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    Default Do You Find it Difficult to Describe Someone When Asked?

    I find I have this trouble more often than not. When someone asks me "oh, what are they like?" or just to describe anyone to someone really, I find it terribly hard to put my thoughts into words. I tend to have this emotional response to people and since that's how I identify people and think, it's almost equivalent to someone asking me how I feel. I can say good or bad, but it just doesn't do it justice. I feel the only way to accurately portray my emotions is through painting or some other creative outlet. This applies to describing people for me as well. I know exactly who they are and what they're all about, usually, but to express that to someone else so that they have the same understanding of that person as I do, is extremely difficult.

    Anyone identify with this at all??
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    Is it something like not wanting to fit into a robotic criteria?
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    Quote Originally Posted by IndigoViolet11 View Post
    Is it something like not wanting to fit into a robotic criteria?
    Eh, it's more like having this idea of someone, like being able to see their soul, who they are beyond the superficial, but not being able to translate that to others. I could just say simple descriptors to describe them like oh, they're nice, but I always feel I'm doing a disservice to them by not accurately describing the entirety of who they are and what they're all about.

    But I like that, I guess you can say it is somewhat like not wanting to attach a simplistic view to them, some robotic criteria
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    Quote Originally Posted by Enthusiastic_Dreamer View Post
    Eh, it's more like having this idea of someone, like being able to see their soul, who they are beyond the superficial, but not being able to translate that to others. I could just say simple descriptors to describe them like oh, they're nice, but I always feel I'm doing a disservice to them by not accurately describing the entirety of who they are and what they're all about.

    But I like that, I guess you can say it is somewhat like not wanting to attach a simplistic view to them, some robotic criteria
    Oh thank! While words are different from complex feelings, there are two case senario I can relate to. Partly becauae I have experienced a lack of knowledge of my own emotion in the past.

    First is when the feeling cannot be expressed properly due to a lack of understanding of the feeling, its complexity, or both. That we can make more sense out of it, like a thinking process that turns in later in life after the initial feeling based sponge, lacking something that can give a clearer picture of oneself, and others as well.

    The second one is the general lack of appropriate words, either in the language famialirlty, or the problem with the language itself. This will mean that the vocabulary available to describe a person is limited.

    Depends which one it is. It can be at times both.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Enthusiastic_Dreamer View Post
    Eh, it's more like having this idea of someone, like being able to see their soul, who they are beyond the superficial, but not being able to translate that to others. I could just say simple descriptors to describe them like oh, they're nice, but I always feel I'm doing a disservice to them by not accurately describing the entirety of who they are and what they're all about.

    But I like that, I guess you can say it is somewhat like not wanting to attach a simplistic view to them, some robotic criteria
    I have exactly that same problem! In my mind they are all of their hopes and dreams and quirks and traumas and loves and hates and ideals and memories and everything I love about them and you can't translate any of that in a description of them to someone who doesn't know. It is horribly frustrating.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Enthusiastic_Dreamer View Post
    I find I have this trouble more often than not. When someone asks me "oh, what are they like?" or just to describe anyone to someone really, I find it terribly hard to put my thoughts into words. I tend to have this emotional response to people and since that's how I identify people and think, it's almost equivalent to someone asking me how I feel. I can say good or bad, but it just doesn't do it justice. I feel the only way to accurately portray my emotions is through painting or some other creative outlet. This applies to describing people for me as well. I know exactly who they are and what they're all about, usually, but to express that to someone else so that they have the same understanding of that person as I do, is extremely difficult.

    Anyone identify with this at all??
    I have this as well: when I talk to someone new I quickly seem to "know" that person, I visualize their soul or something but hardly have the words to describe it. I have to talk to other people about that person and can then add to, change or confirm their descriptions.
    It's the same with myself as well: I can never honestly tell someone how I am. "Well", "fine" or "OK" seem too superficial and hardly describes my state of mind. It's never "bad" though, because it can always get worse.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DaveG View Post
    It's the same with myself as well: I can never honestly tell someone how I am. "Well", "fine" or "OK" seem too superficial and hardly describes my state of mind. It's never "bad" though, because it can always get worse.
    I struggle with that as well. I've been told the simplest way to get around that is too say you are unbelievable, haha. Some will take it as you being positive and upbeat, while those who really care will ask why and you will get a chance to go deep into a description of your state of mind instead of just a one word sum like "fine" or "meh".
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    Interesting to me that INFJs seem to resonate with this. Hmm... *questions INFJ typing possibility*

    But really, I imagine it's the combination of intuition and a high feeling function. The duo seems to provide this ability to feel someone else, often times providing a deep picture of that person to the point where words fail to describe them.

    Thanks for the responses guys! I wonder if anyone else also runs into this issue. Good to know I'm not alone in this. I told a few people this before and they just gave me blank stares.
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    I don't have problems verbalizing others if I want to (I rarely do) but I find it hard to verbalize myself. I absolutely hate, hate, hate the usual job interview question "tell us something about yourself" or the general "how are you".
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nico_D View Post
    I don't have problems verbalizing others if I want to (I rarely do) but I find it hard to verbalize myself. I absolutely hate, hate, hate the usual job interview question "tell us something about yourself" or the general "how are you".
    ^ Basically.

    I have no problem describing another person or people--I love to write stories, so there's that--but I have a greater difficulty in describing myself overall. Don't even ask me how I feel.. I'll just draw a blank and clam up.
    Don't know if it's an NF thing more so than it is with struggling with using Ti, I think.

    Tertiary: Introverted thinking (Ti)
    Ti seeks precision, such as the exact word to express an idea. Ti notices the minute distinctions that define the essence of things, then analyzes and classifies them. Ti examines all sides of an issue, looking to solve problems while minimizing effort and risk. Ti uses models to root out logical inconsistency.

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