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07-28-2011, 10:00 AM #491Epic derailment:
wierd memory work->Tamagochi->tetris->Starcraft2->thugs->Chess->german techno->Love parade->disaster->death..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q1wH2...eature=related
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07-28-2011, 10:51 PM #492
I can speak only for myself, but - were I in the situation you describe, I would absolutely want my SO's presence, especially if we generally lived apart. I might not want suggestions, or conversation, or conventional gestures of sympathy. I would want the simple comfort of their presence, of knowing that I was important enough for them to just pick up and come (and perhaps that that part of my life at least wasn't in disarray). It would also be good if they could drag me out to do something that they know from experience will be a massive distraction, at least for the day, or the weekend, or whatever was manageable.
That being said, I would probably deny wanting any of this, and even get upset at my SO for doing it, but I would go along with it, and feel better in the end, and be grateful. Only you can tell whether this would work with your SO. I just wanted to point out, however, that all the isolation and rejection of company after a point becomes an irrational response, and (1) isn't what we really want/need, and (2) shouldn't be enabled.Though the ground was burnt and everything turned into ashes, we will revive again. The sky is still blue, the crashing waves from long ago are unchanged. This is Earth, our planet. This dream is in the hearts of people; so long as they do not abandon it, it will not fade away. For the sake of tomorrow, keep a song in your heart. For the sake of our future, let us stop our crying and stand on our ground firmly. ~Maya
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08-04-2011, 05:06 AM #493
Dear INTJs: What are some key giveaways that you are in love without you openly saying so?
a little less conversation, a little more action please
. captain's blog.
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08-04-2011, 01:00 PM #494
If I don't want you to know, you will be hard put to find any.
If you are the object of my affections and I don't want to keep you completely in the dark, you will find me making time in my schedule for you, speaking occasionally of personal topics, taking the opportunity to do helpful things for you, and being more tolerant of things that usually bother me when other people do them (e.g. showing up late for appointments). I will do most of this for close platonic friends, however, so one should pay particulary close attention to the content of our discussions. I have been known to do something creative and off-the-wall for (or to) a new romantic interest. If I give someone that much of my attention, it is a good sign. You would be unwise to make assumptions, however, until I tell you something specific.Though the ground was burnt and everything turned into ashes, we will revive again. The sky is still blue, the crashing waves from long ago are unchanged. This is Earth, our planet. This dream is in the hearts of people; so long as they do not abandon it, it will not fade away. For the sake of tomorrow, keep a song in your heart. For the sake of our future, let us stop our crying and stand on our ground firmly. ~Maya
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08-04-2011, 01:30 PM #495
Basically exactly what Coriolis said. We act more like human beings towards you.
However, since I'm a t6, I felt the need to expound upon his already-excellent description. Building off of all these other things, I will definitely be concerned for you, or worry about how you're doing. So I'll make a check on you from time to time, whether through subtle means (I'll walk a route that seems straightforward, but actually detours so I can make sure I run into you) or not so subtle means (texting you, calling-- though that's very, very rare). INTJs, I feel, will view you as a responsibility when they're romantically attached to you-- one that they enjoy having, mind you, but a responsibility nonetheless.
And if we don't want you to know, good luck with finding out. Unless you're a very, very nosy (or cute/sexy) E-type.[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]Ego Reparate; Ob Me Non Deficiat.INTJ - RCOEI - sx/sp/so - Tritype: 683 (6w5-8w9-3w4) - True Neutral"Yeah, wisdom always chooses/These black eyes and these bruises""Over the heartache that they say/Never completely goes away..."
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08-04-2011, 06:05 PM #496a little less conversation, a little more action please
. captain's blog.
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08-04-2011, 06:11 PM #497
We'll humor you some but this gets super grating. I hope you don't mind the answer to that in a text or IM conversation. Also don't get offended when we're thinking something no where near what you had in mind.
I also should add the - are you ok/mad?? thing...don't do it. Please.I like to rock n' roll all night and *part* of every day. I usually have errands... I can only rock from like 1-3.
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08-04-2011, 06:14 PM #498
Haha I fail so hard at the 'are you ok/mad' thing
But I'll keep this in mind with my INTJ interactions and try to tone it down. Thanks.
a little less conversation, a little more action please
. captain's blog.
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08-04-2011, 06:17 PM #499
My mother (ESFJ) said a few days ago that she has to ask me questions (which she knows annoy me) because otherwise she would know nothing about me. The truth is that I would rather talk to her without being interviewed. I told her so before, but apparently that does not really matter.
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08-04-2011, 06:18 PM #500
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