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[INTJ] Ask an INTJ

ENFP Goddess

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Yes.

Unexplored? Perhaps. I know I'm picky as hell and don't like going around "seeking" women...but am very aggressive when opened up "right".


I thought the intensely picky thing was a trait lol...thank you for confirming...
 

Gobbledegook

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Oct 12, 2008
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INTJ
1. What kind of personality do you take at your work and how might you guess people perceive you?

Usually, the see me as the "problem solver". I tend to be asked the hard questions, since I'm usually the one who can answer them. I do drop witty comments and jokes from time to time. Although, for some unknown reason, one of my colleagues seem to be a little hesitant to approach me... must be those feeling types.

2. Does this personality style and perception of you represent how you would ideally like to be in your work environment? (i.e. how would you like to be perceived and what might you like to do differently in the social group that you find yourself not being able to do as often?)

So far, I've learned the value of having to do small talk... networking is somewhat important in academia too! Small talk can be learned and is not as hard as I used to think it was. I would like to be perceived as a little more approachable.

3. How would you handle yourself in a work environment that was strongly dominated by more Fs than Ts such as yourself?

Smile, nod and process something else in my head.

How do you stay motivated to perform during your studies/job?

Mostly fear of failure... we always reach our goals no matter what, right?

Do you usually know what your next step will be? i.e. are you usually confident in your next move?

In matters of work and studies, yes. When it comes to things like wooing a girl, sadly, I'm pathetic :blush:

Do you mostly think in terms of sequencing?

Yes.

Are you careful about your hair and do your eyes look sleepy and distant?

Hair: Not really.

Eyes: For some unknown reason, people always say I look sleepy.
 

Colors

The Destroyer
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ISTP
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5w4
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so/sx
How do you befriend an INTJ? More specifically, every conversation I have with an INTJ seems to turn competitive. This is great in slightly formal/competitive environments, but in personal conversations I find a little distressing for every attempt to become a game (on both sides) of comedic one-upmanship. Is it my approach or am I misinterpreting INTJ communication?

Great thread, btw.
 

nottaprettygal

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How do you befriend an INTJ? More specifically, every conversation I have with an INTJ seems to turn competitive. This is great in slightly formal/competitive environments, but in personal conversations I find a little distressing for every attempt to become a game (on both sides) of comedic one-upmanship. Is it my approach or am I misinterpreting INTJ communication?

Great thread, btw.

If an INTJ thinks that you are a formidable debate opponent then they probably like you already. Personally, I won't waste my time debating with someone who I consider incompetent or unintelligent. And those are two qualities that I look for in a friend.

I'm not really sure what type of relationship you want that you're not getting from this person. If you want to have discussions that do not turn into debates then it's probably best to stray away from topics that are meaningful to you both (although an INTJ can turn almost every topic into a debate). But currently, it looks like debating is a hobby for this person, and he's having a fun time doing it.

Eventually, you may be surprised that the INTJ will open up to you more, and you have more meaningful, personal conversations. That could take awhile though.

I wonder what would happen if you chose not to debate with him. That could be interesting.
 

Into It

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I fully understand every facet of every INTJ, so this isn't a thread for me.

Edit: Well there is just one thing I don't know about you personally that I need clarified. Do you like ENFP's? That is, do you feel a connection with the abstract thought processing? I find my INTJ friends to have the awesome synergy with me that I have heaerd about.
 

Uytuun

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nnnn
I fully understand every facet of every INTJ, so this isn't a thread for me.

Edit: Well there is just one thing I don't know about you personally that I need clarified. Do you like ENFP's? That is, do you feel a connection with the abstract thought processing? I find my INTJ friends to have the awesome synergy with me that I have heaerd about.

Yes. Although the extent of the synergy may differ from specimen to specimen.

*braids Into It's leg hair*
 

Misty_Mountain_Rose

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I have an INTJ question, and its a serious one. Are all INTJ's deep down actually quite sexually powerful and slightly dark, but it goes unexplored unless a catalyst such as an ENFP or similar type comes along to wake it up?

Sexually powerful? In what sense? I might say sexually EXPRESSIVE, since I tend to connect to people better on that level than on an emotional level.

