I am an eNTP woman who looks nothing like the NT woman prototype. I am stopped by strangers daily who tell me how beautiful I am, that I should be a model. However, they don't know that underneath the looks and easy charm is a very creative and sometimes aggressive ENTP personality.
My ex-boyfriend is also ENTP. It was great while it lasted but our relationship ended like a scene from War of the Roses. Does anyone here (ENTPS you especially) have any stories to tell about their relationships with their identity type? Suggestions on how to repair relationships with your ENTP would also be very appreciated.
ENTP's are generally quite good looking usually... they just have a 'natural' beauty to them rather than caring about their looks, so generally won't dress up the part.
I think yeu got off very poorly on the wrong foot with basically flat out calling everyone yeu're asking for help "zomg yeu're all ughly nerds lol!", and that's probably not going to win yeu any points on help.
That being said though, I would state that yeu're obviously an immature entp, with a bit of an ego problem at the very slightest. This's perfectly normal at younger ages, and entp's in general tend to get stuck in this immature stage for a much longer time than most any other type, being very slow to develop and mature emotionally; I wasn't even ready for college until I was 25... when most people go immediately out of high school at 18. This's pretty normal.
Even so, I'd pretty much say that yeu have a rather strong air of smug superiority, and it's probably going to have a rather direct effect on how yeur relationships go as a regular basis.
There's also the matter that same-type relationships rarely work out all that well. "Opposites attract" is a true statement... opposites DO attract, but similarities hold yeu together once yeu're already attracted.
If yeu're TOO similar though... there's nothing there. Okeis yay it's cute yeu finish each others' sentences, but at whot point do yeu learn more about them, or have yeur significant other manage to help yeu in times of need? How do they 'complete' yeu, so to speak? Can they give yeu support in yeur weak areas? Can they help when yeu have a type-dependent breakdown?
Generally yeu want a type that is similar but different, one which can see things from a different angle than yeu do, but still shares the method of rationalization in the process.
The ENTP standard "best choice" is supposedly an INFJ, which... oddly enough I just happen to have one of >.>;;
He completes me very well, though we do have our share of misunderstandings and issues, it works very well overall and one can support the other in times of crisis due to our differing ways of viewing the world.
That being said, don't go silly trying to find the 'perfect type' for yeur mate... certain types (infj males for example, and entp females) are exceedingly rare to begin with, and it's near impossible to find one that's suitable, and just because they're the right TYPE, it doesn't mean they're right for yeu... individuals have alot of separate differences between them. We're obviously not just clones of 16 individuals on the planet, there's billions of us and we're all unique and different... culture, upbringing, and many other factors can change who we are to large extent, so don't go thinking that any particular type will magically be perfect for yeu.
There are unhealthy versions of each type, where they let one of their drawbacks get too far into excess, and there are immature versions of each type, where they just haven't learned to refine their rough edges and compensate for their failing points. Yeu seem the type, from this post at least, to be of the "I haven't learned how to accept that I'm not the center of the universe yet".
Because yeu're not.
I am. *Universe spins around her* >.>;;
