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[ENTP] ENTP men

sculpting

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Hi, I am a happy puppy ENFP here for advice. (posted on another site already too.)

I am a biochemist turned marketer. My entire career I have been surrounded by NTs everywhere. I love them!!!! lovelovelovelove lalalala! (told you Im an ENFP) I am a whirlwind of spasticity amongst all my NTs and I have found a very good niche in my career

Most of the folks I work with I understand. INTJs with thier silly broody brillant pedanticness, INTPs who have given up at my lack of logical precision but respond in good natured fashion to my vaguely construed, random barrage of questioning.

I luv my ENTP buddies as well, most of who have been women so far. I am the Product Manager for a product that my ENTP best friend is a Project Manager for. We have verbal wars debating the theoretical merits of market driven needs vs project management constraints on our cell phones during our evening commute everyday, and enjoy every minute of it.

So where I am a little confused is with ENTP men. Looking back I realize I am completely drawn to thier company and really like being around them, however in the past was married to a pure ISTP (very, very poor match for me) and thus never really on the market. All my favorite guys in college were physicists.

I am single now but honestly I am such a poor sensor (Si) that I really dont notice how other folks look. Men or women, they are like big people blobs. Once I start talking to them, I forget what they look like and only "see" what they are. Sorry I know that sounds totally nuts. So sometimes I will look up in the midst of working with an ENTP guy and catch this odd shock when our eyes meet. like a little burst of super sensing. A few weeks back one of the ENTPs I work with was at our sales meeting (ie drunken party) and walked up behind me, and began running his hands through my hair, working out the little tangles and occasionally touching my scalp gently. It was the MOST sensual erotic thing a man has ever done to me. sorry, seems a little off but I was with an ISTP forever.

Later he held my hand for a few seconds and then made me kiss him on the cheek in front of the crowd of foks there, for some drunken reason or another. He was in the office all week, and I found I suddenly cant avoid "sensing" him. To even be in the same room with him I have to be sort of bitchy or I just lose my breath a little and cant focus. He watches me when I speak like he is studying me, or observing me. He came in and just plopped down in my office and smiles a little, watches me and takes my total bitchiness and just smiles.

I treat him like he is stupid, make fun of his PhD, (he is one arrogant bastard normally), and am kind of short with him and he just smiles and watches. stupid blue eyes.

In general he is a partying boy, who travels 75%, with a live-in girlfriend in another state.

i guess the question is are the little glances and smiles, touches, watching actual interest or just an ever roaming Ne finding possibilities? Then my Ne manages to catch thier Ne roaming annd i get confused, and my normally somewhat open Fi gets sqirriled away and all i feek okay showing is super Te.

now you too, have seen a glimpse into the scary stuff in the ENFP brain. hehehe!
 

entropie

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I would call his girlfriend and tell her what he does in his spare time.

Really reads like soft porn :D
 

INTJMom

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It's possible your response is more basic than that.
If you've gone a while without a good meal, and suddenly find a restaurant with great appetizers,
it's only natural to wonder (obsess) what one of their meals is like.
But since he has a girlfriend - unfaithful pig -
I'd advise back off.
 

Lady_X

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sounds like mutual attraction that can't go further because he's in a relationship and possibly confused of his orientation...or maybe he's bi and he knows it...or maybe he just likes the attention and does it to screw with ya...so...you can let it go...or be your blunt lil enfp self and find out.
 

sculpting

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ouch! soft core porn? Up go the defenses. mine not yours.

Sorry I am an enfp, and I write as I am. I tend towards silliness as needed however get a lot done. some like it, some dont. As for the girlfriend I strictly follow the "not my problem policy". I wouldnt sleep w the guy but i will not tell her either.

Funny enough on an entp board the overwhelming response was yes he digs you, yes he'd cheat on the girlfriend, but that is messy.

It is so funny to see a mixed auidiance eval the situation as suddenly morals come into play. hahaha!

This guy would be a waste of time except for the fun of hook ups, however I am more interested in ENTP men at large.

ENTP men eye watching has become my latest hobby. You guys are so expressive with your eyes, yet with nothing else. It is very sweet, playful and promising. potential possibilities.


entropie, i still love you. its what i do.
 

JAVO

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I'm not an ENTP, but I sometimes am mistaken for one....

My entire career I have been surrounded by NTs everywhere. I love them!!!! lovelovelovelove lalalala!
You are a sick puppy, happy puppy. :yes:

i guess the question is are the little glances and smiles, touches, watching actual interest or just an ever roaming Ne finding possibilities?
Is there a difference?

Funny enough on an entp board the overwhelming response was yes he digs you, yes he'd cheat on the girlfriend, but that is messy.
I concur.
 

Nocapszy

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now you too, have seen a glimpse into the scary stuff in the ENFP brain. hehehe!

Thanks.
'Til now, I'd never encountered an ENFP.

I can tell it doesn't take many turns of the key to wind you folks up.
 

Domino

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ENTP + GF/SO = NO GOOD.

I've been there. I didn't know he was "taken" until it was too late to totally disengage. If I had been his gf, I would have been livid. The way he talked to me, touched me, watched me, etc. The whole frikkin' garage called me/treated me like his girl. It was a strain.

Don't go there.
 

Nocapszy

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i guess the question is are the little glances and smiles, touches, watching actual interest or just an ever roaming Ne finding possibilities?

Wait hang on...

What's the difference?







Man and I thought I was like... an expert.
 

Chris_in_Orbit

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Hi, I am a happy puppy ENFP here for advice. (posted on another site already too.)

