[INTJ] I heart INTJs

[soleil]

I stare back while getting ready to put on a show. Then I break eyecontact to focus on doing something so incredibly silly, that they cannot help but smile...ever so faintly. I admit some of them can take forever to smile..but once they do I know we'll be fine

I also broke eye contact & looked up/down/around a few times then just went off to do something else while still keeping a close eye out. It was literally a cat/mouse game.... Wow, they have the strongest, most penetrating stare. It is worth it once you can crack a smile out of them.

 

[Misty_Mountain_Rose]

Y'all make me nervous with all this plotting and planning. Doesn't it un-nerve any of the other INTJ's? My suspicion has been aroused...

 

[DigitalMethod]

I don't see how an INTJ stare is different from any other type of stare... I want the details.

 

[Jgib5328]

It's cold, unfeeling, and intense.

 

[Misty_Mountain_Rose]

I only have that stare when I'm angry. I've been told I can make a person shudder when I'm pissed off. I don't yell, scream or get emotional... I get really quiet and apparently get this look in my eye like I may kill someone.

I kind of think its funny

 

[Amargith]

I also broke eye contact & looked up/down/around a few times then just went off to do something else while still keeping a close eye out. It was literally a cat/mouse game.... Wow, they have the strongest, most penetrating stare. It is worth it once you can crack a smile out of them.

Totally worth it, I so agree

Y'all make me nervous with all this plotting and planning. Doesn't it un-nerve any of the other INTJ's? My suspicion has been aroused...

Aww, I don't plan it consciously, I just notice that that's how I react to that kind of staring, in an attempt to break down the wall you guys like to put between us

I don't see how an INTJ stare is different from any other type of stare... I want the details.

Alright, you guys either look at someone like you're expecting something of them or they did something that you're judging atm. But that's about all the info that's written on your faces. Just an expecting stare or the judging. Unfortunately there's no emotion visible usually, so it's like sitting in a job interview or taking an oral test without the teacher/future potential employer telling you how you did or what you're supposed to do

So my automatic reaction is to try and get a reaction out of you, any positive reaction, preferably a smile. Once you smile, I know I've passed the exam/got the job and did the right thing

 

[Virtual ghost]

So my automatic reaction is to try and get a reaction out of you, any positive reaction, preferably a smile. Once you smile, I know I've passed the exam/got the job and did the right thing

That can also mean that you have failed it completely.
Personally I have smiled many times as a quick fix to some stuation.
If I see that the person wants me to smile I will probably be quite uninterested in that person in real life.

 

[Amargith]

That can also mean that you have failed it completely.
Personally I have smiled many times as a quick fix to some stuation.
If I see that the person wants me to smile I will probably be quite uninterested in that person in real life.

I don't settle for fake smiles
Of course, if you're genuinly not interested, then you'll automatically turn your attention away, stop staring and I'll take the hint.
Either way, it ends the uncomfortable feeling and insecurity you guys generate

 

[Virtual ghost]

I don't settle for fake smiles
Of course, if you're genuinly not interested, then you'll automatically turn your attention away, stop staring and I'll take the hint.
Either way, it ends the uncomfortable feeling and insecurity you guys generate

That is why I don't do a simple smile I do an entire show that can last for minutes.
Trust me this has little to with insecurity. (at least in my case)

 

[BlackCat]

Smothering an INTJ isn't exactly a good strategy as to getting them to like you from my experience. Talking about things you have in common and talking about their lives/hobbies/interests works so much better, then you share yours.

 

[Amargith]

Yeah smothering them gets bad results, very true. Nah I just usually go do something silly and let them stare.
Either they lose attention, or they smile. One way or another, I know where I stand. Initiating a conversation is something I only dare to do once I've gotten a smile though

 

[JocktheMotie]

Depends on what you're smothering them with, to be honest.

 

[Amargith]

Do elaborate

 

[JocktheMotie]

^^ Look down!

 

[BlackCat]

^^ Look down!

Truth.

 

[DigitalMethod]

Alright, you guys either look at someone like you're expecting something of them or they did something that you're judging atm. But that's about all the info that's written on your faces. Just an expecting stare or the judging. Unfortunately there's no emotion visible usually, so it's like sitting in a job interview or taking an oral test without the teacher/future potential employer telling you how you did or what you're supposed to do

I always knew I'd make a good job interviewer!

 

[sonata]

Y'all make me nervous with all this plotting and planning. Doesn't it un-nerve any of the other INTJ's? My suspicion has been aroused...

A bit, yes.

"Smothering them gets bad results."
"... isn't exactly a good strategy..."
"...crack a smile out of them."
"I stare back while getting ready to put on a show."

And WE'RE supposed to be clinical, over-analyzing plotters!

 

[Hazle Weatherfield]

I think I'm just drawn to Js in general because they provide that decisiveness I lack as a P, but they also end up being INs because I tune into that so well.

I love at least two INTJs (that I know of) and one is my dad.

 

[pockets]

Yeah smothering them gets bad results, very true. Nah I just usually go do something silly and let them stare.
Either they lose attention, or they smile. One way or another, I know where I stand. Initiating a conversation is something I only dare to do once I've gotten a smile though

All that fuss over getting an INTJ to respond. I think they'll come round when they want to, and if ever. I don't see the point of pressuring them that way.

If I can't decipher the meaning of an INTJ stare (for what it's worth, I think INTJ stares are inscrutable, unblinking, and rather like a cat's in its intense focus. Oh and INTJ eyes appear dead sometimes instead of what would be intense in someone else, as with most other forms of INTJ expression, I think. I heard an INTJ sing and it was dead, too, and a little pained, though relatively pitch accurate. Or that 's just my take on INTJs), I just break eye contact, shrug it off internally, and GET ON WITH WHAT I WAS INITIALLY DOING. The breaking of eye contact kind of comes naturally to me, I don't really think about it.

I'm comfortable not maintaining protracted gazes with people especially if I'm not really conscious of them. It's more likely that their eyes are just comfortable in my direction than that they're looking at me, really.

Once I am paying attention to them though, I tend to hold this INTJ's gaze for quite a bit, and that's unconscious and natural too; I don't realise I've been doing it till some time later.

That's probably an ENFP-INFP difference?

 

[Uytuun]

INTJ eyes appear dead sometimes

Yup, mine appear dead quite often I imagine, it's not just the eyes, more like the entire face - it's when we're zoned out and focussed internally and at rest.