ThePoetess
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Hi,
I am an INFJ looking for some help/advice from a few ENFPs and maybe from some others who have been in relationships with ENFPs.
My best friend of 6 months is an ENFP (sounds quick for an INFJ I know, but he has been very determined with helping me to feel safe and supported and to open up) and over time I've developed feelings for him, but I cannot figure out how he feels and how he sees me.
He doesn't show the classic ENFP characteristics of having feelings like being uncharacteristically shy or relentlessly teasing and I don't think I'm much of a mystery to him anymore. I am rather awkward and socially anxious so we don't have as many interesting intellectual conversations as we could because I don't know how to say things which may make me seem dull. He also will seem to open up to me, but afterwards I realize he didn't actually reveal much. I don't know if its an ENFP thing, if he just has a hard time opening up, or if it's his way of getting me to open up so that he can help me without having to reveal anything about himself to me.
On the other hand we have a lot of deep conversations together and an equal amount of goofy weird conversations. We support and help each other. Our dreams and goals for the future are very similar. All the time we tell each other how great and wonderful and good a friend the other is (him initiating). We loosely plan future events together (we'll go to such and such country, or one day we'll make this vacation idea come true). And he told me early on in the opening up stage of our friendship when we were talking about personality types: "I'm pretty much a typical ENFP if you ever want to learn more about me you could do some reading, its pretty accurate." so maybe he does want me to understand him at a deeper level and he's just not good with opening up vocally... I don't know.
He's the most kind, lovely, intersting, goofy, adorable, unbuilding, and deep person I have ever met and it would be really helpful to know if there ever could be a future.
With your knowledge of ENFP behavior and relationships do you think he could like me? Are there things I could/should be doing differently?
Thank you all for your time!
If you need more information or me to re-explain anything please comment so
I am an INFJ looking for some help/advice from a few ENFPs and maybe from some others who have been in relationships with ENFPs.
My best friend of 6 months is an ENFP (sounds quick for an INFJ I know, but he has been very determined with helping me to feel safe and supported and to open up) and over time I've developed feelings for him, but I cannot figure out how he feels and how he sees me.
He doesn't show the classic ENFP characteristics of having feelings like being uncharacteristically shy or relentlessly teasing and I don't think I'm much of a mystery to him anymore. I am rather awkward and socially anxious so we don't have as many interesting intellectual conversations as we could because I don't know how to say things which may make me seem dull. He also will seem to open up to me, but afterwards I realize he didn't actually reveal much. I don't know if its an ENFP thing, if he just has a hard time opening up, or if it's his way of getting me to open up so that he can help me without having to reveal anything about himself to me.
On the other hand we have a lot of deep conversations together and an equal amount of goofy weird conversations. We support and help each other. Our dreams and goals for the future are very similar. All the time we tell each other how great and wonderful and good a friend the other is (him initiating). We loosely plan future events together (we'll go to such and such country, or one day we'll make this vacation idea come true). And he told me early on in the opening up stage of our friendship when we were talking about personality types: "I'm pretty much a typical ENFP if you ever want to learn more about me you could do some reading, its pretty accurate." so maybe he does want me to understand him at a deeper level and he's just not good with opening up vocally... I don't know.
He's the most kind, lovely, intersting, goofy, adorable, unbuilding, and deep person I have ever met and it would be really helpful to know if there ever could be a future.
With your knowledge of ENFP behavior and relationships do you think he could like me? Are there things I could/should be doing differently?
Thank you all for your time!
If you need more information or me to re-explain anything please comment so