You have two threads criticizing INFJs. The language you use assumes facts not established. Let me look at your OP.
The very title of the thread "Are INFJs ever aware that perfection doesn’t exist and some other things" is immediately critical and hostile. It is insulting and condescending.
Yet I suspect you can't even see that.
Ouch, look at all those assumptions. Where is your evidence that "INFJs need perfection"? They might see better ways, but usually consider the feelings of others and are slow to be meanspirited or hypercritical. IME, it is a very different type that gets hyper critical and insensitive.
And "if the littlest thing sets them off", wowsers. IME, INFJs are actually the opposite. They accommodate to great ends before they let themselves be set off.
"Are they wanting to be by themselves" is a regular feature of INFJs and introverts, given that is how most introverts recharge.
Again, pretty rude and cold criticisms here, assuming facts that are unsupported. The word choice is not in the least bit compassionate, understanding, or empathetic.
We get that you judge the INFJs you know as "rude and cold", but neither of those is commonly associated with FJs in generally, unless they are unhealthy.
Idealism is great, but those ideas presented here are usually associated with a very different type.
Most get along really well, actually. They are kind and understanding and quickly read the emotional states of others, without needing to look inside themselves.
A lot more of scattered criticisms. Perhaps they reject your ideas not because "in reality they don't care about anything you have said" but because they just disagree. People too often mistake accommodation for agreement, so they can be shocked when they learn otherwise.
"So you pretty much mean nothing at all to them" is another huge leap without foundation.
Wow, huges leaps of irrational thinking. Again, "what I always walk away with" really is you assuming what the INFJs are thinking.
Again "if youre not 100 percent perfect in their mindset of perfection" looks like yet another assumption for which you projected your thinking on to the alleged INFJs in your life.
"In short, nothing in this world is going to make them happy." is yet another assumption and judgment critical of INFJs. There is nothing to support it.
Wow, just wow. Such a cruel and wrong judgment.
The road to hell is paved with "good intentions." Yet more assumptions, projections, and judgments.....
INFJs as vampires......interesting.
The INFJs, like all FJs, are feeling mostly externally. Many struggle to know what they are feeling themselves. INFPs tend to feel very hard internally. And look inwardly to find what others are feeling. So, your criticism here looks like more assumptions and projections.
Pretty much all FJs do. It is what external feelers do.
So, your OP is full of judgment and assumptions. It seems you are projecting things that you dislike about yourself on to INFJs, which is normal with projection.
So, again, I sorry about your relationship with people you believe to be INFJs going south. But these posts of yours are pretty hostile and appear based out of your own issues....
Could you inform me on how to name a thread so I know for the future?
My evidence is only what I've experienced with the INFJ in my circle of friends as well as what I've read from others. In almost everything I read it says they struggle with perfection and that it might be in one area of their life or in several. Also from gathering what I've been accused of from other INFJs, I wonder if they believe in perfection to such a great extent since the do the exact same thing and insist it's their personality type.
Is the reason they are slow to be mean-spirited or hypocritical all that mostly true or is it something they do in ways to avoid conflict and actually speak their minds?
If they accommodate, I think they do it within their own heads. How is another person to know that someone they're talking to (most specifically an infj) to know that? Is everyone supposed to be mind readers?
Right. I forgot to mention "unhealthy" in the title, but I think I mentioned the word unhealthy once or twice in the thread. I am sorry my overall thead was not correct.
So you're saying that I mistake accommodation for agreement? I don't. I'm more shocked on how INFJs can change their personalities and their reactions depending on which person they're hanging out with.
What more could a person assume when an INFJ doorslams? I mean is there some some sort of secret portal where an INFJ can meet with another personality type so the other person can actually know what the problem is? Is it the INFJ's way to make the other person figure out everything on their own?
I never said that INFJs were vampires. If anything, INFJs call INFP's vampires in my experiences or from what I've read. I'm just saying after someone has apologized a great deal and hasn't heard anything back -- it sort of drains you.
I never said anything about myself being perfect or innocent. I have clearly started that I have my own issues that I have acknowledged and are working at. I noticed them because of the INFJ in my life telling me that -- but I'm not sure the INFJ senses their own faults in my situation, is what I'm saying.
When someone in your life points out all of your flaws in a negative and cruel way, but doesn't at all take a look at themselves... is that exactly fair?
That seems very judgmental but of course everything I've said is completely wrong. You know INFPs -- we're always the victims while INFJs are just misunderstood and misdiagnosed if they so much as resemble anything negative -- which then makes them an INFP.
I wish I could apologize for my sarcasm, but it runs in the family.