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[MBTI General] F mystery debunked

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SolitaryWalker

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I understand this. The problem with it is that if one prefers, say, thinking over feeling, he/she will naturally suppress feeling and take thinking closer to its isolated state (or will at least be strongly inclined to do so). This, according to you, can have no positive effects. But if it has no positive effects, then how can a thinking type have any strengths? How can any type for that matter?

I did not say this has no positive effects. Very often when we over-rely on our dominant function we are still able to interact with our inferior function enough to stay balanced. Only in cases of extreme neurosis over-reliance on the dominant function becomes crippling.
 

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If you're arguing with bluewing, it would be more effective to point out logical fallacies, bad assumptions, etc. he makes, rather than just stating the "one function is no better than another" line. Many of the return arguments based on this line are quite poor in themselves and also poorly written.

Also, you'll be getting yourself argued in circles. If you are, either stop arguing, or find the logical inconsistencies and fallacies in the circular arguments.
 

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If you're arguing with bluewing, it would be more effective to point out logical fallacies, bad assumptions, etc. he makes, rather than just stating the "one function is no better than another" line. Many of the return arguments based on this line are quite poor in themselves and also poorly written.

Also, you'll be getting yourself argued in circles. If you are, either stop arguing, or find the logical inconsistencies and fallacies in the circular arguments.

I want you to point out one logical fallacy.
 

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I did not say this has no positive effects. Very often when we over-rely on our dominant function we are still able to interact with our inferior function enough to stay balanced. Only in cases of extreme neurosis over-reliance on the dominant function becomes crippling.

This makes sense then. So would I be correct in saying that your original post was meant as a criticism of neurotic feeling?

Some claim that Feeling is a rational function, that it sticks to values and the Feeler does what he believes in. That is not true at all, as too often we hear them say 'but I don't feel like it' or 'I am not in the mood' or just simply 'doesn't feel right'. If he were acting out on principles he would say, this is what I believe in, this is a matter of fact, completely objective, and this is what I shall do. Doing this requires a tough-minded attitude with and aptitude for objective reality which manifestly requires a Thinking faculty. Feeling does not have any firm principles as it is this profoundly infused in the flavor of amorphous emotions which are simply moosh.

Does this mean that we can blame dogmatism on the thinking function?
 

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Originally Posted by BlueWing
I am okay with whatever values they have (which often is compassion and the great fruit this yields) as long as they are able to state this clearly and stay consistent.


I think, if you believe that feelings/values can actually be consistent, let alone put into words in a satisfactory manner, then you are a long, loooong way off debunking the F mystery.

Emotions may not be consistent we're all human and cannot control the fleeting moods and fancies that flutter through our minds. However, we can control that which we dwell on or nuture into something larger. We may not be able to control emotion that flows within us, but we certainly can control the words that fly from our lips or our own actions.

We don't have to be slaves to emotion in order to continue to enjoy deep feeling. I took BW's post to be complaining about a lack of control over how emotion affects people's actions and judgments. When we decide which emotions to focus on, we can make our own Feeling experience richer for doing so and cut the white noise of unfocused emotion that scatters us and leads us into areas where we are not fuctioning at our best and doing the best for the values and beliefs we hold and/or loving and caring for those most important to us.


It seems that Feeling as far as judgment function should be stable. This what irks me so strongly in people who say "I no longer judge" it is like, what do you do then? Just float from one impulse and wildly flucuating emotion to another? I have been around people who DO live like this too much in my early life and I don't care for it at all.


Values should not be changing without compelling cause that can be explained clearly. I do agree that a Feeler who cannot explain how they came to a certain value judgement is lacking in backbone. This is what I disagreed so strongly with Kiddo about his scorn for Fi "moral core" that he felt was too rigid to suit the various moral moods of the moment. (Hi Kiddo! :hi:)

Gosh, the very idea that values cannot be consistant just sets my teeth on edge, reminds me of some of the people I know in offline life who live so impulsively. I see them as dangerous people. We should be able to come to know the people around us and be able to trust in their sound judgment from one day to the next without major swings in values with no sound explaination for the change. I cannot tolerate people like this.
 

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Emotions may not be consistent we're all human and cannot control the fleeting moods and fancies that flutter through our minds. However, we can control that which we dwell on or nuture into something larger. We may not be able to control emotion that flows within us, but we certainly can control the words that fly from our lips or our own actions.

