[INTP] How to seduce as an INTP

[Oddly Refined]

So, I seduced one unintentionally. Apparently, if you ignore them they like that?

 

[JocktheMotie]

We seduce ourselves for you. You're welcome!

 

[Oddly Refined]

We seduce ourselves for you. You're welcome!

Could you enlighten to me as to how this process works?

 

[JocktheMotie]

You probably had a pleasant interaction and he liked you. He went home, and thought about it. He meta-analyzed everything you said and tried to determine if there was something more or maybe he's just projecting, but maybe there really could be attraction there and wow it would be pretty interesting. The INTPs finds you to be such an intriguing puzzle he thinks about you all the time, trying to figure you out. This process is so much fun for him, and just the thought of you perks him up and sets his mind racing again. Bam! Seduced. And you didn't even have to do anything!

 

[Oddly Refined]

You probably had a pleasant interaction and he liked you. He went home, and thought about it. He meta-analyzed everything you said and tried to determine if there was something more or maybe he's just projecting, but maybe there really could be attraction there and wow it would be pretty interesting. The INTPs finds you to be such an intriguing puzzle he thinks about you all the time, trying to figure you out. This process is so much fun for him, and just the thought of you perks him up and sets his mind racing again. Bam! Seduced. And you didn't even have to do anything!

Thanks for the explanation, but I was being sarcastic... *double face palm for poorly communicated sarcasm*

 

[JocktheMotie]

My post was mostly in jest as well, but that is how it tends to happen...

 

[Oddly Refined]

My post was mostly in jest as well, but that is how it tends to happen...

Yeah, the intp and I have already had this happen. The adjustment to each others humor is rather amusing.

 

[JocktheMotie]

Yeah, the intp and I have already had this happen. The adjustment to each others humor is rather amusing.

Yeah it can take a while. I find INTJs who have perfected the deadpan delivery are tough to figure out, and you'll most likely confuse the hell out of each other on numerous occasions, but like you said, that's part of the fun.

 

[hilo]

Things are so much easier when people find our occasional "head in the clouds" look cute and then attempt to seduce us, not the other way around.

However, I'd like to question that, if any INTP knew the answer to this question, would they more likely being applying said answer or talking about it on a forum?

I have extrovert qualities, so it makes me a little more comfortable talking to people. I've "seduced" people, in a loose sense.

1. Be attractive - not just your base physical appearance, but dress well and shower, etc. There is also body language in being attractive. An open stance, tilted head, arms loose, etc. Also a key ingredient is not giving a damn and showing it. That part takes practice.

2. Approach. My basic strategy involves being funny and witty, especially to start. If you are seducing someone smart, you can nerd out. If not, you can pick up one of the things you have in common (sports, movies, whatever banal topic you like) but just keep it light and moving, and don't monopolize someone in a corner. I find it helps to move around. At a party, go get a drink or dance, or go find your roommate's weed stash. Whatever. Make it more adventurous than a drunken conversation in a hallway.

Really that's it. Alcohol is a big crutch.

 

[Salomé]

Very hard to do. Once you're friend zoned it's hard to ignite the sexy-connections in the woman's brain. They associate you with safety and trust, the most unsexy characteristics imaginable!

This is simply not true.

 

[JocktheMotie]

This is simply not true.

Hmm, so all of your male friends still have a chance? The book is not closed? I'm curious about that, just going by my experience and some of my friend's experience, but once a relationship has settled into its niche I think it can be hard to break out of it and have that change.

Unless you're kidding again I've been awful lately.

 

[Salomé]

Hmm, so all of your male friends still have a chance? The book is not closed? I'm curious about that, just going by my experience and some of my friend's experience, but once a relationship has settled into its niche I think it can be hard to break out of it and have that change.

Unless you're kidding again I've been awful lately.

No, I'm not kidding. For once!

I think if a guy is not going to be a romantic prospect, it has nothing to do with timing or the way the relationship progresses. It's just a lack of chemistry. But even if the chemistry doesn't seem to be there, sometimes it can grow between friends. I've seen this happen more than once and it has happened to me too. I believe, ideally, a lover should also be your best friend.
Trust and safety CAN be sexy!

 

[hilo]

No, I'm not kidding. For once!

I think if a guy is not going to be a romantic prospect, it has nothing to do with timing or the way the relationship progresses. It's just a lack of chemistry. But even if the chemistry doesn't seem to be there, sometimes it can grow between friends. I've seen this happen more than once and it has happened to me too. I believe, ideally, a lover should also be your best friend.
Trust and safety CAN be sexy!

I agree it can happen, but it's rare. Ladder theory says so too.

 

[Salomé]

Oh well then it must be true if ladder theory says so. :rolli:

 

[figsfiggyfigs]

This is simply not true.

so true.
if a man I am interested in can also fall into the " safety" and "trustful" category, and like mentioned, it can be sexy as hell..

where as

Men that fall in the " friends zone" are not only associated with " trust " and "safety", to me, they're also going to be associated with " asexuality". They lose their "man" charm, and might as well be females.

cruel to say, but its true.

although there are exceptions, where the girl will have a guy fall into the friend zone for other reason, and still see him as a viable sexual candidate.

 

[Salt n' pepper]

No, I'm not kidding. For once!

I think if a guy is not going to be a romantic prospect, it has nothing to do with timing or the way the relationship progresses. It's just a lack of chemistry. But even if the chemistry doesn't seem to be there, sometimes it can grow between friends. I've seen this happen more than once and it has happened to me too. I believe, ideally, a lover should also be your best friend.
Trust and safety CAN be sexy!

It makes evolutionary sense for women to find trust and safety attractive.

 

[Fluffywolf]

It makes evolutionary sense for women to find trust and safety attractive.

Let's put that to the test.

Hey you... Don't worry, you can trust me never to be a part your life, so you'll be safe from me for all eternity. *wink*

 

[Salt n' pepper]

Let's put that to the test.

Hey you... Don't worry, you can trust me never to be a part your life, so you'll be safe from me for all eternity. *wink*

 

[Salomé]

It makes evolutionary sense for women to find trust and safety attractive.

Makes common sense too. I'd never sleep with anyone I didn't trust/feel safe with.

 

[cafe]

I trust my husband more than I trust anyone else on the face of the earth. I love the way I feel safe when I'm with him. If I didn't, he wouldn't be able to get me naked like he does.

Not all women are self-destructive, so guys, you have to look a little deeper instead of just blaming women for having bad taste if they don't like you.