Re: Wailing Spector
This is actually exactly what an Si grip looks like.
"Everything sucks, nothing is ever gonna get better, I'm just gonna fucking give up and do the bare minimum, and while I slowly rot away, I'll just continue to blame everyone and everything else and completely neglect to own the contributions/decisions I made which led to this position in my life."
ANYWAY.... back to the topic at hand... question for the OP: I get the feeling that there is some emotional pain that you haven't yet worked through. Sometimes when we have baggage, we think what we should do is up and leave toward some exotic location. But just because you set that baggage down in a new place doesn't mean it's not gonna be there every time you turn around. Maybe you slide it under the bed, but I bet eventually you'll stub your toe on it when you least expect it. Are you recently out of a relationship? Are you divorced? Did someone previously break your heart and abandon you? Perhaps I'm way off, but I just get the impression that you feel you need this woman, and I think if that's the case, then it's possible that she started having a hard time breathing, so to speak. Maybe I'm right, maybe not, but I know I've been in a similar place and that I did move too fast and felt I needed him and only ended up more damaged than before. Perhaps it's worth contemplating why you fear abandonment? (And I think you do, otherwise you probably wouldn't have panicked/broke to this level and would have instead thought of reasons and ways to slow things down for everyone's sake).