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[NT] NTs, what's your stance on having children?

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i think i'ld be a pretty good dad... i don't have a huge preference on having (or avoiding having) children... if i am comfortable with the idea of someone as the mother and they are ready *shrugs* why not?

i have a lot of hang ups concerning bringing new people into the world, but i guess i could overlook them for up to three kids...

i don't really have a detailed list of reasons for any of it... next year i could feel entirely the same and reach a different conclusion, but this one has been relatively consistent for a few years...
 

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I personally find the idea abhorrant, for SO many reasons.
I am disgusted by the fact that I am even able to have children. It feels like a personal offense or a violation of my very being. and I hate, bate, hate that is not something I can just ignore and pretend isn’t a possibility.

As for other people, I loath “ breeders” ( people with more than 2 children) one is good, 2 is ...fine, I guess, but more, is not acceptable in today’s already grossly over-crowded world of materiallism mism, gross consunption and wastefullness.
 

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I never had a strong desire to have children; thus it wasn't a motivator for me in terms of what I was seeking out in a partner, and having a family wasn't part of my life goals/ drivers. However, I admit in my mid 30's I began feeling anxiety around the fact that I was aging and if I wanted children, the window was shrinking fast. I guess it was the loss/'death' of the option and the 'life path' of having a family that saddened me, as I think it would have yielded many positives and I would have probably made a good parent and ultimately found it rewarding and meaningful, even if it didn't end up happening / was never something I was driven to have, per se.
 

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There is always adoption, for people who cannot or prefer not to have biological children.
 

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I would gladly have one, but the mother of the child is equally important.
 

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Interesting topic. I noticed it and read through it because I was curious- My husband is an INTP, and he was ready for kids before I was. I was of the sentiment that the world is too ugly and overcrowded. I was never going to have kids. He was sooooo ready.
What changed my mind was a group of kindergarteners I taught over a summer. I realized their minds were so open to new things, so free...I decided to have kids then, because it's cheaper than adoption. theoretically, I would love to adopt, though. But I think my INTP husband would not be as bought on the idea.
 

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It’s an interesting possibility. I’d like to be at a more stable point in my life first, and finding a good father is extremely important. If I did have kids at some point I’d want at least three. I grew up with just one other sibling around and it was boring. I always wished I was part of a big family.
 

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If I have to answer this question right now I'd say no because I don't want to settle down, get married or have responsibilities (I'm only 23 lol)

But idk maybe I'll change my mind when I'll get older
 

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When I was a teen, I used to hate kids and used to tell people I was NEVER having kids. I learned to hate kids from my mother.
Then I fell in love, got married and read a book by a woman who had 12 kids. She made it sound so nice, I began being open to the idea of having kids.
Eventually, I had 3 kids and spaced them 3-4 years apart because I prefer focusing on one project at a time.
I was a stay-at-home mom until the youngest was in high school. I devoted my whole life to being a good mom.
My kids are all functioning members of society and I'm glad I had them.
They made my life worth living.
 

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Speaking only for myself, I am a one and done parent. I truly enjoy being a father but, as I'm sure any parent would agree, it isn't an easy road to walk. Watching him grow up is a true joy though. Poor little guy has lost three of his teeth in the last two weeks though. He looks like a little prize fighter.
 
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