Okay. I read about the traits of a submissive women, and the traits of an ISFJ. I see a lot of common traits between the two.
21lux, how many of he below traits you think pertain to you (I know its worded weird, got it from a semi-credible site just try to answer best you can):
She is very sensitive to my moods, body language, and tone of voice. She is
very sensitive to criticism.
She has a
child-like presence.
(<--Only around people who I am relaxed and comfortable around. I subconsciously give a more high strung vibe in public due to the strong I.)
She is eager to please me and eager to follow my suggestions.
She is sexually aroused/fascinated by my dominant presence.
She turns to me as an authority/advisor when she has personal questions.
She says something’s been missing in all her previous relationships.
She finds herself becoming
anxious coping with everyday life on her own.
(Although this is most likely due to being a 20-something on the road to graduation and general anxiety about the transition from school to adulthood/work life.)
She says she feels as if she’s
putting on a mask or role as an adult, an employee, a boss, a parent.
(I don't consider myself inauthentic, but yes, I do act different around different audiences.)
She’s a nurturer, often being a
customer service agent, a nurse, a caregiver of some kind.
(This is a job I have done. The job itself was fine. The management sucked. I will most likely end up working in HR in the future.)
She takes on guilt that doesn’t belong to her; she tries to fix everyone’s problems.
She feels that often people are able to take advantage of her giving nature.
She admits to having
put up powerful emotional barriers because people can hurt her so easily.
(I am easy to get along with and difficult to truly get to know because of this.)
She finds it generally hard to trust people, but paradoxically wants very badly to trust me. Conversely, she may be much
too trusting in a child-like way and keeps getting hurt.
(Exactly why I had to put up the emotional barriers in the first place.)
She has always felt oddly out of place and “different†from others. She may even feel there is something wrong with her.
From a young age she has found pleasure in serving others; being a good hostess, doing as she’s told, remembering everyone’s birthdays, being everyone’s shoulder to cry on and everyone’s helpmate.
She finds it difficult to resist authority or aggressive behavior; she may have been picked on by bullies all her life.
Source:
https://thesubmissionofelle.wordpress.com/2013/04/24/personality-traits-of-a-profound-submissive/
