My incination is toward you being and INTx of some kind, but I do think you have some misconceptions about NFs - INFPs in particular are hard to type because Fi is about values and what an INFP values is specific to the indivdual and can sometimes make us look like other types.
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would make it hard to ID sometimes. I'm willing to accept the possibility that my values mimic INTJ behavior/thoughts.
That statement does read as one with a strong thinking preference, but another way to look at it is to ask yourself what you would do if you were faced with a decision that you had to choose between what was logical and what you felt strongly about. If logic and what is right to you always agree and you never feel torn between the two, then you are probably a "T", but if you have a strong sense of right and wrong that sometimes chooses "what is right to you" over the most logical solution, then you have at least some feeling preference - how often you choose logic over your sense of right and wrong and how much you struggle with it are things to consider.
This is a little complicated with me, and it may come back to what you were saying above. To me, moral and logic are intertwined. To be put in a circumstance where I am given a choice between good and evil, choosing good IS the logical choice. Many people don't have strong views on what is right and what is wrong. Many believe that morality can be a gray area at times. But being good does not always mean 'nice', or 'pleasant'. This is where people get confused. So when they see these others take these goodly choices, they either seem stupid or cruel, or both.
Example: I don't know if your familiar with the PC game Dragon Age, but to give you a quick rundown its an RPG set in a fantasy universe that calls upon you many times to make choices throughout the game concerning other characters. (WARNING SPOILERS: Don't read if you haven't beaten the game yet!) In this fantasy setting, those with magical talent are closely monitored, and kept under control of the church, because demonic entities have the ability to talk to them from beyond the veil and tempt them into letting them posses the mage. At other times the entity is strong enough to simply *sieze* control of the hapless mage. When this happens the mage becomes whats known as an abomination, a creature of incredible magical prowess and the cruel cunning of a demon. In my characters story, they came across the son of a noble lord, whose body was being seized by a demon of temptation. While he was able to regain control for short amounts of time, the demon was using him and his ability to terrorize his father's barony. Causing dozens of deaths, and creating a nightmarish army of corpses and spirits. Once a demon has sized control of a mage there is no option, this mage must be killed. Abominations have been mentioned in the game bringing down nations in the past. Now, my options with this boy was to try and negotiate with the demon (remember what it is), try to go to the mage's guild for help ( a trip that would take some time, leaving the barony at the mercy of this thing in the meantime) or kill the child. It wasn't his fault. He wasn't bad, he was only too week to keep the demon from taking control. It wasn't nice, it was horrible, but it was the moral choice to me (at the time) I killed the child. Better to be dead than to let him live like that, and it would be irresponsible to leave a barony in terror and mayhem while I travel for help. Sorry for the long anecdote, but thats what I'm talking about. The good choice *is* the logical choice. I don't separate the two.
I am one of those INfps that does not relate to the descriptions of our type that tells how harmonious we are. I care about a positive mood in my presence, but I enjoy debate and friendly arguments and I also play devil's advocate just for the fun of it (one of my pet peeves is blind belief in anything, so I like to make sure someone has actually put some thought into what they believe and I will challenge their beliefs (even if they are my own) to see if they are sheep or not)
Lol, my scenario goes like this;
Friend: " Casual idea or plan"
Me: "Explaining flaws 1 through 3 in the idea or plan"
Friend: " ಠ_ಠ"
Me: "What?"
I don't know about positive moods, I'm usually negative and it is only the last couple of years do I realize that people can pick up on it (though people who don't know me well sometimes think I'm in a bad mood when I'm really not) I will sometimes try to make a conscious effort to try and appear in a better mood. Small jokes and such to put them at their ease. I have to work with them so thats kind of important. Plus I don't like the thought of me spreading it to them.
I think "cynical idealist" would describe many INFPs. my idealized world would indeed be a prety close match to the above description, and I often try to convince myself that most people are ethical and have more good than evil in them, and that its just the few bad apples that exploit the goodness of others that make it look like more people are untrustworthy than actually are. I tend to be very skeptical of anyone in the world of business or politics, but for everyone else, I take the approach that they have a mix of both goodness and selfishness in them and that they will opt for goodness more often than not - Where I am very cynical tho is the matter of honor, I've seen many "good hearted" people that display no sense of honor, so seeing someone as honorable is something that only occurs after I have known them long enough to make a judgment.
I'm the opposite. People who are unknown to you should not be trusted 100%. I believe that at heart people are cruel, self-centered bastards. To be good and moral are not natural inclinations of humans. Any sort of genuine morality or goodness is more special because of it.
Thats good, thats the kind of reaction to reading type descriptions you want to pay attention to - thats basically how I feel about the INTJ description applied to me.
INFP and INTJ do have more in common than one might think at first glance, so for the benefit of theory...
INTJs and INFPs share cognitive funtions preferences for Te (extroverted thinking) and Fi (introverted feeling) but they have a different order of importance to each type. They differ on Ni (introverted intuition) vs Ne (extroverted intuition) and Se (extroverted sensing) vs Si (introverted sensing).
INTJ - Ni>Te>Fi>Se
INTP - Fi>Ne>Si>Te
INFJ - Ni>Fe>Ti>Se
INTP - Ti>Ne>Si>Fe
Ok, time to proclaim my ignorance. I have never fully grasped how the functions are supposed to work. I have a very weak hold on it, but I can't quite understand it. Could you explain this to me? Just remember you may have to talk down to me.
