[NT] INTJ-INTP first date

[dmm2442]

I was told by a friend a little while ago that I would be a perfect match for one of her friends. So, I got her E-mail address and sent her a message. After that we started to message each other about once a week. Then I decided to call her and ask her out on a date. We decided to go to a Science Museum. Well last Saturday we went.

At first it was sort of awkward. We could not really get any conversation going, but then I did something stupid(couldn't figure out the elevator) and she could not stop laughing. After that everything flowed perfectly. We were talking about anything and everything. We didn't pay much attention to things at the Museum, just each other. I found it very entertaining on how she didn't always get my humor. For instance there were some small funeral boxes that looked just like coffins. I said man people must have been small back then. She just went on to explain how they were buried and later the bones were dug up and put into them. Then looked back at my big smile and would smile back. We ended up spending about 5 hours there and at the end both told each other that we had a great time and we should do it again sometime.

For me the first date was a blast I was expecting the worst, hopefully she feels the same.

My question is for INTJ women. From here how do I not screw this up? Do you have any tips for the second date? Any other information would be well appreciated. Thanks.

david

 

[suttree]

Sounds like y'all have chemistry.

Don't over think this. Don't construct theories/strategies about the relationship. Spend time with her and try to get to know her. Continue to act naturally.

You know, enjoy her and be enjoyable to be around without trying too hard.

Anyway that's my general relationshipping strategy.

 

[Edgar]

We decided to go to a Science Museum.

Ha!

dorks

 

[Oaky]

Already screwing it up by asking advice on how not to screw it up.

 

[Salomé]

Sort out your punctuation.
Those INTJs eat that shit up.

 

[Craft]

The question is: How can you screw it up?

There is 'good meaning' in failures my child.

 

[dmm2442]

I would be doomed if it came down to punctuation.

Craft

Good point I don't date much, so at least I will get some experience.

 

[RXConquistador]

2nd date ideas from an INTP guy who's college girlfriend was an INTJ.

Play Apples to Apples with a group.

INTJs don't like how INTPs change rules of game. Or maybe they do

Mini golf. INTJs are very competitive, INTPs don't give a crap about winning, we just like to play.

Go to a Mall and people watch. Write down comments about the people (make fun of them) on a piece of paper. Keep the piece of paper as a memento, as the INTJ will want to recycle it.

Eventually this relationship is headed for disaster, get to that point as quick as you can & if it moves beyond that, great!

 

[Mr. Sherlock Holmes]

Sort out your punctuation.
Those INTJs eat that shit up.

What about Shiet Happens? They seem to write in chatspeak sometimes even.

 

[Mr. Sherlock Holmes]

Sounds like you two are going good! Have fun!

 

[Weber]

Sort out your punctuation.
Those INTJs eat that shit up.

This. Nothing turns me on more than excellent grammar, except perhaps quantum physics.

What about Shiet Happens? They seem to write in chatspeak sometimes even.

You seem to be making the mistake of taking for granted that everyone who self-identifies as a certain type is actually that type.

 

[nozflubber]

oh plz.... so what? They have INTJs on battlenet, dont they? they conform.


I bet it was an INTJ script kiddy that came up with leetspeak to begin with. Preening bastages, all of you INTJs!!!

 

[Mr. Sherlock Holmes]

You seem to be making the mistake of taking for granted that everyone who self-identifies as a certain type is actually that type.

And I think you're making the mistake of taking for granted that everyone who is an INTJ will care a lot about grammar.

 

[Salomé]

What about Shiet Happens?

I think you just answered your own question.

 

[Misty_Mountain_Rose]

This. Nothing turns me on more than [X], except perhaps quantum physics.

 

[Weber]

And I think you're making the mistake of taking for granted that everyone who is an INTJ will care a lot about grammar.

Hurr, not quite, but it's a foolish endeavour to use mistyped people as an example of deviation from the norm of said type.

 

[Donna Cecilia]

Sort out your punctuation.
Those INTJs eat that shit up.

This is a good one. I'm known for dumping men with bad grammar. No matter how nice they are in real life, seeing bad grammar in an e-mail, not to mention text messages, is a turn-off for me.

Also, don't appear insecure (doing whatever it takes to keep her from reading this thread can help). I like guys who know what they want.

If you do something that can be seen as stupid (you will know that when you hear a sarcastic remark from her), don't make it again. I can "tolerate" stupidity only once.

 

[thescientist]

Don't overthink it. If an INTJ has decided they like you, they LIKE you. Just be a man, take the lead, and don't smother her too much. You'll be fine.

I love the chemistry I have with INTPs.
But not as much as the chemistry I have with ENFPs. Anyone sick of my love for ENFPs yet?

 

[Coriolis]

This. Nothing turns me on more than excellent grammar, except perhaps quantum physics.

I prefer solid state physics myself, but you are on the right track. I've been with an INTP for over 10 years now, though, who has mediocre grammar and atrocioius spelling. Fortunately there are other compensations.

 

[Mr. Sherlock Holmes]

Hurr, not quite, but it's a foolish endeavour to use mistyped people as an example of deviation from the norm of said type.

How should I know if they are mistyped? I haven't even seen them here that much.