[NT] NTs, What Makes You Lose Your Temper?

[Redbone]

What makes NTs blow up?

I find that I have trouble controlling my temper when a problem occurs that I think could have easily been avoided.

I also have a real problem controlling it when I'm in a situation where a strong emotional response is provoked. Yes--I get mad about being mad...sad...any intense emotion.

 

[shmrie]

For me it's if something keeps happening that I don't want to happen and I feel unable to fix or stop the problem.

 

[copperfish17]

(Emotional) projection... almost always makes me roll my eyes.

That said, I don't attribute such behavior to MBTI types. It's a bit more complicated than that, methinks.

 

[sciguy90]

When something happens that makes my effort pointless; i.e. waste of my time.

 

[ThatGirl]

Frustration >.<

 

[Amethyst]

Pretty much the combination of:

- Losing control of a fucked up situation
- People trying to control me
- People who didn't get the hint the first or second time I told them blatantly to back off/any other thing.
- Not eating (I'm a real bitch if I don't eat all day)
- Not sleeping (sometimes I just cry, along with losing my temper)
- Time of month (Same stuff as not sleeping...hormones)
- People not getting off my back about things.


There's probably more, but I'm able to keep my cool most of the time. It's usually a concoction of the above things listed that throw me off the edge.

 

[Tallulah]

Drawing me in to fix your mess when I took all the necessary steps to avoid the mess to begin with. Taking advantage of the fact that I do genuinely sympathize with people and want to help.

Projecting your insecurities onto me.

Passive aggression. Expecting me to read your mind, then getting mad when I don't.

Being dismissive of me or talking down to me.

 

[funkadelik]

It's hard to pinpoint exactly what ticks me off because it varies considerably depending on the person or situation. But yeah, generally I get the most steamed up when someone else's fuck ups end up inconveniencing me and especially if it makes me have to do something over again (oh man, I freaking loathe to do things twice).

And details. Details frustrate me to no end. :steam:

Oh lord...my temper used to be fast and hot, but it's cooled down quite a lot in recent years. It's not that less things piss me off, but I've gotten better at controlling my temper.

 

[funkadelik]

Frustration >.<

Haha...isn't that a little redundant?

 

[guesswho]

When I lose my remote control and I can't change the channels, I get so angry I go out and beat my 70 year old neighbors to cool down.

 

[Virtual ghost]

Nothing. And if I find you annoying I will just walk away.
However people often see my Te are anger.

 

[BlueGray]

People who refuse to listen or gain understanding. I feel you might as well become a hermit if you refuse to change your views.

 

[FigerPuppet]

Injustice in all its various repulsive shapes.

 

[Spamtar]

Minimizing, being dismissive or collaterally kill joying some accomplishment that I give great value.

Me: I.e. I did this xyz for person X. It was like accomplishing a miracle and there life would have been fucked had I not done this.
ENFP Dad: You should have gotten more money for it.
Me: Stop raining on my parade.
ENFP Dad: I wasn't being a kill joy I was raising the value of the accomplishment by raising its worth.
Me: Yeah but it still sucks when you say it. It reminds me of when I say I got a great deal on some product and you say something like how much $4 (when its a $40 product that I got on sale for $13 bucks)

 

[Totenkindly]

1. Self-absorbed people (so they tend to be kill-joys, downers, constantly disrupt other people's lives without caring, etc.)
2. Stupid people who don't know/accept their ideas are stupid.
3. Non-NTs who claim to be NTs, when it's so obvious from their thinking style they're not.
4. People are stuck in ruts and refuse to try new things and take calculated risks, especially when disaster will happen for sure if they don't.
5. People who have no ability to see momentarily the world through other people's eyes, nor see a reason to do so.
6. Political/Religious demagogues.

I used to try to take responsibility for people like this when I was younger, and challenge their thinking, try to talk to them enough to make a connection, etc. But that didn't really ever work. All it did was drain me and meanwhile put them in a position of power.

Nowadays, it's more that I sense how open someone is to an exchange of ideas, and I just don't waste my time on people who aren't worth the energy. I'll meet them however far I sense they can go, and then that's that.

 

[Within]

People who believe that they have a profound understanding of something even when they time after time prove that they are clueless.

 

[MacGuffin]

I rarely get angry (Type 9!), but whe I do it's because:

(Emotional) projection... almost always makes me roll my eyes.

This.

Projecting your insecurities onto me.

That.

Passive aggression. Expecting me to read your mind, then getting mad when I don't.

Th- whoops! I'm getting better at not being P-A. Though mind-reading is separate from P-A. I don't really expect that.

Being dismissive of me or talking down to me.

That too.

1. Self-absorbed people...

3. Non-NTs who claim to be NTs, when it's so obvious from their thinking style they're not.

5. People who have no ability to see momentarily the world through other people's eyes, nor see a reason to do so.

How does INTPc not throw you into a full-on rage everyday?

 

[ThatGirl]

Haha...isn't that a little redundant?

Ha, you would think so. Truth is I rarely lose my temper. Like really lose it.

If I were to speak honestly there have been only two things that consistently trigger me.

My ex husband.

And someone, no matter how remotely, trying to mess with my son.

 

[NotOfTwo]

Drawing me in to fix your mess when I took all the necessary steps to avoid the mess to begin with. Taking advantage of the fact that I do genuinely sympathize with people and want to help.

Projecting your insecurities onto me.

Passive aggression. Expecting me to read your mind, then getting mad when I don't.

Being dismissive of me or talking down to me.

Pretty much the combination of:

- Losing control of a fucked up situation
- People trying to control me
- People who didn't get the hint the first or second time I told them blatantly to back off/any other thing.
- Not eating (I'm a real bitch if I don't eat all day)
- Not sleeping (sometimes I just cry, along with losing my temper)
- Time of month (Same stuff as not sleeping...hormones)
- People not getting off my back about things.


There's probably more, but I'm able to keep my cool most of the time. It's usually a concoction of the above things listed that throw me off the edge.

I rarely get angry but I relate to these. I really resent having hormones interfere with my cool but hard to get around.
I lose it when inanimate things hurt me - stub toe, smash head, bump shoulder, ETC. That door jam gots to die!

 

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