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[MBTI General] ISTJ-ENFP Relationship Starter (Help!)

d@v3

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Alot of ENFP's don't like chivalry, sadly to say. :(
 

Habba

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I think all girls like chivalry. It's guys who don't like chivalry lol (some, not all)

Well, we guys would like it more, if it would include girls helpings guys. :newwink:

EDIT: Oh... I just recalled a funny fact. Every time I have been chivalric on the first dates, I never saw them another time. And when I treated them the equal, we did see at least a second time. So no chivalry on a first date. :shock:
 

Shadow

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Well, we guys would like it more, if it would include girls helpings guys. :newwink:

EDIT: Oh... I just recalled a funny fact. Every time I have been chivalric on the first dates, I never saw them another time. And when I treated them the equal, we did see at least a second time. So no chivalry on a first date. :shock:

Maybe it's just SJ girls who are impressed by it. :shock: I have to say that one of the reasons my boyfriend really stood out for me was his chivalry and manners, which are rare.
ENFPs really don't like chivalry?? But the ones I know are really nice people, not warrior-feminists at all...
 

d@v3

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Maybe it's just SJ girls who are impressed by it. :shock: I have to say that one of the reasons my boyfriend really stood out for me was his chivalry and manners, which are rare.
ENFPs really don't like chivalry?? But the ones I know are really nice people, not warrior-feminists at all...

I'm thinking I should make a thread on it. For the whole forum to place their thoughts about it. :yes: But yeah, I don't think ENFP's like it. :huh:

Habba is that really true? That sucks then, because I am chivalrous in nature, I just do things without thinking about it. :doh:
 

OregonENFP

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I'm thinking I should make a thread on it. For the whole forum to place their thoughts about it. :yes: But yeah, I don't think ENFP's like it. :huh:

Habba is that really true? That sucks then, because I am chivalrous in nature, I just do things without thinking about it. :doh:

I LOVE it and I swear the biggest heartbreak for me to this day is saying goodbye to my very chivalrous boyfriend who made me feel like the most special woman on earth.
 

Giggly

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haha yeah I was just looking at that! I don't know what to say in it though. I like damzel's, but I don't like girls who just act dumb to get attention. lol

D@ve, do you prefer women who are a challenge? Some people prefer this because it has greater value to them.
 

d@v3

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D@ve, do you prefer women who are a challenge? Some people prefer this because it has greater value to them.

I don't like girls who act "bitchy" and make you do things for them. However, I don't like girls who are "too easy" either.

I like girls who play hard to get, but are nice to you. Like, nice to you even after they have figured out that you want to court them. But at the same time, a girl who is careful in the way she goes about letting you down if she is not interested. :yes:

In other words, typically and SF or NF? I have recently been chasing an ENFP. But, unfortunately, she turned me down and thought my friend to be a better pick?! :shock: Now to me, that's just cold! :(
 

OregonENFP

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I have recently been chasing an ENFP. But, unfortunately, she turned me down and thought my friend to be a better pick?! :shock: Now to me, that's just cold! :(

Are you referring to the girl who this thread is dedicated to?
 

d@v3

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Yeah thanks :)....but I've been told that many a times before lass! Oh well.
 

Giggly

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I have recently been chasing an ENFP. But, unfortunately, she turned me down and thought my friend to be a better pick?! :shock: Now to me, that's just cold! :(

Aww, it sounds like she just wasn't right for you, d@ve. I hope you have moved on?
 

d@v3

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Aww, it sounds like she just wasn't right for you, d@ve. I hope you have moved on?

Yeah, I didn't let myself develop and feelings for her so I was just kind of like... "oh well". haha

I'm chasing something and I don't know what it is. The worst feeling for an ISTJ- uncertainty! :doh:
 

Giggly

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Yeah, I didn't let myself develop and feelings for her so I was just kind of like... "oh well". haha

I'm chasing something and I don't know what it is. The worst feeling for an ISTJ- uncertainty! :doh:

Patience is a virtue.
 

Little Linguist

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Once I dated a guy who was XSTJ, and it was well - interesting...a bizarre combination that was intriguing, yet completely unbelievable. Then we had a huge misunderstanding, and there was a mutual doorslam. OUCH! :shock:
 

d@v3

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Thanks for the encouragement LL! LOL! :doh:

Hmm: patience is a virtue, yes, but being lonely gets old after a "few" years. But I know, complaining is not getting anyone anywhere. lol
 
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