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[ISTJ] How old were you when you had your first serious girlfriend/boyfriend?

Fluffywolf

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You partically answered my question i was just about to ask .. Do you generally like lack of commitment and responsibility??? In relationships or other aspects of your life.

I don't like commitment if I don't feel commited out of free will (Because I want to be). So in that regard yes.

But if I want to commit, I have no problems with it whatsoever.


It will be very clear if I want to be commited or don't want to be commited however in a relationship. I don't do the middle way when it comes to relationships. :)
 

illume

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Serious, going steady kinda thing? I was 17 and in my Freshman year of college. Guy was a real Tommy Chong, stoner type. ISFP I think. Very sweet, but no real goals. Of course at that point neither did I!! Total disaster.... The only thing we did was hang out and get high. Amazingly enough I did not flunk out. We broke up shortly thereafter. I think of that whole year as part of "finding myself." Man was I ever lost.....:doh:
 

Jeffster

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Not sure I've ever had a serious one. I think they've all been pretty goofy.
 

Recoleta

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I don't think I've ever had what I would consider a serious relationship. I casually dated a bit through college, but usually I was too busy with school or work to bother with dating.
 

Grungemouse

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First relationship (as in non-serious but in the more innocent "boyfriend-girlfriend" sense: 11

First sexually-active relationship: 16

First serious relationship: 17

17 might be a bit young to call it "serious", but it's definitely the first I've been actually emotionally invested in. Going on to a year, now.
 

ptgatsby

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NTP's seem to have a nonchalant approach to relationships ..

STPs have them beat.

Speaking of which, does sex imply serious? Probably not. Then I probably wasn't serious until I met my wife!
 

kyuuei

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My first relationship was online, I don't know how many people consider those serious or not.. so going by those standards: 15.

My first 'serious' non-online relationship: 19.
 

Eiddy

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First boyfriend when I was 14, my father chased him down the street and I never seen him again.

My first real relationship when I was 17.
 

Habba

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First boyfriend when I was 14, my father chased him down the street and I never seen him again.

I never understood this kind of behavior... :huh:

Well, unless the boyfriend was about your dad's age...
 

runvardh

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19, for as long as that lasted. I tend to always take it seriously...
 

Bamboo

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First serious girlfriend: never.

I'm 20.

Actually a (quasi?) goal of mine is to get into a "serious relationship" but I sense I should be careful what I wish for because I'd just be way over my head.
 

Popsicle

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I was fifteen when I had my first "real" boyfriend, but I'd say my first "serious" relationship was at seventeen.
 
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