I just really don't generally remember my dreams for more than like a day. I'm also not superstitious at all, so that may have contributed to the impression.
Are you saying I'm more philosophical, or EJCC?
The functions are different from each other
ENFJ- Fe-Ni-Se-Ti
INFJ- Ni-Fe-Ti-Se
ESFJ- Fe-Si-Ne-Ti
ISFJ- Si-Fe-Ti-Ne
NFJ's don't use introverted sensing. SFJ's don't use Introverted intuition.
Thanks so much for joining the forum just to answer my post. I think there's another forum achievement for me. Thanks for the well written response. This is quite an exceptional feat you did here and I very well appreciate it. I will be using you certainly as reference as there has been only a few sources that have been able to comprehend the depth of my questions because I understand some people have time restraints but I know you do so too! Whether you're here to stay or just merely here for the time being I can tell I'd easily like a person like you.
I am very much into the how and why into the things and you gave good concrete examples balancing both theory and application. Now by se in your instinctual variant reference do you mean by so or sp? Your wife very much reminds me of my mom who she would want more friends but is content at least on the outside, living a life with just her family and my dad. She doesn't need to worry too much about how her social status or anything really and she is quite introverted too.
Now while currently I'm in a haze whether I'm an INFJ or INTJ is that I am happy to express myself with running through surges of anxiousness because of high sensitivity, but it's so easy just to tell people up straight rather than trying to find a white lie or roundabout answer to tell someone the "polite" way. I know I cannot be IXFP because I don't have inferior Te responses but rather inferior Se responses. I believe my Fi is tertiary too because I don't have "deep feelings" at least frequent enough and I don't like to show my feelings as much even though sometimes that's all I want to do in hopes of a savior sometimes but I know even the most amazing people don't just respond to strangers in a very well caring tone because of all of a sudden motion which can seem like I'm only trying to manipulate or I'm crazy lol.
But all in all, I'm going to try to devise some questions or formulate some situations in my head how to best approach people and learn what they truly desire.
Thanks so much again.
Hello. Allow me to introduce myself. I am Kheledon's wife. I'm an ISFJ. His description of me is accurate. Being an ISFJ means that Forums are not my natural habitat. I am usually very quiet and seem to have little to contribute. I am however trying to work on that. I have suffered significant brain damage throughout my childhood which makes things more difficult for me than would naturally be. If you have any questions about my type I would be happy to help you answer them.
So, it's been many of the forum members saying they know an INFJ or ENFJ in their lives and I'm utterly confused to find a member of my own kin, in fact pictures that have been shown of NFJ's still look SFJ-like to me, are only type 4's the ones that show themselves differently? or are type 4's just different in attitude? (which are like the majority of acclaimed INFJ types)
Please help. Maybe I'm passing by them all my days long failing to identify them. And sorry for the special snowflake excuse because I feel wildly different from anyone else, so what are some key indicators by either appearance, or by the way they introduce themselves, how so?
I'm desperate, I'm googling and so far I'm on tumblr:
^Apparently I'm not as cool.
I am pleased that you found my rather lengthy essay to be useful. I think I'd like you too if we were to ever meet. As an ENFJ, my charm works better in face-to-face encounters.
As to your question, I note that I used the wrong abbreviation for this instinct. By "se" I meant "sp" (i.e. security is my second instinct). I will edit my original post to reflect the proper abbreviation.
As to your use of a sensory descriptor for what you understand to be an intuitive concept (i.e. you used the word "picture" (an S word) to describe what I would call a "relationship" issue), then if, in fact, your mother is an S, it follows that you probably learned your language skills from her, and that may explain why you chose an S word when you were describing an N concept (i.e. a sensory and descriptive (S) word as opposed to relational and theoretical (N) word). Having read your posts, and considering that the vast majority of people who are willing to engage in these kinds of discussions are Ns, I'd say you look like an N to me.
Regards, and thank you for the kind words!
