cafe
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I don't have a lot of dating experience either, but I'm guessing that when you meet a girl, if she seems like she might be someone you might consider a relationship with you should ask her out. Do not wait around until you know her better (and inadvertently wind up in the friend zone), plan on getting to know her via dating. Asking someone out on a date is not a marriage proposal, so if it turns out she's not what you're looking for, you can break it off.
This will also keep you from wasting time on passively pursuing girls with whom you have no chance. When you passively pursue a girl waiting for her to make a move or show a sign, you can neuter yourself in her mind, if that makes sense. You want to avoid that.
I don't have a lot of experience with INFJ guys, but I've known a couple of INFP ladies men, so I know it can be done. You just need technique, I think.
This will also keep you from wasting time on passively pursuing girls with whom you have no chance. When you passively pursue a girl waiting for her to make a move or show a sign, you can neuter yourself in her mind, if that makes sense. You want to avoid that.
I don't have a lot of experience with INFJ guys, but I've known a couple of INFP ladies men, so I know it can be done. You just need technique, I think.