All the stupid "Friendzone" theory does is transfer the blame for you being lonely and single from yourself to someone else.
"Its not my fault I dont have a girlfriend, its HER fault for not wanting to fuck me! How dare a woman show any interest in me without wanting to suck my cock!!!"
Seriously, grow up.
Such hostility! Do you think that the more abrasive your post is, the more convincing it will be?
Edit: And Ladder Theory is the epitome of Autism. Quit trying to rationalize why your not popular with women and do something about it.
Attraction, itself, is not rational; it is based on feeling. That's why many times people are not attracted to the qualities which they claim they are seeking in a partner. You can't rationalize feelings, but you can try to understand them from a rational point of view. Some guys do tend to put all of the blame on women. It's not a woman's fault that she is not attracted to her male "just-friend." But it is her fault when she runs to him and complains about her asshole boyfriend who doesn't treat her right and then expects him to be her emotional support, knowing that he has romantic feelings for her, and leaves him empty handed.
You know if you people who complain about "Friend Zoneing" had any brains youd realize that having nonsexual female friends is a very good opportunity to be introduced to women who would be interested in you.
Ive met 2 of my past girlfriends through a mutual female friend. I also might add that Ive never once been upset about having a friend regardless of gender. I mean think about it, your essentially getting mad BECAUSE you have a friend.
I made this point in the other friend-zone thread:
This is key. Use your friendship as leverage to meet and attract other girls. Plus, once you start dating someone else, it could potentially make your friend more interested in you, depending on her maturity level.
http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/relationships/32052-friend-zoned-story-my-life-2.html#post1204357
Don't assume that because somebody acknowledges the existence of a "just friend-zone" that they are opposed to having "just friends." Most likely, if they find themselves constantly being friend-zoned by women who they're romantically interested in then they don't understand how attraction works.
The Ladder Theory seems to have created quite a stir. I didn't say that I endorsed the ladder theory. I posted a link referencing the ladder theory because it essentially reiterated what the poster above me stated. Having said that, I do agree with some of the ladder theory, as it is an abstract concept illustrating the differences between men and women regarding sexual attraction. What I don't agree with is the last sentence:
"Since men have only one ladder, the theory states that heterosexual men and women can never be friends." Obviously, men and women do have platonic friendships that last for a long time; but the question arises if they ever viewed or desired each other sexually and what circumstances, if any, would've caused those desires to manifest physically. Women's "just friend-zone" seems to be more concrete while men's friend zone is more fluid. Women don't have to be aggressive to seek sexual encounters. All they have to do is be submissive. If someone has a lot of potential sexual partners knocking on their door, they can afford to be more exclusive to whom they make themselves vulnerable to, and keep their friends who they're not as sexually attracted to in a purely platonic state.
All I can do is speak for myself. I can't think of any close female friends who I never had the slightest semblance of a sexual thought about. There are many reasons why I never initiated sexual or romantic advances towards them: some were relatives of other close friends, some wanted a relationship with me and I didn't reciprocate her interest...or vice versa, some we considered our friendship too valuable to risk losing it over a romantic fling, etc... Nonetheless, if the circumstances were right (alcohol was involved, one or both of us were between relationships, dating was scarce, an opportunity arose to become sexual and we didn't fear the consequences) I may have engaged in a sexual encounter with any of those "just friends." Usually, when a woman puts a man in her just-friends zone, he's not getting out no matter how hard he tries. That's why it is imperative to create a sense of attraction early on if there are any romantic intentions.