Slightly Dark - Probably. I've been writing poetry since I was very little and a lot of it deals with things like desperation, death, bad decisions, regrets... most of it is pretty depressing. On the other hand, despite all that, there is always an undercurrent of 'survival despite the dark' or overcoming those dark things. All of it is told in third-person, detached form, where things like Heart, Mind and Soul take on 'lives' of their own, as if being analyzed from a distance. If an emotion could be picked up, analyzed under a microscope, categorized and broken down into its basic forms you would find it done as a kind of scientific curiosity at what this particular emotion 'means'. Its all very philosophical and symbolic. For feeling types its probably difficult to read.
 

01011010

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I have an INTJ question, and its a serious one. Are all INTJ's deep down actually quite sexually powerful and slightly dark, but it goes unexplored unless a catalyst such as an ENFP or similar type comes along to wake it up?

I definitely fit those qualifications. Yet, I explored the landscape of my sexuality and back with a fellow INTJ. In fact, it was the only area we really connected. However, I prefer introverted feelers that are openly submissive in bed, for romantic relationships.

If an INTJ thinks that you are a formidable debate opponent then they probably like you already. Personally, I won't waste my time debating with someone who I consider incompetent or unintelligent. And those are two qualities that I look for in a friend.

I'm not really sure what type of relationship you want that you're not getting from this person. If you want to have discussions that do not turn into debates then it's probably best to stray away from topics that are meaningful to you both (although an INTJ can turn almost every topic into a debate). But currently, it looks like debating is a hobby for this person, and he's having a fun time doing it.

Eventually, you may be surprised that the INTJ will open up to you more, and you have more meaningful, personal conversations. That could take awhile though.

I wonder what would happen if you chose not to debate with him. That could be interesting.

Yes. You hit every valid point.

How do you befriend an INTJ? More specifically, every conversation I have with an INTJ seems to turn competitive. This is great in slightly formal/competitive environments, but in personal conversations I find a little distressing for every attempt to become a game (on both sides) of comedic one-upmanship. Is it my approach or am I misinterpreting INTJ communication?

Great thread, btw.

Don't take devil's advocate stuff out of context. Consider it a compliment that an INTJ finds you interesting or capable enough to have a discussion with. As mentioned above, INTJs have the ability to turn everything into a debate.
 

01011010

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NEVER! I refuse cause you’d kick my ass.

Let's see, we could duel with pipettes filled with red kool-aid instead. Yes, it sounds absurd, but I'm positive you have longer arms than me which means you have a better chance of striking first. The winner would be decided by first stain. That evens the field. :devil:
 

Kasper

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so/sx
Pipettes eh? *checks arm span* Hmm, dunno.

:rolleyes:

Nope. I don't think so, I shall not be appeased and I shall not fight you *huff*
 

bea

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how do i learn to be tactful?

hi i am a classic intj and really struggle maintaining relationships...particularly in the workplace. people think im rude and tactless mainy because i ask a straight question and perhaps niaevely expect a straight answer. i get frustrated when people dont do the job as well as i feel it could be done and dont care for small talk or after work socialising. as i am an intj female i struggle to create those female bonds and see the gossip and idle chit chat as draining, irratating and completely uniteresting. however i know that if i am to get anywhere and prevent the constant personality clashes and the hurtful comments that get thrown my way after these then i need to learn how to at least appear tactful and interested in others and their long winded waffling ideas. i really dont want to come across as cold or impolite...infact i am a stickler for manners but people dont hear my please and thank yous because of my tone of voice. any advice on how i can improve myself? should i just stop working with people altogether?
 

runvardh

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"Hi, I'm Sonata, and I am an INTJ. It has been three weeks since my last extremely offensive comment."

Like that? :D

That's awesome! :rofl1:
 

Poser

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What would it take to force an INTJ to realize that a plan or a course of action that they have decided on is failing? It seems like they are more willing to attempt to bend life to fit the plan instead of change the plan to fit life.
 

runvardh

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bea, allow me to appologise for the jokes. The rest of us have been running behind the sceenes experiments on your peers and the jokes are one of the side effects. If you like we could enrole you in the program... :D

Actually, I'm sure you'll get your more serious answers in due time. I'm pretty useless since I'm also not the most socially adept either. Hugs are about the only thing I'm good at in that area...
 
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