Hi all,
im an INFJ mom and currently having a dilemma on how to raise my 6 yrs old daughter. i know that shes too young for MBTI profiling, but what i need right now is just a guidance on how to raise her and properly understand her. since i feel that we have totally 180 degrees different personalities, and all the arguments and fights everyday is just making my adrenal fatigue getting worst. (i will be very sluggish and has mild to medium muscle pain when im in stress).
long story short this is what i notice:
shes been as stubborn as ever since shes a toddler.
very persistence on what she wants. tantrum, rolling on the floor, stomping since 1 yrs old. (and no, we're not spoiling her).
by the time shes able to crawl, she would explore everything, touch everything, and shes a very curious girl. (the thing that she hate was being put inside the crib).
after shes able to walk, she will walk everywhere and shes not afraid of strangers.
she doesn't really like being kiss or cuddle. sometimes she will ask for a hug but only for short time, and after that she will leave and continue with her activities. (not the clingy type).
shes not easily cry. usually anger that will make her cry. or afraid being rejected by her friends (friend is number one for her).
she didnt cried when she went to school for the first time. even though other kids cried. she would just stare at them. and she would later on brag to me about not crying.
she really loves compliments and always ask for one. even sometimes takes other peoples credit just for the sake of compliment. (even though i always give her compliments but it seems never enough).
she hates sleeping time. for her sleeping time is like a punishment because she cant play. and she would fight hard for it. (arguments) she seldom take a nap ever since shes little.
she hates personal hygiene routines, like bath, brushing teeth, and hates being combed.
she know what she wants and will insist on her decision (clothing, etc), she likes sparkly things and being different (in fashion sense)
very argumentative, i mean whatever you told her she would just ask why, and keep on resisting and giving arguments. on everything.
ive tried so many things like time out, time in, even slap her hand (when im on my wits end and i regret it), confiscate toys, no tvs and shes still doing what she wants.
she has no sensitivity to others, i mean you have to tell her about being nice and helpful and stuff (im someone who even absorb other peoples energy, so i find it hard to understand her insensitivity).
she doesnt like school for the responsibility part. but shes like to meet her friends, and play. homework time is a torture for her n me.
she loves to play first and do the homework later (procrastinate).
she wouldnt care getting low grades in school. but actually shes quite smart.
she wouldnt mind messy, and she wouldnt care about dirty places either.
she cannot play alone (love interaction). she will pestering me around to play all day, and usually make me super tired physically and emotionally.
she loves art, drawing, dancing. but easily bored.
she loves to collect stuff, paper, card, sea shells,and quickly lose the items.
she loves to dismember barbies, or drawing on barbies and ponies. (every toy that she touch will be ruin in a matter of days, sometimes hours)
she doesnt like routine and doesnt care about it even though i taught her since shes little (im a very routine person).
she doesnt care if shes late to school, or being scold by her teacher. i mean if shes being scolded, she seems to care only for around 10 mins, and forget about it.
shes introvert when shes in school, quiet, reserve, and need other people to start the interaction first, but at home shes super loud and bouncy.
shes very competitive up to the point that she would cheat in playing. but once she know that she would lose, she would scrap the idea altogether and bounce to other activities.
i think thats all that i can remember for now. sorry for this rambling and long post. i just feel on my wits end since its really hard for me to understand her with our personalities differences.
any positive comments would be appreciated.
im an INFJ mom and currently having a dilemma on how to raise my 6 yrs old daughter. i know that shes too young for MBTI profiling, but what i need right now is just a guidance on how to raise her and properly understand her. since i feel that we have totally 180 degrees different personalities, and all the arguments and fights everyday is just making my adrenal fatigue getting worst. (i will be very sluggish and has mild to medium muscle pain when im in stress).
long story short this is what i notice:
shes been as stubborn as ever since shes a toddler.
very persistence on what she wants. tantrum, rolling on the floor, stomping since 1 yrs old. (and no, we're not spoiling her).
by the time shes able to crawl, she would explore everything, touch everything, and shes a very curious girl. (the thing that she hate was being put inside the crib).
after shes able to walk, she will walk everywhere and shes not afraid of strangers.
she doesn't really like being kiss or cuddle. sometimes she will ask for a hug but only for short time, and after that she will leave and continue with her activities. (not the clingy type).
shes not easily cry. usually anger that will make her cry. or afraid being rejected by her friends (friend is number one for her).
she didnt cried when she went to school for the first time. even though other kids cried. she would just stare at them. and she would later on brag to me about not crying.
she really loves compliments and always ask for one. even sometimes takes other peoples credit just for the sake of compliment. (even though i always give her compliments but it seems never enough).
she hates sleeping time. for her sleeping time is like a punishment because she cant play. and she would fight hard for it. (arguments) she seldom take a nap ever since shes little.
she hates personal hygiene routines, like bath, brushing teeth, and hates being combed.
she know what she wants and will insist on her decision (clothing, etc), she likes sparkly things and being different (in fashion sense)
very argumentative, i mean whatever you told her she would just ask why, and keep on resisting and giving arguments. on everything.
ive tried so many things like time out, time in, even slap her hand (when im on my wits end and i regret it), confiscate toys, no tvs and shes still doing what she wants.
she has no sensitivity to others, i mean you have to tell her about being nice and helpful and stuff (im someone who even absorb other peoples energy, so i find it hard to understand her insensitivity).
she doesnt like school for the responsibility part. but shes like to meet her friends, and play. homework time is a torture for her n me.
she loves to play first and do the homework later (procrastinate).
she wouldnt care getting low grades in school. but actually shes quite smart.
she wouldnt mind messy, and she wouldnt care about dirty places either.
she cannot play alone (love interaction). she will pestering me around to play all day, and usually make me super tired physically and emotionally.
she loves art, drawing, dancing. but easily bored.
she loves to collect stuff, paper, card, sea shells,and quickly lose the items.
she loves to dismember barbies, or drawing on barbies and ponies. (every toy that she touch will be ruin in a matter of days, sometimes hours)
she doesnt like routine and doesnt care about it even though i taught her since shes little (im a very routine person).
she doesnt care if shes late to school, or being scold by her teacher. i mean if shes being scolded, she seems to care only for around 10 mins, and forget about it.
shes introvert when shes in school, quiet, reserve, and need other people to start the interaction first, but at home shes super loud and bouncy.
shes very competitive up to the point that she would cheat in playing. but once she know that she would lose, she would scrap the idea altogether and bounce to other activities.
i think thats all that i can remember for now. sorry for this rambling and long post. i just feel on my wits end since its really hard for me to understand her with our personalities differences.
any positive comments would be appreciated.