BatmanFanatic
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Hi everybody. I used to date this girl who seemed to be an ESFJ, but I need some more opinions, because I'm not sure if this behavior is ESFJ behavior, or due to some disorder.
* She had a very positive attitude. That's not indicative of a disorder, but the extent she took it to makes me believe something might not have been completely right. Whenever people were in a bad mood, she would get on their case for being "grumpy", shaming them for their attitude, instead of understanding why they felt that way. If a person was anxious, she also would not understand why they felt that way. She's very religious, so instead of trying to help the person understand why they are feeling that way, she'd attribute the anxiety, grumpiness or other irritable mood to "the devil".
* She was not particularly easy to have a discussion with. She held very strong opinions and if the other person seemed to disagree even slightly, she would start yelling at them and saying stuff like: "THAT'S IMMORAL!" or "THAT'S A SIGN OF CORRUPTION!". Again, I attribute this to her religious views. If someone she was close with disagreed even slightly, she'd force them to agree entirely, as she believed it was the "moral" thing to do.
* She wasn't particularly prone to critical thought. For example, whenever I watch movies/tv shows or play certain video games, I have a million ways in my head that I feel they could have been better, critiquing them heavily. She however, would accept things for how they are to extreme degrees. If she was a fan of a TV show, even if an episode of it genuinely wasn't good, she'd say something like: "I like everything for how it is!
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* She accepted extremely minute details without questioning them, whereas I frequently would ask: "WHY is this in place? HOW does this make sense? HOW will our lives be negatively affected by not following this minute detail?"
* Whenever she was upset, I would try to comfort her by giving her advice on how to fix the problem. I gave her advice, as I believed that by giving her ways to solve the problem as soon as possible, she would feel much better. Instead, she wanted me to simply comfort her.
* She told me that when she was younger, she would obey her parents completely, no matter what. For example, if something happened that wasn't her fault and she was grounded for x-amount of time, while she didn't agree with what was done, she'd obey her parents' orders no matter how absurd they were. I told her that when I was a teen, if my parents gave me an order that I felt made no sense, I'd defy it for sure. I told her that I believed that you shouldn't follow orders just because they were given out, and instead only follow them if they make sense.
Those are some particularly notable behaviors I thought were worth pointing out. Try figuring out her type with that information. If you can't, I'll add some more details.
* She had a very positive attitude. That's not indicative of a disorder, but the extent she took it to makes me believe something might not have been completely right. Whenever people were in a bad mood, she would get on their case for being "grumpy", shaming them for their attitude, instead of understanding why they felt that way. If a person was anxious, she also would not understand why they felt that way. She's very religious, so instead of trying to help the person understand why they are feeling that way, she'd attribute the anxiety, grumpiness or other irritable mood to "the devil".
* She was not particularly easy to have a discussion with. She held very strong opinions and if the other person seemed to disagree even slightly, she would start yelling at them and saying stuff like: "THAT'S IMMORAL!" or "THAT'S A SIGN OF CORRUPTION!". Again, I attribute this to her religious views. If someone she was close with disagreed even slightly, she'd force them to agree entirely, as she believed it was the "moral" thing to do.
* She wasn't particularly prone to critical thought. For example, whenever I watch movies/tv shows or play certain video games, I have a million ways in my head that I feel they could have been better, critiquing them heavily. She however, would accept things for how they are to extreme degrees. If she was a fan of a TV show, even if an episode of it genuinely wasn't good, she'd say something like: "I like everything for how it is!
"* She accepted extremely minute details without questioning them, whereas I frequently would ask: "WHY is this in place? HOW does this make sense? HOW will our lives be negatively affected by not following this minute detail?"
* Whenever she was upset, I would try to comfort her by giving her advice on how to fix the problem. I gave her advice, as I believed that by giving her ways to solve the problem as soon as possible, she would feel much better. Instead, she wanted me to simply comfort her.
* She told me that when she was younger, she would obey her parents completely, no matter what. For example, if something happened that wasn't her fault and she was grounded for x-amount of time, while she didn't agree with what was done, she'd obey her parents' orders no matter how absurd they were. I told her that when I was a teen, if my parents gave me an order that I felt made no sense, I'd defy it for sure. I told her that I believed that you shouldn't follow orders just because they were given out, and instead only follow them if they make sense.
Those are some particularly notable behaviors I thought were worth pointing out. Try figuring out her type with that information. If you can't, I'll add some more details.
