Guy V. Malaxia
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- Oct 10, 2011
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- INFJ
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As far as I can tell, yeah. Usually there's some type of common ground with any person upon which I can establish a superficial connection. There have been people (usually in a work setting) with whom I can co-exist without any apparent issues but whose company would not be enjoyed in a more casual environment.
I think the bottom line is that I can usually tell who clicks well with me and who doesn't and then adapt to prevent any problems. I'm quite stubborn and have some strong opinions, but those would not be shared until I think any particular person would be a match with me on a deeper level, so I think that's why I seem to get along with most people: I hold back possible points of friction.
To illustrate, my manager is a very aggressive, opinionated ExTJ type who's generated quite the reputation as being somewhat racist, sexist, homophobic, etc., all of which are counter-points to my own personal set of values, yet I don't really have any problems with him at work. I just pick and choose my battles and make sure I'm never putting myself in a position to let my guard down and get riled up by anything he may say. If anyone were to look at our relationship I imagine it would be concluded that we "get along."
Would I ever wish to socialize with him off the clock? Absolutely not.
I think the bottom line is that I can usually tell who clicks well with me and who doesn't and then adapt to prevent any problems. I'm quite stubborn and have some strong opinions, but those would not be shared until I think any particular person would be a match with me on a deeper level, so I think that's why I seem to get along with most people: I hold back possible points of friction.
To illustrate, my manager is a very aggressive, opinionated ExTJ type who's generated quite the reputation as being somewhat racist, sexist, homophobic, etc., all of which are counter-points to my own personal set of values, yet I don't really have any problems with him at work. I just pick and choose my battles and make sure I'm never putting myself in a position to let my guard down and get riled up by anything he may say. If anyone were to look at our relationship I imagine it would be concluded that we "get along."
Would I ever wish to socialize with him off the clock? Absolutely not.