I am a biochemist turned marketer. My entire career I have been surrounded by NTs everywhere. I love them!!!! lovelovelovelove lalalala! (told you Im an ENFP) I am a whirlwind of spasticity amongst all my NTs and I have found a very good niche in my career

Most of the folks I work with I understand. INTJs with thier silly broody brillant pedanticness, INTPs who have given up at my lack of logical precision but respond in good natured fashion to my vaguely construed, random barrage of questioning.

I luv my ENTP buddies as well, most of who have been women so far. I am the Product Manager for a product that my ENTP best friend is a Project Manager for. We have verbal wars debating the theoretical merits of market driven needs vs project management constraints on our cell phones during our evening commute everyday, and enjoy every minute of it.

So where I am a little confused is with ENTP men. Looking back I realize I am completely drawn to thier company and really like being around them, however in the past was married to a pure ISTP (very, very poor match for me) and thus never really on the market. All my favorite guys in college were physicists.

I am single now but honestly I am such a poor sensor (Si) that I really dont notice how other folks look. Men or women, they are like big people blobs. Once I start talking to them, I forget what they look like and only "see" what they are. Sorry I know that sounds totally nuts. So sometimes I will look up in the midst of working with an ENTP guy and catch this odd shock when our eyes meet. like a little burst of super sensing. A few weeks back one of the ENTPs I work with was at our sales meeting (ie drunken party) and walked up behind me, and began running his hands through my hair, working out the little tangles and occasionally touching my scalp gently. It was the MOST sensual erotic thing a man has ever done to me. sorry, seems a little off but I was with an ISTP forever.

Later he held my hand for a few seconds and then made me kiss him on the cheek in front of the crowd of foks there, for some drunken reason or another. He was in the office all week, and I found I suddenly cant avoid "sensing" him. To even be in the same room with him I have to be sort of bitchy or I just lose my breath a little and cant focus. He watches me when I speak like he is studying me, or observing me. He came in and just plopped down in my office and smiles a little, watches me and takes my total bitchiness and just smiles.

I treat him like he is stupid, make fun of his PhD, (he is one arrogant bastard normally), and am kind of short with him and he just smiles and watches. stupid blue eyes.

In general he is a partying boy, who travels 75%, with a live-in girlfriend in another state.

i guess the question is are the little glances and smiles, touches, watching actual interest or just an ever roaming Ne finding possibilities? Then my Ne manages to catch thier Ne roaming annd i get confused, and my normally somewhat open Fi gets sqirriled away and all i feek okay showing is super Te.

now you too, have seen a glimpse into the scary stuff in the ENFP brain. hehehe!

It's like...caffeine in written form. :shock:
 

Ardea

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Hmm... I'm sorry, but this guy sounds like trouble.

Like... I get the feeling that he's playing with you. With your heart?
 

Kangirl

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Yep, agree with FemmeUrbane. Just read the OP through and it was all good...good...good... right up to the "live-in girlfriend" part. He's clearly sending out signals - they could mean anything from 'I'm a huge flirt and will try it on with any and every female' and 'wow I am REALLY interested in this fascinating girl' but it doesn't matter if he's got a live-in girlfriend. Do you really want to get involved with someone who behaves like this? It sounds like a recipe for disaster. Especially since you seem quite taken with him. My advice is to stay away.
 

Qre:us

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Hi, I am a happy puppy ENFP here for advice. (posted on another site already too.)


i guess the question is are the little glances and smiles, touches, watching actual interest or just an ever roaming Ne finding possibilities?

It's a I'm-bored-as-fuck-so-let's-see-what-sorta-mischief-I-can-get-up-to look. It has much less to do with you, and way more to do with him avoiding boredom and knowing you're up to indulge him.

Why do I say, 'it has much less to do with you'? Cuz he knows you know that he has a live-in gf, and the fact that you still engage with him (in whatever...), shows him you are up for killing time and an easy target. Easy target in that he doesn't gotta work his A-game to make you melt/tingle. He could bring his Z-game (touch hair, make melt), and with minimal effort, he's got you acting like a little girl (are you a girl?). You know, the schoolyard syndrome of, "ooh, I like him, so I'll try extra hard to be mean and stupid to him". You feed his arrogance, and he comes back to satiate his appetite.

Once caught, you're gonna lose your appeal, and it's gonna be the next game.

If you wanna play him, do so consciously. That means don't resort to silly whimsy of, "I'm gonna act rude to him cuz I can't let him see he gets to me" while the next second he picks up your body language of you 'melting' cuz he touched your hair. Be consistent! Be consistent in being contradictory [not predictably contradictory...there's a difference]. Otherwise, you are feeding the very arrogance that he wants you to feed.

Btw, I'm asking if you are a girl, cuz, of this quote by another member:
sounds like mutual attraction that can't go further because he's in a relationship and possibly confused of his orientation...or maybe he's bi and he knows it...or maybe he just likes the attention and does it to screw with ya...so...you can let it go...or be your blunt lil enfp self and find out.
 

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The ENTP I know currently know at work flirts shamelessly with every female there - to the point where he could easily get slapped with a harassment suit if someone decided to take it there. No one takes him too seriously, though, because a) he does it to everyone, he just spends more time with some than with others and b) whenever one of the ladies starts taking it too far, he puts on the brakes and makes jokes about whether or not his wife would approve of it.

If he isn't putting on any brakes, he'll likely go as far as your willing to take it. Be careful - besides the moral implications you also will need to protect your heart. Does he really deserve it?

^^^^ ooo, I like Qre:us' post alot. I definitely see that with my co-worker, too. It's very much a game.
 

Tiny Army

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All the ENTPs I know have been super flirtatious. I find that ENTPs make better friends than significant others, for me at least.
 
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