[INTP] thinking about losing contact with my sister for good

[think2much]

-never listen to me
-everytime I talk to her she makes me angry
-never helps me
-always calls me everytime she feel the emotional needs(her social life) but when I call her she always hang up or gotta go
-every little thing she does pisses the hell out of me and it's all for her own act

I agree that every person is self-centered but I don't think she even cares for me. I just feel betray around her. I know it's her life and it's her money. If it's her life I do not want to be part of it, let her do whatever the f*&k she wants just don't get me involved.

worse part is she actually believes she's a good sister or everything she does is for a good cause. "the problem couldn't be me, the problem is never me"

Anyone eles just drop a family member? she's ESFJ btw
I just don't see the harm of losing contact with her, since I can't stand her it makes sense to never see her and talk to her. Only thing that would make things difficult is around holidays when I won't visit when she's around.



I'm not in a healthy mental state and it bothers me that I can't get along with people even my own family. I always have something I dislike about everyone. When I dislike them I don't wanna deal with them.

 

[Nicodemus]

Have you ever addressed the problem with her?

 

[Totenkindly]

Have you ever addressed the problem with her?

That was my question.

I mean, toss it out there: "Right now, regardless of who you think is right or wrong, I'm really frustrated by how we relate to each other, and if things do not change ASAP, you're going to lose me. If you want to help me fix this, let's do it; otherwise, let's just stay away from each other."

 

[Laurie]

You say you are in an unhealthy place, maybe cutting your sister out during that isn't the beat idea.

Why do you mention "it's her money"?

 

[Totenkindly]

Why do you mention "it's her money"?

That's a good question too.

It sounds like the OP feels she has let him down / focused on herself when he needed her.

Anyway, clarification is good.

 

[think2much]

Have you ever addressed the problem with her?

I told her why I resent her. What can change though? she is who she is.

You say you are in an unhealthy place, maybe cutting your sister out during that isn't the beat idea.

Why do you mention "it's her money"?

she makes irrational decision with finance.

 

[Laurie]

As do 75% of the people in America.

You don't?

 

[Nicodemus]

I told her why I resent her. What can change though? she is who she is.

If you resent her as a whole, there is indeed nothing she can do about it. But if there is something more specific about her that you resent, she may be able to work on it. People occasionally do make conscious decisions.

Also, I suspect there is more about you that requires work than about her.