We don't have to be slaves to emotion in order to continue to enjoy deep feeling. I took BW's post to be complaining about a lack of control over how emotion affects people's actions and judgments. When we decide which emotions to focus on, we can make our own Feeling experience richer for doing so and cut the white noise of unfocused emotion that scatters us and leads us into areas where we are not fuctioning at our best and doing the best for the values and beliefs we hold and/or loving and caring for those most important to us.


It seems that Feeling as far as judgment function should be stable. This what irks me so strongly in people who say "I no longer judge" it is like, what do you do then? Just float from one impulse and wildly flucuating emotion to another? I have been around people who DO live like this too much in my early life and I don't care for it at all.


Values should not be changing without compelling cause that can be explained clearly. I do agree that a Feeler who cannot explain how they came to a certain value judgement is lacking in backbone. This is what I disagreed so strongly with Kiddo about his scorn for Fi "moral core" that he felt was too rigid to suit the various moral moods of the moment. (Hi Kiddo! :hi:)

Gosh, the very idea that values cannot be consistant just sets my teeth on edge, reminds me of some of the people I know in offline life who live so impulsively. I see them as dangerous people. We should be able to come to know the people around us and be able to trust in their sound judgment from one day to the next without major swings in values with no sound explaination for the change. I cannot tolerate people like this.

My ESFJ friend is pretty awesome for her consistency when it comes to sticking with her values. Like she believes that everyone deserves a second chance and she forgave her ex boyfriend who she found out had only dated her so he could get in her pants. She knew that and still forgave him. I was at her house one day and they were IMing back and forth I was like "What are you talking to him for?" And she told me she forgave him and I remember being stunned. Totally stunned. And then I was like "Man, ok maybe I need to learn to be forgiving like that too." Talk about major consistency. Dude only wanted to use her for her body and she STILL forgave him. Oh and just to be clear she forgave him but didn't get back together with him of course.

Just an anecdote.

And yeah consistency is pretty awesome.
 

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Is bluewing always mad at the F's or is it just in this thread?
 

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I want you to point out one logical fallacy.

Sorry fellow INTP but i've gotta take the offer.

Some claim that Feeling is a rational function, that it sticks to values and the Feeler does what he believes in. That is not true at all, as too often we hear them say 'but I don't feel like it' or 'I am not in the mood' or just simply 'doesn't feel right'. If he were acting out on principles he would say, this is what I believe in, this is a matter of fact, completely objective, and this is what I shall do. Doing this requires a tough-minded attitude with and aptitude for objective reality which manifestly requires a Thinking faculty. Feeling does not have any firm principles as it is this profoundly infused in the flavor of amorphous emotions which are simply moosh.

Hasty generalization. Your describing an unbalanced F in a bad mood. Strawman fallacy as well, which makes sense because if you're attacking an entire group (F's) your view is going to be distorted (you can't accurately describe an entire group of people, especially just when its the F part of Mbti when Fs will be very different depending on other Mbti features.)

Very often their goal is to be liked by others, and when relating to others they utter total non-sense and play the hurt feelings card when Thinkers do not reciprocate. Of course, we ought to know that what they say has nothing to do with making sense or matters of fact, its all about how others will react to them and what feelings it will evoke. Words are simply extensions of gestures like smileys, nods, head-shaking, laughter and so on. When they express what seems to be an objective opinion, especially about people, this has nothing to do with objective reality, it is inevitably an expression of their feelings.


Well you've got alot of hasty generalizations everywhere so i'm not going to mention it again.. Strawman too, won't mention it again but they'll both probably be below.


YouTube - Bin Laden Speaks - its all jibbersih to me

Weak Analogy fallacy with the intent of damaging the opposition (partial Ad Homineum because you're referencing Osama bin Laden when talking about Feelers).

