Hi guys, I'm sorry that my first post has to be a rant about myself doing very badly in small talk. It does not come easy to me, because I don't talk much unless I have a point to make.
Recently, I have been trying to talk more because this characteristic of mine has always resulted in some sort of emotional distance between myself and just about everyone else I know. Now, here's the thing. Although this trick has helped with my 'quietness', I now often end up saying the stupidest things possible. It is as if forcing myself to talk more is making me sound stupid because I resort to thinking while talking, which doesn't work very well.
Do you guys have the same problem? In this case, is it quantity over quality? After all, it is small talk.
I know I definitely don't want to sound nonsensical and retarded. But if I keep my old ways, I am forever going to be deemed 'too serious' and 'not fun' by everyone in contact with me. What should I do?
Recently, I have been trying to talk more because this characteristic of mine has always resulted in some sort of emotional distance between myself and just about everyone else I know. Now, here's the thing. Although this trick has helped with my 'quietness', I now often end up saying the stupidest things possible. It is as if forcing myself to talk more is making me sound stupid because I resort to thinking while talking, which doesn't work very well.
Do you guys have the same problem? In this case, is it quantity over quality? After all, it is small talk.
I know I definitely don't want to sound nonsensical and retarded. But if I keep my old ways, I am forever going to be deemed 'too serious' and 'not fun' by everyone in contact with me. What should I do?