Hello. Allow me to introduce myself. I am Kheledon's wife. I'm an ISFJ. His description of me is accurate. Being an ISFJ means that Forums are not my natural habitat. I am usually very quiet and seem to have little to contribute. I am however trying to work on that. I have suffered significant brain damage throughout my childhood which makes things more difficult for me than would naturally be. If you have any questions about my type I would be happy to help you answer them.
I'm not the least bit supersitcious either. Actually I don't think any of us are.
My ENFJ thinks it's hilarious (superstition). Even really normal superstitions like not talking about a potential no-no in baseball.
I've always considered superstition to be a case of undifferentiated intuition, rather than an example of typical "N" types.
No sir. You are guilty of a far more heinous crime. The crime of being a dude constantly using pictures of hot females in ur profile picture.
Which confuses men and lead them away from the path of Jesus. And straight into *inventive name for a cliché 80ies gay biker hangout* and other dens of inequities.
*throws handerchief at u*
Oh right. Which reminds me. Infjs are WAY creepier than isfj.
That should help telling them appart
My suspicions are as follow: he is a lesbian.I wasn't paying much attention and I thought Forever was female.
But nothing worthwhile comes easy, so I'll keep calling INFJs creeps, dorks and other pet names for my own amusement.
We prefer the term eccentric.
I did figure out my instinctual variant stacking to my satisfaction in the last couple of days. So/Sx.
For a type 4 this helps a great deal.
http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/enneagram-type-profiles/68728-type-4-enneagram-instinctual-subtypes.html
Finally found a description of Enneagram 4 that I relate to, with the So/Sx type.
I also read a lot of articles on type 4 and the instinctual variants in general.
Also, the videos this youtuber makes I just love. They gave me a little more insight into possible blindspots for INFJs.
https://www.youtube.com/user/mylianoir/videos
So maybe they'll help someone else reading this post that hasn't seen them.
We are probably the rarest MBTI type
I actually come across INFJ males, arguably the least populous type, fairly regularly because they are incredibly easy to spot.
See below.
This has been my experience as well. INFJ's seem to be much more common than the statistics seem to lend towards. It could be that I know what to look for, but I find them fairly easy to point out as well. J's in general are pretty easy to sort for me. P's not so much.
1. Interaction styles
INFJs gravitate more towards being in position of influence and directing people. They want to be the guides, not be guided. They frequently initiate organizing and directing people within their sphere, in a direct manner. They are trying to shape things inline with a vision.
ISFJs prefer to be more supportive than guiding, less need to be directly influential (although like all Fe types, they seek to create consensus), and they may even seek the influence of others to guide them. Unlike the other background style types, they don't seek out independence so much. They do more indirect initiation, suggesting things and trying to shape consensus as it emerges. They generally try to maintain things. Don't mistake any guilt-tripping, offering of unwanted advice, etc, as really taking a lead.
2. All the typical N vs S stuff.
Don't be fooled by ISFJs who like to read or have some intellectual interests. ISFJs may consume some abstract/theoretical stuff, but they do not really generate it. INFJs are not as obvious generators as NPs, but it is still there. It is usually a single focus for a time period, as opposed to multiple generations on a regular basis. They can switch the focus suddenly though, so not diehard loyalists like SFJs tend to be.
I almost mistyped an ISFJ recently as INFJ, because e6 can make some ISFJs seem to have a "depth", but she has no ideas of her own. She has no future vision, but just supports the ideas and direction of people she has established trust with.
3. Temperament
Do they fit the guardian, loyalist SJ archetype or the idealist, identity-seeking NF archetype? Don't confuse the loyalist dedication to maintaining certain ideals as idealistic. Think of idealism as a more imaginative and theoretical orientation to reality. NFs seek what is not there yet, not just maintaining, even if what is trying to be maintained never quite was (ie the Si romanticizing of the past).
4. Their vibe.
Do they feel THERE in a grounded, earthy way? Then ISFJ. Do they feel simultaneously absent, as if detached from the present mentally, but with a warm, laser focus in the face and eye? INFJ.
INFJs are very easy to spot. If you think they could easily be another type, then they probably are.
I actually come across INFJ males, arguably the least populous type, fairly regularly because they are incredibly easy to spot. Plus they are often trying to date me