I really don't see the point in trying to determine this about myself (or anyone)...
Well, I'd say it's pretty important to determine if you're doing something wrong, and failure to monitor this would be a pretty big problem IMO. "The point" would be to make sure that there is not a failure in your own perceptive abilities which is blinding you to behavior which could at the least just annoy other people but be unimportant, but at the most both cause large scale alienation AND be counter-productive.
But, onward...
My entire life I have had random people (whom I've never interacted with much) come and tell me I'm an asshole or how nasty of a person I am. On account of getting along well with most people I never chalked it up to much. Honestly, I've never understood why this happens. I'm curious whether this might be a "MBTI type thing" or if anyone else has had this occur to them regularly who can share some insight.
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...the reason I ask because whether or not someone needs to shove their undeserved criticism up their ass doesn't necessarily stop them from getting in the way and causing trouble. Understanding the motivation helps predict and defuse their behavior.
I misunderstood. I thought the question was more about being an asshole as opposed to why other people think you're an asshole. So it's about the other people.
Still, I'll refer you back to my first paragraph here. I think it has to be given that if they are "in your way" and "cause problems", that's not as bad as it seems
if you are actually screwing up. They could be stopping you from digging yourself deeper into a hole. Hence proving the relevancy of why an evaluation of your (or their) behavior is not only relevant, it's crucial.
Makes sense?
Otherwise, people provide criticism for a variety of reasons, such as:
- they are compelled to find inconsistencies
- they are offended, and will look for something bad about you, real or not
- failure to meet expectations
- social pressures (to isolate you from the group, for instance)
- insecurity
People will "get in the way" for a variety of reasons, such as:
- they see you as incompetent
- they think you are ignoring important details
- they don't like your policies
- they are jealous