This is interesting.
This kid I know is somehow confusing to me. He is being raised by SFJs, is a little spoiled, very extroverted, and keeps his emotions visible (when he does emote). At the same time he seems a bit oblivious to other people's feelings and tends to be rude from time to time - and doesn't seem to notice (or care about) that either. His Ne is notorious.
I typed him ENTP.
I found out he had recently been blackmailed by a bully at school. The other kid threatened to call him names, so he paid him to keep his mouth shut. He also gets very angry when his friends criticize him. Though he has no problem doing the same to them.
I think he doesn't want to fit in and goes by the beat of his drum and yet is very affected by what other people think of him.
Can you relate to that on any level? Would you say you were in some ways similar to him when you were a child? Or is that completely alien to you?
I am not extremely extroverted, but I am extroverted and have many friends. However, I do not always let my emotions become visible unless they are very extreme. I don't get angry, but I do ask people why they feel the way that they do towards me if I care about the relationship. Criticism is important to me, and so are my relationships.
I don't know how other people feel, and I am insensitive to it. It's not that I don't care about how people feel, but I honestly do not understand how people feel. When taking part in some activities such as a sport, I often become so immersed in what I do that I often forget to make a conscious effort to understand how I make people around me feel. However, I am tolerant of most people as long as they do not antagonize me without reason. Even then it is very rare that I will take it personally, unless their actions affect me in very drastic ways.
I have been diagnosed with inattentive ADD, if that is relevant.
However, as a child, I could definitely relate to this. I have grown up a lot since then, however. I have my moments of occasional rudeness, but I rarely do this without making up afterwards, with the exception of a few people who I truly do not want to associate myself with. Coincidentally, one of these exceptions happens to be a girl in one of my classes who I have typed as INTJ, which is apparently your type. At one point we were friends, but that relationship has since faded.
I do not understand why she hates me, or even if she does. She once told me that she thought I was smarter than her, and my underachieving habits regarding my responsibilities irritated her (I'm paraphrasing, but this is a combination of things that she has said to me). She is very cold and passive-agressive towards me, and I have argued with her numerous times during class. Occasionally she is friendly towards me, but I would classify it as being civil. I don't really have the time or patience to repair this relationship, because I honestly don't know how. I can read the vast majority of people well, but understanding the thought processes and feelings of someone that is around my intellectual level is a challenge that is beyond me. To be honest, the thought of doing it scares me, because I have no idea what I would be getting myself into and how deep her feelings of animosity towards me goes.
This is a rare exception, however, and I only mentioned it to you because I believe her to be your type. I also brought it up because I'm hoping that you could give me some insight and advice on how to repair this relationship, if possible.
To answer your question, I might appear to be this way to some people. However, I do make an effort to fit in and am a part of many different social circles. I don't have a problem fitting in, but sometimes I can be very rude and hostile. There are also a good number of people who can barely stand me, but a much greater proportion of people who like me and enjoy my company.
As a child, I kept a small circle of close friends, and spent much of my time antagonizing everybody else and they didn't like me for it. I would consider myself to be very unpopular as a child, but I am very different now. I have calmed down since then and try my best to keep from being a burden to those around me.
