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[INTP] Please help! I'm in love with an INTp

INA

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I'm never interested in winning the argument and making my opponent look like a fool. Maybe when I was younger, I was. I am more determined to be heard and understood correctly, and not misrepresented, then I am determined to be seen as right. I hate people who always have to be right.
QFFT!
I lose respect real quick for people who'd rather "win" than come correct and admit they were wrong.

Yup! If I am with someone who goes for the jugular, I am 99.9% more likely to have nothing to do with them, rather than be cruel back. I have zero tolerance for that kind of thing.
And here we part ways a bit. I still on occasion indulge the bloodlust. Just not as often as I could, because I feel like poop afterwards.
 

Lady_X

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INTPs always have the potential to do this, but I think (no offense) it's a sign of an immature INTP. More mature INTPs might know all your flaws, but control the emo, so that even if someone deserves it, it won't fly out in the heat of the moment. I never go for the jugular, even when I could. Also, I could never be in a relationship with a person who would cut me to the core everytime we had an argument. I'd never be with someone who was intentionally cruel.

i'm glad you said this because i'm that way too. i think when you're a type that really understands who your with so well you have the ability to hurt them in this way...and i'm aware that i do...but i never do it. i think it in the moment but i don't say it.
 

Lady_X

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blue...it's a bit ridiculous isn't it? haha
 

Wild horses

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I have noticed the vocalising flaws thing from INTJs more... it somehow seems that the more they like someone the more they pick at them.. like a monkey or something. ... On the whole the INTPs I have known have been very kind and gentle... I also I think that you have to know when they are being objective and not being critical of you.. that helps you to see their sweet nature
 

swordpath

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In love and the first thing you do is cry for help? Maybe love isn't your thing. :D
 

runvardh

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Blue, boxes had to do with defining a relationship, but you probably forgot all about that.

Either way, apparently I seem to have the opposite experience that others do of different types when it comes to dating.
 

Marie

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I have noticed the vocalising flaws thing from INTJs more... it somehow seems that the more they like someone the more they pick at them.. like a monkey or something. ... On the whole the INTPs I have known have been very kind and gentle... I also I think that you have to know when they are being objective and not being critical of you.. that helps you to see their sweet nature


Back out of my cave. I want him and so I'm pursuing him. I'll give it another 6 months until I move on. There is no one else in sight anyway.

Okay...now I understand! This guy picked on me from the beginning and stilll does. He is a master at pushing my buttons. He also proclaimed that he can't be hurt so I have been attempting to find and push his as well. Sometimes he comes back with subtle but scathing remarks that have sent me running to my therapist. I've grown thick skin over the past few months. Since he is a weak "p" perhaps it's the INTJ side that can bring me to tears? Otherwise most times he is very gentle.

What would hurt an INTP. I tease alot and sometimes he laughs and sometimes he bites back, very hard. I haven't figured out yet what buttons are off limits.

All I know is I LOVE HIM!!! Did I mention that?:smile:
 

Nihilen

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I'm not sure that's possible, unless she uses a gun or some sharp objects.
 

Lady_X

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i thought she was tryin to find the line so she could be careful not to cross it.
 

Misty_Mountain_Rose

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Line schmine. All's fair in love and war :devil: Even weirder rules apply when both are wrapped up in the same person.
 

Lady_X

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oh no!! really??
 

Marie

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i thought she was tryin to find the line so she could be careful not to cross it.


Exactly. We tease each other a lot and sometimes we step on each other's toes which is what I don't want to do.
 

Lady_X

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see...i know stuff....haha ;)
 

Jack Flak

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Back out of my cave. I want him and so I'm pursuing him. I'll give it another 6 months until I move on. There is no one else in sight anyway.
Dear oh dear oh dear. Exactly as I predicted, nothing we say will have any effect whatsoever. Marie here was only looking for reinforcement, not rationality.

When six months comes and goes, where will you be? Unless someone better comes along, you'll likely not want to move on then. It's easier to say "six months from now" than "right now," in six months.

Okay...now I understand! This guy picked on me from the beginning and stilll does. He is a master at pushing my buttons. He also proclaimed that he can't be hurt so I have been attempting to find and push his as well. Sometimes he comes back with subtle but scathing remarks that have sent me running to my therapist. I've grown thick skin over the past few months. Since he is a weak "p" perhaps it's the INTJ side that can bring me to tears? Otherwise most times he is very gentle.
That's not his "INTJ side" (if he's INTP). It's him.
What would hurt an INTP. I tease alot and sometimes he laughs and sometimes he bites back, very hard. I haven't figured out yet what buttons are off limits.
The only thing I can think of is permanent physical injury, or let him believe he's getting something he really wants (which doesn't seem to be you, as you know), and take it away.

All I know is I LOVE HIM!!! Did I mention that?:smile:
Love and a nickel, you know the rest.
 
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