anyone whose mental models are very different than those around them feels a bit disconnected. it's difficult to connect and share perspective when you can't establish context (mental common ground) with others. learning how to trust the process you are going through, listening to not only what other people see but getting a sense of how they make the lenses through which they see, makes communication more fluid and open, more ready for real connection and rapport.
there's the old line from a self help book (seven habits): "seek first to understand, then to be understood." this is easier said then done, because it's difficult to be steady and open enough when our own needs aren't being met. when they are, when we feel like we can see and feel ourselves clearly, it's a lot easier to be constructive and appreciate what others have to show us. then, exploring some of the differences, especially around how we contextualize/model what is going on in a way that seems proportional and balanced for how we are ebbing and flowing between our own constructs and the shared reality of the world around us, gets more interesting and positive (even if it still can feel a little scary sometimes, when we don't understand where the disconnects are, and when what we think is important is especially hard to articulate and ask others to see too).
Stop looking at types, and look at people. I'm sure there is a place where you fit in when it comes to society. And I'm not talking about online groups...I mean in real life.
