ENFP's: Good or Bad Listeners?

[nomadic]

lol

bc of this thread, i like totally listen carefully to people when they talk about stuff nowadays. lol

[maxk299]

5 to 10 minutes?!?!?!?!?

When I conversate, discussions/conversations/debates can, and often do, last and endure for hours, like many, many hours.

Defiantly I've stayed up the last two nights debating the merits of capitalism vs. socialism and dual inheritance theory with some commies. Its really the best way to get close to people and cut through the BS.

[SillyGoose]

5 to 10 minutes?!?!?!?!?

When I conversate, discussions/conversations/debates can, and often do, last and endure for hours, like many, many hours.

I have no time for some bull-shit "hey, how's it goin?" chat, cuz, let's face it, a 5 to 10 minute verbal exchange between two people, is exactly that, shoot-the-shit-chit-chat.

bleh

Getting to know people, by hearing them out, *really* hearing them out has always been my thing, I thought that was part and parcel to what makes us people-person ENFP's

It is, I believe.

However, it has to be something we are interested in as well -- if not, I think I can be seen as a bad listener.

[ConchShell]

I am the same as SillyGoose in that I have to be interested in the topic to be a really attentive and good listener. Otherwise I end up pretending I'm listening, but really I'm planning in my mind the next interesting thing I will do. I don't know how convincing my pretending is!

[OiEarthGirl]

I can read anyone in about 1-2 minutes of interrogation, and then chamilion mode turns on, not to be rude, but I like to engage people on their level, and I enjoy it too, so its not like it hurts anyone.

This is me all over (cheesus I love this site)! I think its a trate of ENFP's that we have a knack for understanding other people incredibly quickly. And I always try to talk to people on their level.

There are a lot of things my friends will tell me that they won't talk to anyone else about. I don't always ask for it, but I always get told. And I think thats down to the fact that I'm genuinly interested in other peoples lives and I really do listen.

But like a lot of you have said, I actually end up saying very little about myself. I'm quite good at saying a few little details that make people feel like I am to prompt them into talking further, but I really have trouble talking about me. My real goal is to understand people better and to help as good as I can. I think because of this enthusiasm to help I can sometimes have a tendancy to jump in with advice left right and center that people don't really want.

[runvardh]

I find it entertaining how they're able to transmit and receive at the same time...

[Izzybeef]

I personaly love listening to peoples problems and advising them on how to get the most beneficial if not neutral results. I can't speak for everyone or all enfps for that matter, but when someone I know has a problem I am almost always the first they seek for advise or the "truth" so to speak. Though I can easily listen I have a harder time NOT putting in my input. I wouldn't necissarily say it's bad but some people just do not care to hear anybodies opinion or insights (in which case, through my experience, they are probably talking out of their ass).
I am also a borderline entp...I'm not sure if that means anything significant in regards to this though.

In any case enfps are known to take an objective rather than subjective taking a stance; though they are also known for being empathetic and able to easily relate to another type...so ultimately this would make them the best listeners, I think.

ps.excuse the numerous grammatical errors

[BlueScreen]

I find it entertaining how they're able to transmit and receive at the same time...

Haha . Actually I think that is transmit and receive multiple things at the same time.

[alcea rosea]

Haha . Actually I think that is transmit and receive multiple things at the same time.

Absolutely! I agree.

[Lady_X]

i love conversations...i love it when people open up and ask for advice...i love to listen to people tell me funny or interesting stories...but quite honestly have a lot of trouble listening if i'm not interested or if i already know what they are about to say.
i have a few people in my life who always use way too many words when i almost always already know what they're going to say...and it tries my patience a lil bit.