It is incredibly frustrating how self-assured they may be and how on a heat of passion they may assert their opinions with great vehemence hardly paying attention to the fact that what they say has very little, if any basis in objective reality. That would be fine as long as they acknowledged their claim as an expression of sentiment, but they pass it off as fact. This is what 'your feelings are valid' cant is about. We are supposed to budge into the unreasonable expectations they impose upon us as if what they said was a matter of fact, matter to be taken seriously. They hardly see a problem with changing their mind or maintaining the exact opposite of what they claimed earlier, as once more their claims are but expressions of sentiment, they bare no rational judgment, and their feelings may change like weather. As after all where could they get a backbone if not from solid, dispassionate judgment. A kind of judgment that treats ideas as true or false, matters of fact and not matters of mood-what we tend to associate with the Thinking function. This they sorely lack.


Once again the 2 mentioned before. You're obviously describing a Specific person with the characteristic "F" that you're upset with, however you continue flagrantly throwing the word "they" around.

They pride themselves on sensitivity to other people, fear offending others, but strikingly fail to realize that many people (like me) are deeply offended when they do not take their thoughts seriously. (When a T shares a well thought out perspective or a solution to a problem, they just go on about their personal experiences on the matter or how they still feel the same way, in effect not having presented any evidence of reflection upon the claims they are responding to.)Thoughts that other people have devoted much effort to. Fail to honor the personal values of some people concerning consistency and clarity, simply do not understand that for some of us it is important for situations to make sense. Fail to honor the value of truth, as because some of us need for the situation to make sense it is more important to call it like it is as opposed to wallowing in heart-warming fantasy. As well as they fail to communicate clearly (again the value of the need to make sense) because they're too caught up in making it sound 'nice'.

The usual fallacies ^. The Strawman that you're lighting on fire is just enormous, apparently F's are just Mindless zombies wandering around the streets letting their feelings go wild, destroying logic, contributing nothing.

Fs...please dont respond...I dont want to know if its a sad day..I dont want to know if your other INTP friend appreciates F..I dont want to know about how it will feel good if I do X...I just want a simple, impersonal reply to the above statements.

Silencing the opposition, not a fallacy, but its not very respectful.



Also..

Jennifer, I have doubts that you are a T. I ask that you refrain from posting in this thread again. I did not say that Fs have no value, only that I have a problem with them.

No True Scotsman fallacy



Oh yea, and did a whole lot of Poisoning the Well. And I think that you're description of "F"s could pass for Misleading Vividness fallacy as well (you're describing an F that is an extreme occurance and then expect us to think that all "F"s we will meet or have met are the same way. Misleading vividness is another form of hasty generalization so bleh.)


You could have made this thread ALOT more constructive very easily. You could have described the specific F or Fs that you are having problems with (maybe even their specific types), described why you have the problems with them (not in heated rant fashion), and then asked everyone here (not just T's) what we think about it and if there is a possible solution or understanding to be formed.
 

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Will someone please put this F mystery to sleep and let a dead dog rest... god... there is nothing left but the pelt and if you keep beating, that will turn to dust too.
 

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Will someone please put this F mystery to sleep and let a dead dog rest... god... there is nothing left but the pelt and if you keep beating, that will turn to dust too.

Why so eager to close down discussion on a topic that is clearly still of interest to those posting? :huh:
 

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lol, it got pretty irrational as of late and people kept repeating the same thing, but if you guys are enjoying it, I humbly apologize for my beligerent manner.

do carry on.

EDIT: You are right, I should just quit reading if I am no longer enjoying it, what a simple solution.
 

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It's been fairly irrational and repetitive from the beginning, so if that were a good reason to shut it down then it should have been done then. But no need to apologize...just thought I'd respond since yours is not the first comment of its kind on this thread.
 

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Did I mess up on my post with the logical fallacies or is it solid?

Lol, I will check it out Didums, but I think I stopped reading somewhere after the fifth comment of... boo hoo, you guys are just repeating the same thing... etc...

No worries Orangey, and good call.
 

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Did I mess up on my post with the logical fallacies or is it solid?

I'd say it's pretty solid. The only thing is that Bluewing came back in later posts and made his claims more moderate. If we're working just on the OP then you're spot on.

I'd also add that there's a lot of proof by assertion going on with his definitions. A weaker contradiction call might also be made on his use of Bin Laden, a known dogmatist, as an example of "F" style behavior after he just got done berating F's about their emotional flightiness and lack of true conviction.

No worries Orangey, and good call.

:)
 

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Spot on Didums... Spot on... with the OP that is, I didn't read this new moderate bluewing thingy that orangey is referencing.
 
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