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[MBTI General] How Talkative are You? (Open to all types.)

Upnextup

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So . . .
How talkative are you? Are you shy? And if so, is there a reason why?

I'll answering this myself too but, later. I'm feeling very lazy. :)
 

Kas

Fabula rasa
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I'm rather talkative, but I get silent when there are many people especially people I don't know well.
 

iwakar

crush the fences
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sx/sp
I will talk the ears off someone whose conversation and company I enjoy. (You poor souls, I'm sorry.)

In a group, my volume is directly at odds with the volume of the group at large. The louder they get, the quieter I get.
 

Lord Lavender

Bluered Trickster
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EVLF
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so/sp
I am overall a very talkative person and I have to make sure im not talking over others in fact :D. However I can be very quiet around people I dont know that well or those that make me feel not safe like I am fairly quiet around those who are aggressive and reactive since I dont like to invite conflict from them.
 

tchudak

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In social settings, I barely talk, if I talk at all. With close acquaintances, I can be quite talkative when an interesting subject arrives.
 

Upnextup

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In social settings, I barely talk, if I talk at all. With close acquaintances, I can be quite talkative when an interesting subject arrives.

Cool.

Thanks for the replies, guys. :)
 
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I can go through the course of a day speaking only in a business capacity and otherwise not utter a word. In a social setting unless I know the people involved well I observe far more than I speak. Even if I'm directly addressed my answers are short and to the point.

Meanwhile in my mind it's a rambling monologue of ideas and observations.
 

Dreamer

Potential is My Addiction
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Around friends, I sort of come and go with outward activity and energy and that's based on whether I'm in my head or not. That, I can't change. My mind does its own thing. One second I'll be in the moment, the next I'll be thinking on the meaning of life. Funny thing is, the thoughts I think of when I turn inwards almost never have to do with what I'm doing at the moment.

Around acquaintances or strangers, I'm very much an observer. I'll make friendly banter if someone approaches me, but eh, I'm more or less scoping the scene, what types of people are around me, what sort of social dynamics are at play here, and all that. (So dominance at play :newwink:)

But! If I'm excited about something, anything really, I will talk your ear off! Doesn't matter whether you're a strange or close friend. I could go on and on about that new thing or idea.
 
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I rarely talk at all around other people I don't know. I only go through small talk if someone else initiates. I'm very shy and rather taciturn in public settings. I've been told before that I appear stuck-up and unfriendly for this very reason. I think it's because I appear like a person who would be comfortable and open in their own skin, but then sometimes others are taken aback when they realize just how quiet I am, so they probably suspect I'm hiding something about myself or that I'm big-headed when it's really just social anxiety.

One thing I do though to try and counteract my extreme shyness is by wearing interesting clothing so that I don't fall too far into the background and as a way for me to express myself when I have a much harder time doing so in words. It's sometimes easier for me to get my point across about who I am in that way.

However, I can talk up a storm around close friends and family, sometimes to where they tell me I'm too loud and for me to shut up haha. It's a big 180 once I get really comfortable around someone.
 

highlander

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I enjoy in depth one on one conversations but an not much for groups.
 

Red Memories

Haunted Echoes
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If it is one person: Too talkative. Like tell you too much about me talkative.
A group: what is speech. Are words a reality?
 

VILLANELLE

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I do enjoy talking to people, but I can be shy at first. I don't know why, I guess I'm just naturally shy. But I always want to talk to people. I can be quiet, though. Sometimes I like to just sit back and take in the room -- I see that as being a part of something, too.
 

Hermit of the Forest

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I usually won't talk to people if I don't know them. Unless I'm in a reckless mood and so sick of the silence. Then I'll strike up a conversation with anyone who seems nice and might like to chat.

But among my inner circle I'll talk quite a bit.:bunnyglee: I'm told I can get rather loud once I warm to my subject.
 

Merced

Talk to me.
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I'm extremely talkative. Words are powerful, after all.
 

Cellmold

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Going for what I think is actually quite a common standard: I'm quiet around people I don't know but occasionally push myself to make moves to initiate conversation.

I'm easily hurt (my issue and I'm working on it) so I'm reluctant to put myself out in an advertising way as more consistently outgoing people do. However I have noticed that, frankly, outgoing people (at least in this culture) are an exception not a norm. When it comes to talkativeness I have been known in the past to be very verbose and I've picked up the bad habit of my area which is talking very fast.

This can combine to give the effect of talkativeness. However as I've gone on, even in the short time I've been here, I've calmed down a lot and become more accepting of my silences. As a child I was extremely quiet and never engaged with others but getting older I was repeatedly told and had it drilled into me that I needed social skills so I made an effort to be more outgoing.

Now I am as inconsistent as I've come to expect. I can be talkative or alternately very dead air and quiet. I would hazard, given my pre-occupation with honing skills in private, that I am more often quiet than not, however this is probably due to lack of exposure than being introverted.

I don't know if I need people though, I'm often frustrated by them and find a lot of social situations others take for granted as being spiked pits of miscommunication, ridiculous assumed expectations and distance between people. I'm also quite boring with not a great deal to offer outside of the internet, this isn't low self esteem (I'm actually much improved in that area) more a frank appraisal of my current state of being.

On the other hand sometimes socialisation is a decent outlet for conversations you've wanted to had for a while, though I rarely get the chance to discuss a lot of what I think about as it comes across as too odd for the day to day interactions, which is fair (nobody wants an information dump/word spaghetti based on your pet theories and ideas). But absence tends to improve the social interaction I do have, rather than diminish it.

Too much is just.....agony.

Having said all this I sometimes get restless and have moments of very outgoing mania where I dance about, physically bother people and make myself as irritating & loud as possible, something else I'm working on.
 

Lucy_Ricardo

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Talkativeness is not a virtue, but conversationality is. I heard a proverb once that said, "A wise man speaks because he has something to say. A fool speaks because he has to say something."

That being said, I try to be more conversational than talkative, often successfully, sometimes not. I used to be shy, and being an INFP, I'm generally more inclined to listen than to talk. But I'm in my late twenties, so a lot of the shyness of my youth has faded away, and I can strike up a conversation pretty seamlessly. Took a lot of practice, but it's natural now.
 

ceecee

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I can be but I'm not usually very talkative. I prefer one on one or small groups. I can speak to large groups or crowds if need be but there isn't much conversation in those situations.
 
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