[NT] xNTx fidelity

[Cypocalypse]

It's an irony how the concept of cheating can be so articulately explained, and yet NTs are the archetypes that are least likely to do it.

That's why we only put premium on sexual cheating. It's tangible, recognizable, and keeps things simple. I think NTs tend to dwell to much on the subtle things that can easily be overlooked.

 

[Haphazard]

Katsuni, the reason why sexual infidelity gets all the attention is because if you go confide into a best friend about your problems or talk to a professor about an ethical or scientific conundrum you won't accidentally get children out of wedlock.

This may be an outdated idea because of the use of contraceptives but the cultural belief is so ingrained in people's minds that it's still there.

 

[tinkerbell]

ENTP's seem the real dogs of the Rationalists....

OK tiny sample so far....

 

[Cypocalypse]

Is it a matter of restraint, or a matter of incompetency of actually cheating?

 

[tinkerbell]

Is it a matter of restraint, or a matter of incompetency of actually cheating?

ROFLMAO....

are you saying NT's (not entps) are not socially dynamic enough to put themslves out there multiple times at once?

LOL never thought about it that way (I find one relationship at a time more than enough chaois)

 

[Cypocalypse]

I have gazillions of SF friends who make it look that way. Lol!

Then the dark side of the force consumes me. And then that sexy NF chick who reads Neil Gaiman, buys toys, etc. started talking to me.

Now tell me, how can i ignore that? Lol!

 

[BlahBlahNounBlah]

Is it a matter of restraint, or a matter of incompetency of actually cheating?

I won't speak for the introverts, but I find it hard to believe an ENT couldn't competently cheat.


But again, cheating isn't for me.

 

[tinkerbell]

LOL I have no idea who Neil Gaiman - Ok SF author.... looks like a writter/musicial friend of mine...

I could resist, I do like NF's usually, so whackey (ENFPs).

But I could resist, I've never ever even felt tempted to go outside.... I guess there are no garuantees with anyone but I really wonder what would happen if I was tempted...

 

[SerengetiBetty]

I've never cheated and would never cheat. But, I can't really turn off my flirt switch which has caused some issues in the past with a few guys I've dated.

 

[Katsuni]

Katsuni, the reason why sexual infidelity gets all the attention is because if you go confide into a best friend about your problems or talk to a professor about an ethical or scientific conundrum you won't accidentally get children out of wedlock.

This may be an outdated idea because of the use of contraceptives but the cultural belief is so ingrained in people's minds that it's still there.

Yeah, that does make more sense. Nice to see how "logical thinking creatures" we really are >.>;;

Honestly I don't consider humans to be too much above normal animals, for the 'capacity for thought' we supposedly have, we virtually never actually USE it.

If we assume one's sterile for whotever reason, then really, is sexual infidelity magically 'less bad'? In theory it SHOULD be, in practice it's generally not considered so for some reason, except when mixed children exist, in which case that seems to be the biggest problem for probably obvious reasons there.

 

[Cypocalypse]

ENTJs are sugar daddy archetypes who think they are players, until they realize later in life that all their woman ever wanted was their money.

ENTPs are the real players.
INTJs are those that are not really in the playing field.
INTPs are intermediary between INTJ and ENTP. Their success depends on which side they're closer to.

 

[tinkerbell]

If we assume one's sterile for whotever reason, then really, is sexual infidelity magically 'less bad'? In theory it SHOULD be, in practice it's generally not considered so for some reason, except when mixed children exist, in which case that seems to be the biggest problem for probably obvious reasons there.

Appart from a hoist of STDs which your partner hasn't agreed to be infected with (condoms don't protect agaisnt everything).

If a bloke cheated on me my FIRST consideration wouldn't be if he had got the girl up the duff, it would be - what deseases have I been exposed to that I've had not choice in. I have a REAL hang up about STDs

 

[BlahBlahNounBlah]

Appart from a hoist of STDs which your partner hasn't agreed to be infected with (condoms don't protect agaisnt everything).

If a bloke cheated on me my FIRST consideration wouldn't be if he had got th girl up the duff, it would be - what deseases have I been exposed to that I've had not choice in. I have a REAL hang up about STDs

+ 1 million

 

[tinkerbell]

sorry blah what do you mean?

 

[BlahBlahNounBlah]

sorry blah what do you mean?

I mean I agree with you a million times over.

 

[Katsuni]

He agrees XD

And yes that is obviously another issue as well these days. If we assume that it was something where STD's weren't an issue though, let's say online or indirect play with toys, something where no direct physical contact would be had, then this omits that problem.

Obviously, giving yeur partner alot of diseases they didn't have any choice in is just... yeah that's seriously wrong, I already know one which had that happen to them >.<

Their girlfriend at the time cheated on them, with no indication of it, just stopped caring, used him as a credit card, and slept with several other guys. This's apparantly a normal thing for her as she's done it before and since -_-

That kind of thing is just where it's absolutely wrong in every way.

 

[tinkerbell]

He agrees XD

And yes that is obviously another issue as well these days. If we assume that it was something where STD's weren't an issue though, let's say online or indirect play with toys, something where no direct physical contact would be had, then this omits that problem.

I loved the these days, prior to these days there was syphalis which kills, and many othr STDs which are now treated with antibiotics which would kill prior to their discovery.

I'm not squemish about pron unless I think the other person has issues with it (wich is totally on the rise - excuse the pun). I think some men particualarly are getting warped ideas about women through net porn, and they are getting adicted.

As for toys etc - I still see this is a breach of trust, I don't expect my man to be messing like that....

Desease exposre - FREAKS ME OUT!! :s

 

[Cypocalypse]

I just wonder how many NTs here actually want to do it, but just can't?

 

[tinkerbell]

I just wonder how many NTs here actually want to do it, but just can't?

for a moment there I thought you were talking impotence....

You mean they havn't had the opportunity? Or they emotionally can't? or morally so?

Keirsey says it's distastful to them, but doens't say why.... so good call.

 

[Edgar]

I just wonder how many NTs here actually want to do it, but just can't?

A wise rabbi once said "a man is only as faithful as his options"