[NT] Hurt feelings and NT's

[Sunshine]

Was she really playing us or was that the cooler option after the fact?

Oh I was totally being serious.

























or was i?































































heehee

 

[INA]

 

[runvardh]

*grabs Ina's hand and starts cleaning it, digging claws in when she tries pulling away*

 

[INA]

omg. did we date?

 

[runvardh]

omg. did we date?

I'm sure you wish

 

[Amargith]

So I guess the conclusion of this thread is:

a) NT's deny to ever being hurt (possibly they're just repressing though).
b) T's and F's desperately need classes to understand each others humor.

 

[INA]

I'm sure you wish

This is creepy. I'm outta here.

 

[Misty_Mountain_Rose]

You guys are a freakin riot lol

 

[INA]

 

[runvardh]

This is creepy. I'm outta here.

You guys are a freakin riot lol

*Bows deeply*

=^.^=

 

[Totenkindly]

Thanks.

Someone had to ruin the whole damn thread by putting lolzcatz in here.

... i hate you all...

 

[Sniffles]

Many of the responses here seem to confirm my own experiences that the closer you are personally to the NT, the more you're able to hurt them.

Same basic rule applies to myself, since INFJs are supposedly the most T of the NFs.

I usually don't mind the NT sense of bantering, in fact I have a weak spot for it. Especially with my own love of bantering as a form of humour.


Just for Amargith, I'd like to share how one NT put it on another forum I often visit:

Think of this place as a clubhouse where affection is expressed through merciless ribbing, and all New Guys get hazed.

 

[Totenkindly]

I usually don't mind the NT sense of bantering, in fact I have a weak spot for it. Especially with my own love of bantering as a form of humour.

No, you'll never be one of us! NEVER!!!








(4 1, u put 2 much of u in ur humor!)

 

[Sniffles]

No, you'll never be one of us! NEVER!!!

Xenophobe!

 

[SillySapienne]

I think NTs are more sensitive to hurt feelings than NFs, yep, I do.

Hurt feelings seem to have a muted, yet prolonged effect amongst NTs.

We, NFs, accept and express our feelings, whereas NTs tend to be either entirely ignorant of them, or rather opt to deny, and, or repress their feelings.

As a general rule, we are much more comfortable with our feelings than they are, duh.

Also, I have had the misfortune of hurting a handful of NT's feelings in the past and OUCH, they tend to be total dicks when you do!!!

If you (unintentionally) hurt them, because they don't know how to deal with that hurt, or because they don't understand nor like that hurt, they tend to go all kamikaze on your ass.

Every NT I have hurt has responded to me with full blown mental/psychological warfare.

 

[Nonsensical]

Seems as though NTs have the wisdom to see above it.

 

[Sunshine]

Many of the responses here seem to confirm my own experiences that the closer you are personally to the NT, the more you're able to hurt them.

Same basic rule applies to myself, since INFJs are supposedly the most T of the NFs.
I usually don't mind the NT sense of bantering, in fact I have a weak spot for it. Especially with my own love of bantering as a form of humour.


Just for Amargith, I'd like to share how one NT put it on another forum I often visit:

I doubt that. I doubt that any F is the most T of them all. And especially not INFJs. YOU however might be very T. (If that's even possible?)

I however should win an award for being the most F of all the Fs in the world.

 

[Geoff]

I think NTs are more sensitive to hurt feelings than NFs, yep, I do.

Hurt feelings seem to have a muted, yet prolonged effect amongst NTs.

We, NFs, accept and express our feelings, whereas NTs tend to be either entirely ignorant of them, or rather opt to deny, and, or repress their feelings.

As a general rule, we are much more comfortable with our feelings than they are, duh.

Also, I have had the misfortune of hurting a handful of NT's feelings in the past and OUCH, they tend to be total dicks when you do!!!

If you (unintentionally) hurt them, because they don't know how to deal with that hurt, or because they don't understand nor like that hurt, they tend to go all kamikaze on your ass.

Every NT I have hurt has responded to me with full blown mental/psychological warfare.

It probably comes down to how healthy they are. A psychologically unhealthy NT would indeed be very unable to cope with hurt feelings.. an alien idea. But by the same token, an unhealthy NF may totally overreact (by society standards) to hurt feelings.

I'd say that given healthy well balanced NT and NF, neither are more susceptible, they just view or react to it in typecast ways.

 

[Sunshine]

It probably comes down to how healthy they are. A psychologically unhealthy NT would indeed be very unable to cope with hurt feelings.. an alien idea. But by the same token, an unhealthy NF may totally overreact (by society standards) to hurt feelings.

I'd say that given healthy well balanced NT and NF, neither are more susceptible, they just view or react to it in typecast ways.

Probably.

 

[A Schnitzel]

I however should win an award for being the most F of all the Fs in the world.