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[MBTI General] What do INTPs think of INFPs

Totenkindly

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I think the general INTP reaction varies based on their tolerance of Fi.

I think INFPs are very sweet, very considerate, very passionate, and they inspire me to care about others and see the best in people. Sometimes they can even be very encouraging to me personally, even if they can't find answers to my questions.

My frustrations mostly revolve around the (1) making arbitrary values into "truth" [I usually like their values but still see them as arbitrary rather than "truth" sometimes, so their reasoning does not benefit me in my search for truth] and (2) not being "hard" enough in a conversation, always pulling back or being afraid of offending someone, which waters down their valuable insights and makes them less effectual.

And most of them are so "nice" they sometimes make me feel positively beastly. Grrrrr.....
 

Rajah

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I like the I, N, and P bits...
 

Rajah

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What about their naughty bits?
Yeah, I knew that was coming. And somehow, I suspected it would come from you.





For the record, the INFP guy I dated? Didn't mind em at all. ;)
 

Varelse

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I enjoy the company of the INFP that I know. Nice to have another introvert around, for one. She's kind, a bit more social than I am, and makes beautiful clothing.

Also, she tends to get fed up with typical adolescent behavior.
 

INTPatricia

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Their disorganization makes me crazy...because I need someone to help me with mine...not compound it. The infp ACCEPTS their (and my) lack of organization...at least I fight it.

Also, I find the infp kind of judgemental...kind of offended at other types for being who they are...like we are all supposed to evolve into infp's...lol...they are also proud of their lack of materialism...hmmm...could be a lack of motivation, competence, focus, and ability to earn...if viewed another way.

Well...you asked...
 

Blank

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You can also kind of say that the inverse is true for INTPs, couldn't you, Patricia? =D
 

nocebo

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INFPs are usually pretty laid back, unless their core values are being attacked.

I've only known two in real life, but neither of them acted judgmental at all. They have high expectations for people, but these are usually well-placed in values like honesty and sensitivity to their needs. Aside from these general expectations, the INFPs I've known are very good at relating to other people.

They sometimes put excess emotional padding onto their critiques and arguments, but if you mention how important it is for them to stop, they usually try to.

How well I personally get along with INFPs depends on my mood and the amount of energy I have. They're very comforting and understanding people, but being sensitive to their emotions in return often drains me. Of course, this is a fault on my part, and I think that interacting with INFPs helps me to further my awareness on such matters, as draining as it may be. :]
 

Orangey

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They sometimes put excess emotional padding onto their critiques and arguments, but if you mention how important it is for them to stop, they usually try to.

Sort of like, "you're very smart and I love the way you phrased your argument, but I think that maybe there might be something off with the such and such...?" Is it like that? I don't know any INFPs very well, though I suspect that I might have run into a few (but never confirmed my typing).
 

INTPness

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Sort of like, "you're very smart and I love the way you phrased your argument, but I think that maybe there might be something off with the such and such...?"

From my experience, it's more like..............

"I don't want to hurt you"...............should really mean "I'm going to do what I want to do whether you like it or not, and you can either accept me for that or not.

"I usually don't do that" or "I've never been one to do that" = Don't ask again because I'm not going to do that.

"Emotional padding" is a good phrase in my opinion. Things that they disagree with or don't like are often presented in a very politically correct or non-offensive way. You learn, in time, that when they give a hint that they don't like something or if they seem a little bit uncomfortable with something, you should assume that they are very against it. They are very non-confrontational. They want to tell you what they want/need/think in a very polite way and they expect you to get it.

This is simply an example, but if an INFP said, "You never take out the trash." That should be understood as, "I really think you should begin to take out the trash on a regular basis. In fact, I think it should be your job from now on." Because, in this example, if you started getting in the habit of taking out the trash and then stopped again, they may get a little more upset. And when you say, "Gosh, you never expressed how important it was to you. Why are you so upset?", then they might respond with, "What do you mean...I brought it up to you once before. I did tell you." When, in fact, they just made a simple statement that you didn't take very seriously because it may have seemed that it was just said "in passing" or in a very "light" way.

What's strange to me about INFP's is they are wonderful, classy, curious (I'll even say AMAZING people), but they are going to hold to their values no matter what you think or what your reasoning is. I used to argue with my INFP ex about a certain situation that was hurting her over and over - a recurring problem in her life. She saw the logic in my argument, but her loyalty/values made her go against that logic and while she was very sweet, classy, and polite in explaining her actions, she WAS NOT going to be told what to do.

Basically, with a sweet charming smile she'd say, "Yeah, I see your reasoning. It totally seems right in my mind, but my heart just tells me otherwise. And it stresses me out to talk about it." -------> I learned that this meant, "I'm going to do whatever I choose to do. I thank you for your input, I value your opinion, now get off my back."

If they HINT at something, they mean it (IME). But, to them, it wasn't hinting. They explained it fully.
 

INTPness

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Another example:

INTP: Hey, wanna go eat at Joe's Burgers?

INFP: Ummm...or we could go to Pete's Tacos!

This is an INFP's idea of speaking up for themselves. What this really means is, "I DO NOT want to eat at Joe's Burgers". If they wanted to eat at Joe's Burgers, they would have said, "Yeah, that sounds great."
 

The Decline

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I love most every thing about them- I get along with NFPs very well, especially INFPs- probably because they relate to me. However, I despise the lack of a decisive nature that seems to occur with me and INFPs.
 

groovejet02

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What I like about INFPs:

Passionate
Deep sense of values
Not domineering
Good listeners

What I hate about INFPs

Too damned calm
Self-absorbed
Indecisive
Afraid to argue
Poor Ti which results in imprecise written communication
Lack of logic in their beliefs
Selective -- they only hear and acknowledge what they want to hear i.e. things that fit into their value system.
In denial

Disclaimer: They're still my favorite type though, by a mile :D
 

Fluffywolf

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As a generalisation I find INFJ's more interesting than INFP's. But I like both more interesting than any other type.
 

Gewitter27

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INFPs are like teddy bears, in that it is very hard to bring yourself not to like them. That is driven by the I influence on the NF temperment, as well as the P, which sets them apart greatly from their cousinsm, ENFPs, who overwhelm you with gushiness (Sorry to say.) So, INFPs are very nice to be around in my opinion.
 

Grungemouse

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Is it just me, or are they surprisingly hierarchical when congregating in "online communities"?

There's a high population of them in a forum I go on, and they're surprisingly domineering when addressing newbies. When the poor newb posts an introduction, they bombard it with "Read the FAQ, don't forget to sign yourself up with a mentor in the buddy exchange."

Also, a lot of them are self-proclaimed "grammar nazis". This tempts me to intentionally abuse my punctuation!!!!!

This place seems much more low-key, whilst over there it's liek whoah. For instance, the identical "ISFP/INTP relationships" thread would have been locked with a moderator saying "A thread like this has already been made."

And then the member would be reprimanded for reviving a "dead thread". WTF. INFPs seem to go Te-crazy online, when they socialise in herds of their own kind.
 
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