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[NT] guys who are testing intellectually potential mates to get to know them

Cality

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Hi, I am wondering what type is the most drawn to test intellectually potential mates. I met 2 guys (1 past date, 1 potential date) with who the first conversations where completly intellectual about sharing opinions with deep argumentation in long long long mails. They are drawn to complete, deep argumentations and admire people able to keep on agrumentating with them. I feel some NTJness.
They are more sensitive to the ideas than the way to express them.
 

01011010

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All potential dating should be done in that manner. It's best to be sure of compatibility before even considering emotional involvement and obligation of time or resources.
 

Uytuun

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All potential dating should be done in that manner. It's best to be sure of compatibility before even considering emotional involvement and obligation of time or resources.

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*knock knock* Anyone in there?
 
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ThatGirl

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I once told a man to run his own background check and submit it to me along with his mbti type code before our first date... true story

Why not throw in an IQ and a blood sample?
 

Mozzes

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I make all potential mates read Atlas Shrugged. If they can't trudge through it they obviously haven't got the commitment-potential to the life of misery I represent.
 

Orangey

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I make all potential mates read Atlas Shrugged. If they can't trudge through it they obviously haven't got the commitment-potential to the life of misery I represent.

Oh dear...if someone made me read that (even though I've read it once, so basically read it again) I think I'd end up on the evening news like that guy who chopped his wife up and dropped her pieces off at a local park. I guess you could say the relationship wouldn't really work out.
 

Homini Lupus

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I can feel some attraction for women intellectually challenging, but I see compatibility as much more important. After all, I can be the "mind" in a relation, and I can already find challenging minds among my friends. Also, a woman who tries to show herself to potential mates as totally serious is enogh to make me go somewhere else. If you are such a thinker, you can show it in other ways.
 

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Yes, if they test as intellectual, they likely go in the 'no' pile. ;)
 

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The Jeffster has a No pile?? Nuh uh!! :D
 

Maabus1999

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Yes, if they test as intellectual, they likely go in the 'no' pile. ;)

Pffftt...SP's


On a return note, I don't think I would test anyone at the start, but for long term, having some sort of understanding I believe is very important. In short: I like N's.
 

Jeffster

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The Jeffster has a No pile?? Nuh uh!! :D

Alright, so it's less of a pile and more of a chute. Where they drop into the alligator pit and have to earn their way back by surviving. :cool:
 

proteanmix

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I was talking to my friends who just got her PhD in biomedical engineering (this is going somewhere, I swear) and she was talking about potential partners in that scene. She said she wouldn't want to be with anyone that she went to school with because when she tried to get more personal with them all they could do is talking about their work and projects and were resistant to talking about anything outside of that. It was a very interesting conversation. She's getting her post-doc now and she says it's the same problem, the people are completely obsessed with their work and while you they're are quite "intellectual" and "academic" it's not much more to them than that. Seems like a one trick pony to me. BTW, she's an eNTJ.

If you don't mind getting into those types of conversations then continue. I also tend to look at it the other way as well, people like that tend to also be pedantic and only accepting of their form of intelligence. It's great you can speak their language but can they speak yours?
 

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I was talking to my friends who just got her PhD in biomedical engineering (this is going somewhere, I swear) and she was talking about potential partners in that scene. She said she wouldn't want to be with anyone that she went to school with because when she tried to get more personal with them all they could do is talking about their work and projects and were resistant to talking about anything outside of that. It was a very interesting conversation. She's getting her post-doc now and she says it's the same problem, the people are completely obsessed with their work and while you they're are quite "intellectual" and "academic" it's not much more to them than that. Seems like a one trick pony to me. BTW, she's an eNTJ.

If you don't mind getting into those types of conversations then continue. I also tend to look at it the other way as well, people like that tend to also be pedantic and only accepting of their form of intelligence. It's great you can speak their language but can they speak yours?

Really, I don't think it's so much an obsession with their work as much as it is an intellectual's habit to be serious when they are in a work environment so they can focus on the tasks at hand. While others like to play at work, I like to remain focus because I really cant do as well without being focused, especially if its in an advanced field like biomedical engineering. Outside of work is a very dif story though, where I'm free to be much more relaxed. Though you might have to push a little for me to communicate with you differently than I usually would as a coworker, when outside of work. But believe me, there is more to every person than their "obsession" with their jobs/careers.
 

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I make all potential mates read Atlas Shrugged. If they can't trudge through it they obviously haven't got the commitment-potential to the life of misery I represent.

Oh dear...if someone made me read that (even though I've read it once, so basically read it again) I think I'd end up on the evening news like that guy who chopped his wife up and dropped her pieces off at a local park. I guess you could say the relationship wouldn't really work out.

Judging from what you're wanting and Orangey's reaction I'm not sure I'd want to be "commitment-potential"...
 

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I dunno.. if Mozzes considers reading Atlas Shrugged to be misery, I think we might have a future.
 

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Finnegan's Wake is much worse. We're all lucky James Joyce is dead and can no longer trouble us with his epic phonetical blasphemies.
 

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Finnegan's Wake is much worse. We're all lucky James Joyce is dead and can no longer trouble us with his epic phonetical blasphemies.
Great. I was just going to start on A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man!
 

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Great. I was just going to start on A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man!

NEIN!! You will read "Anna Karenina" and weep like a little child!!
 

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Long long mails as in they would send you their opinion already completed and then await your response?

I don't think I've ever done that, but I do open up with some heavy topics as early as possible to gauge their responses and capabilities.
 
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