[NT] Female NTs and Men: What do you need in a relationship?

[Salomé]

(3) Responsibility: This is true of other types of women as well, but female NTJs are turned off by someone who can not take care of himself, pay his bills on time, be on time for work, etc. For a female NT this relates back to being independent.

Fixed.

True 'dat. Nothing I love more than a man who can't take care of himself.

Dribblers.

 

[Salt n' pepper]

Do you want fries with that?


Have you considered dating an astronaut?

Hahaha - Luuv your sense of humor.

 

[Salt n' pepper]

Fixed.

MacGuffin speaks the truth.

I draw my line at wiping his ass.

 

[Salomé]

MacGuffin speaks the truth.

I draw my line at wiping his ass.

I've seen his ass.

I don't blame you.

 

[juggernaut]

Hmmm, are these really specifically NT wants? Most of these lists look like exactly the lists my SF sister and SF close friend maintain. Who doesn't want a smart, interesting, responsible, emotionally mature, hard-working mate? I have yet to meet the woman who says "gimme a stupid, lazy, crybaby".

I think the only thing that might genuinely distinguish NT females from other women is the need for space. This was the basis of my own belief that something was wrong with me until I started running into other NTs (both male and female). We seem to need a bit more time to ourselves than some of the other types. It doesn't seem to require that the object of our affection actually leave the house, just that he understand when we need some time to do our own thing. The SF males I've been involved with seemed quite hurt by this, assuming that it was rooted in some sort of desire to avoid them.

 

[MacGuffin]

No one has seen my ass!

Now, "someone who can not take care of himself" is probably a turn off no matter the type, but who gives a rat's ass if he's always late to work? Unless you are also his boss and looking forward to that pre-meeting fuck early in the morning.

 

[Salomé]

No one has seen my ass!

Dude. It's all over the interwebz.
You don't know this?

I use it for dart practice.

 

[Totenkindly]

...I think the only thing that might genuinely distinguish NT females from other women is the need for space. This was the basis of my own belief that something was wrong with me until I started running into other NTs (both male and female). We seem to need a bit more time to ourselves than some of the other types. It doesn't seem to require that the object of our affection actually leave the house, just that he understand when we need some time to do our own thing. The SF males I've been involved with seemed quite hurt by this, assuming that it was rooted in some sort of desire to avoid them.

I do agree with the need for space.

I need alone time, and it's not a matter of "wanting" it, it's "needing" it or I become very unhappy and unable to function. I've come a long way in actually enjoying "people time" now, but I still need space to do my own thing, and it seems like there are other sorts of women who invest all their time in other people or want to always be with someone.

 

[juggernaut]

Now, "someone who can not take care of himself" is probably a turn off no matter the type, but who gives a rat's ass if he's always late to work? Unless you are also his boss and looking forward to that pre-meeting fuck early in the morning.

or his carpool companion and he's the driver... and you happen to be a semi-neurotic NTJ.

 

[MacGuffin]

Dude. It's all over the interwebz.
You don't know this?

I use it for dart practice.

Link?

or his carpool companion and he's the driver... and you happen to be a neurotic NTJ.

Get another carpool! That's not worth destroying relationships over.

Reminds me of affluent couples fighting over cleaning the house when all they had to do was hire a maid to come in once a week.

 

[Delilah]

No one has seen my ass!

Lies.

Dude. It's all over the interwebz.
You don't know this?

I use it for dart practice.

Truth!

 

[Salomé]

Link?

You told me off last time I posted porn.

 

[MacGuffin]

You told me off last time I posted porn.

You can PM me.

 

[Orangey]

Now, "someone who can not take care of himself" is probably a turn off no matter the type, but who gives a rat's ass if he's always late to work? Unless you are also his boss and looking forward to that pre-meeting fuck early in the morning.

I agree. I could care less that my partner is frequently late for work. It's not like I'm his mother/keeper. Perhaps if I depended on him being on time for some reason (a la carpool situation) then it'd matter a bit, but then if he couldn't shape up I'd just find another mode of transportation, not dump him.

 

[Salomé]

You can PM me.

You want me to PM you pictures of YOUR ass?

That's....original....

 

[juggernaut]

Link?


Get another carpool! That's not worth destroying relationships over.

Certainly can't argue with that logic. The NT female is nothing if not reasonable.

 

[MacGuffin]

You want me to PM you pictures of YOUR ass?

That's....original....

Don't worry, I'll PM you with a pic of your ass that's making the rounds too!

 

[Salomé]

Don't worry, I'll PM you with a pic of your ass that's making the rounds too!

GREAT! I haven't seen my ass in years!

 

[MacGuffin]

GREAT! I haven't seen my ass in years!

I'd think that was impossible considering how hu-

Uh, never mind!

 

[Salomé]

I'd think that was impossible considering how hu-

Uh, never mind!

We don't all have mirrors on the ceiling, babe.