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[INTP] When INTPs like someone...

goodgrief

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Romantically, but don't want to admit it, do they show any signs? Any at all? Facial tics, body language, verbal suggestions, trends in behaviour and schedule, anything? If so, what?
 

HomerSoprano

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Romantically, but don't want to admit it, do they show any signs? Any at all? Facial tics, body language, verbal suggestions, trends in behaviour and schedule, anything? If so, what?

I used to treat people I was attracted to with lots of looks, silence due to shyness, clumsiness etc etc. Depending on how hot the person was I could treat her with mild verbal abuse if she wasn´t superhot. If she´s suoperhot I´d just stare and gawk.
 

Asterion

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I'd move in for the kill as soon as the opportunity presents. Not that I know what to do, I just push myself in their direction, with no plan. If I'd met more girls that I'd like, I'd probably get pretty good at it. Now that I think about it, I have a target atm, the only problem is that I don't know if I like her... which gives me all the more reason to push forwards really.
 

JocktheMotie

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I start to make fun of them a lot. I put those tactics I learned in third grade to good use, baby.
 

ElizaJane

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When we first met, my INTP husband couldn't make eye contact with me. And when I forced him to one day, I noticed that his pupils were huge. LOL. Also, he seemed to always be aware of where I was in the room, even though he didn't look at me. I could feel it.

Those are the only distinct things I remember. It's not like he never wanted to admit it though, so maybe that sort of situation yields different responses.
 

tcda

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If I liked someone but didn't want to admit it, I would just be a bit more nervous and erratic than usual when I was around them, I guess. Probably this transcends MBTI.

The question is, why would the one you are referring to not wish to admit it? :s This doesn't sound typically INTP to me. If someone makes clear to us that they are up for a romantic interest, I don't think many INTP's play "hard to get". If they like you I would think they would take up the offer.

But maybe that's just me.
 

Magic Poriferan

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I'm more reserved than usual, and unusually polite.
 

hilo

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I'm more reserved than usual, and unusually polite.

If I like you, I find reasons to be around you (but not in a clingy way), or reasons to linger (say after a group conversation) and plumb the depths with conversation a bit. I also notice my body language is very lined up with my feelings. In the car with my friend that I liked, I noticed that my legs and arms were nearer to the middle. When I was thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend, I would be leaned up against the driver's side window, one hand on the wheel, eyes straight ahead.

But I'm a bit of an expressed INTP, I'll make the first move if I feel like there's a good chance you return the interest.
 

Unique

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I do everything I can to make them happy, I smile a lot around them, touch them more, try to be around them more, have lots of conversation (if I like them its probably interesting conversation)

If I'm genuinely interested in you I will simply just love to be with you, so chances are I'll be around a lot either online or offline

Might not seem obvious, but the INTP that usually doesn't open up to a lot of people it damn well is, most people always know when I like someone

If I only see you as a friend, the interesting conversation part still rings true and obviously I will still be there but the extras certainly wont be

My clumsy Fe seems to reer its head around someone I like, though some girls find inferior Fe to be cute
 

Edgar

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I'd move in for the kill as soon as the opportunity presents. Not that I know what to do, I just push myself in their direction, with no plan. If I'd met more girls that I'd like, I'd probably get pretty good at it. Now that I think about it, I have a target atm...

AtM? That's gross, dude.
 

cafe

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I don't think my INTP was particularly trying to hide it, but it still took me awhile to figure out he was following me around like a lost puppy. :doh:
 

atticus

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OP: It's all in the eyes.

Try taking the reigns in steering the relationship where you want it to go, the INTP may actually be relieved that they don't have to deal with it. Don't grapple them like Ben Hur; Be sure to test the waters before jumping in.

Note: By being assertive in starting the relationship with an INTP, you are most likely accepting an unspoken agreement that you will be tasked with most of the emotional responsibility.
 

Totenkindly

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OP: It's all in the eyes.

That sounds right, at least for the ones who haven't yet stretched and developed confident social skills.

INTPs are observatory, introspective creatures.
The eyes will give them away.
Watch their eyes and see what they are watching.

I wouldn't be surprised also to see more nervousness around people an INTP likes, since there's something at stake and/or they'd want to hide their feelings in order to not be exposed.

I think things shift a bit, though, the more socially confident they get.
There'll be a lot of listening if they don't know what to talk about, and insightful comments made about the content; or attempts to discuss a wide variety of deep impersonal topics, to try to "feel out" the person they like and see what they're made of and if something clicks.
 

copperfish17

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If I REALLY like someone...

I tend to become a blubbering idiot. :doh: I lose my poise and I honestly can't help it.

For me anyway. :blush:

Oh yeah, I blush a lot too.
 

MiasmaResonance

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Everything I say around them ends up sounding stupid (in my mind), because I become more subjective whilst having such "feelings". And I equate subjectiveness to stupidity.
 
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