I am right there with you man. I do the same thing, no matter how interested I am in a girl if she doesn't make the first move, I play dead. Even sometimes when they do make the first move I go crazy trying to figure out if it was a move or not.
I hate hate HATE the whole "game" thing and mostly say I refuse to play but I guess I have to. I'll be sooo glad when I am in a serious relationship and don't have to worry about it anymore.
User Tag List
Thread: Question to the ENFP's
-
08-08-2008, 12:58 AM #31
-
08-08-2008, 01:00 AM #32
i think the worst problem for me now is contemplating whether a girl, no matter how great she is. its the whole grass is greener thing... because i don't want to do anything stupid. i don't believe in cheating, and i don't believe in divorce, and i don't like breaking up with girls. i a sense i'm doomed.
-
08-08-2008, 01:03 AM #33
-
08-08-2008, 01:06 AM #34
I don't believe in cheating :
I don't believe in divorce :
I don't like breaking up with girls That's the hardest part isn't it?
I thought I was completly unable to break up with guys. Lately, I managed to, so now, I am quite proud to be able to get out of a bad relationship by myself! I thought, I would never manage to.
-
08-08-2008, 01:23 AM #35
when it comes to relationships, i have to be able to exercise thinking and judging. i'm not great at it but it gets better. i use intuition and feeling to help support my decisions, because fortunately for me love requires both a rational mind and mature heart.
-
08-08-2008, 04:46 AM #36
im one of those "she needs to make the first move, and even then ill just over analyze it" people too haha.
the problem is that most girls dont make the first move or put themselves out there first. so then i end up only "attracting" girls i dont really like.
example: "if they aint blushing, i aint talking". im often only confident to flirt with a girl if im getting: puppy eyes, touching my arm etc, smiles for no reason. The problem is that then i only end up flirting with the "easy ones" who act this way with everyone! its terrible!
and the girls i actually am probably better for...well since i never get the puppy eyes, smiles for no reason, touching my arm etc...well then i never try and flirt with them to begin with! ...which just leads it to the friendzone from the start hahahaha
sometimes i think i should of been on seinfeld. i would of been perfect at those george castanza rants about life being unfair.
-
08-08-2008, 05:13 AM #37
How old are you, guys?
I think, it changes when you turn 30
-
08-08-2008, 05:19 AM #38
- Join Date
- Aug 2008
- MBTI
- INFJ
- Posts
- 16
-
08-08-2008, 07:27 AM #39
-
08-08-2008, 08:02 AM #40
Don't worry ENFPs, you'll flip the switch one of these days and become an extroverted love machine.
Don't worry.
Hahahaahah.
Srsly though, I am the flip opposite but only after making the concerted effort and commitment to getting over the 'paralyzed to make the first move' bump. It took me a good year, honestly more like 2 years to get to the point where I am now. I am very much of the "me likey -- how you doin'?" mindset now. I like to think I'm that way about my life in general and exploring things that appeal to me.
SOOOOOOOOO much (more) fun.
Similar Threads
-
A question to the individuals that choose to conceal their MBTI type
By Eluded_One in forum Myers-Briggs and Jungian Cognitive FunctionsReplies: 34Last Post: 03-11-2015, 05:25 PM -
question to the people of the UK about grilled cheese aka cheese toasties
By prplchknz in forum Home, Garden and NatureReplies: 23Last Post: 09-04-2014, 12:32 AM -
[ENFP] Insight to the ENFP? No idea here :/
By girlinthePNW in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)Replies: 6Last Post: 03-12-2013, 12:20 AM -
[INFJ] A Question To The Ladies From A Male INFJ
By BMEF in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)Replies: 7Last Post: 09-27-2010, 02:43 PM -
[ENFP] How do I get to the dating phase with an ENFP?
By YoungGun2112 in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)Replies: 15Last Post: 04-17-2009, 10:53 AM