. So, I've been making efforts to better myself, and people around me say that I've changed a lot and that I've become a lot more sociable.
I'd rather be introverted. I'm slightly expressed introvert- so I can and will often come off as extroverted. I know for sure i'm introverted because because on Fridays, after work, I beeline straight home, sit on my couch, and 'recharge' by being in total silence, or playing a video game or looking at tv. No phone or other outside people.
But to answer the question, I don't like extraverted character traits in general because to me they seem fake, or plain annoying - so I'd rather be I anyway. It filters out superficial people.
Do you ever wish you were less introverted, and more extroverted?