[ESFJ] what do you guys think of ESFJ girls?

[Bubbles]

Oh, dear. I might add the ESFJ sibling I mentioned is a preteen, and therefore still in the maturing stage? Plus, we're sisters, haha! Of course we're going to see each other at our ugliest.

ESFJs ARE lovely. They truly are. Great planners, great people-people, and they can bring life to anyone and anything. I think it's their passion that distinguishes them--it can go either in a great direction or a bad one. I do apologize for only mentioning the negatives, that wasn't my intention at all.

 

[BlackCat]

I think I've actually gotten more extroverted as I've grown up. Of course, I am a weirdo.

Well maybe you just get less annoying.

 

[Giggly]

See, I don't do that at all, and one of my biggest pet peeves is when people take out bad moods on everyone else. Drives me up the wall.

Yeah, this is a big pet peeve of mind too, but I have definitely seen some ESFJs take out their bad mood on everyone else.

 

[Eagle]

My mother is ESFJ, father is INTJ. I just don't get what he sees in her. I'm not saying she's a bad person. It's just, they're on such different wavelengths. It must just be the opposites attract thing.

Wow raz. My mom is an ESFJ and my dad is an INTJ (supposedly) too.

 

[lecky]

They are your typical sorority girl...

 

[Giggly]

Wow raz. My mom is an ESFJ and my dad is an INTJ (supposedly) too.

Well, I've never met an INTJ I didn't think was cool so I can see this.

 

[pure_mercury]

Yeah, this is a big pet peeve of mind too, but I have definitely seen some ESFJs take out their bad mood on everyone else.

I am sure. An ESFJ who is self-absorbed (it can happen) is probably a bear to be around.

 

[proteanmix]

I don't deny I've taken out bad moods on other people, but whenever people talk about ESFJs on the forum them being emotional whackjobs or illogical is the defining characteristic of the type. Everyone in my family and my friends have taken out their bad mood on me on at some point in time. There is no range of behaviors that people comment on that ESFJs exhibit; it's the same complaints or even compliments. I don't see any richness or variety in descriptions of behavior. It's very hollow which is probably why ESFJs who have their heads screwed on right don't identify.

 

[Giggly]

I don't deny I've taken out bad moods on other people, but whenever people talk about ESFJs on the forum them being emotional whackjobs or illogical is the defining characteristic of the type. Everyone in my family and my friends have taken out their bad mood on me on at some point in time. There is no range of behaviors that people comment on that ESFJs exhibit; it's the same complaints or even compliments. I don't see any richness or variety in descriptions of behavior. It's very hollow which is probably why ESFJs who have their heads screwed on right don't identify.

Yeah, I agree, and that makes the people who do the bolded the illogical emotional whackjobs. They're projecting!

 

[run]

ESFJs have bad sides that are more tolerable than ESTJ, ISFJ, ESFP. (one letter difference)

I know one who's 20 and she's pretty smart for an sfj (this is coming from an intp), and she's pretty cute too.

Most INTPs like myself dislike SF's of any kind, but this one type is an exception.

 

[pure_mercury]

ESFJs have bad sides that are more tolerable than ESTJ, ISFJ, ESFP. (one letter difference)

I know one who's 20 and she's pretty smart for an sfj (this is coming from an intp), and she's pretty cute too.

Most INTPs like myself dislike SF's of any kind, but this one type is an exception.

Don't say thing like "pretty smart for an ESFJ." It makes you sound like a jerk.

 

[run]

Don't say thing like "pretty smart for an ESFJ." It makes you sound like a jerk.

By smart I meant intuitive, making leaps in conversation and such. Ne is their third function.

 

[Quinlan]

By smart I meant intuitive

Hah!

 

[run]

Hah!

...in the sense of Ne

 

[proteanmix]

...in the sense of Ne

Stop talking now.

 

[Quinlan]

...in the sense of Ne

As Ne is one of your dominant functions, do you find it hard not to associate smart with Ne? I just think it's interesting, I think it can be hard not to define "smart" from their own way of perceiving.

 

[pure_mercury]

As Ne is one of your dominant functions, do you find it hard not to associate smart with Ne? I just think it's interesting, I think it can be hard not to define "smart" from their own way of perceiving.

I can do it.

 

[BlackCat]

...in the sense of Ne

It would be wise if you stopped talking now. Smart = Ne? Sounds like ignorance. I hope you don't really have that attitude.

 

[beyondaurora]

ESFJs have bad sides that are more tolerable than ESTJ, ISFJ, ESFP. (one letter difference)

I know one who's 20 and she's pretty smart for an sfj (this is coming from an intp), and she's pretty cute too.

Most INTPs like myself dislike SF's of any kind, but this one type is an exception.

Here...I'll display your embarrassment for you.



(Okay, now let's stop crucifying the poor fellow -- his judgment is correctable.)

 

[run]

"stop talking now" -- and then judge and correct me. Thanks. Perfect combination. I don't deserve to talk but you obviously do. I'm glad you can save me from going through the trouble of explaining myself.