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[NF] What happens when NF explodes?

silverchris9

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Hmmm... my friends say that I never get angry, and I generally don't. The last time I was really, really mad it was at one of my friends, but I was forced to conclude that he was in the right (and a really good friend), so it wouldn't behoove me to go flying off the handle at him. But I was still really, really pissed. When I went home I was eating some yogurt and ended up chewing on the aluminum(?) lid, as if that was how I expressed anger. It was weird. If I ever did actually lose control, I can't imagine what I'd be like.
 

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Last time I got really angry was several years ago when I was still married and my husband was out of work, collecting unemployment, and I was working 12 hour days and paying the bills, and every month, the cable bill would be different and sometimes different enough to throw me off budget, so I went to the cable company and stood in line, with people standing behind me in line, and asked why the bill was so high this month, and she said Pay Per View. I said nobody's watching pay movies at my house I can tell you. She said yes they are and she called up the titles, and they were all porn films, and the people in line behind me are snickering. So I see that my husband rather than looking for work is lying on the couch jacking off to porn all day, running up bills I have to pay. I came in the house shrieking like a banshee, slammed everything that could be slammed, all the kitchen cabinet doors and all the regular doors, and I picked up a couple of things and slammed them to the floor just for the pleasure of breaking them, even picked up the top of the toilet tank with both hands and flung it to the floor, screaming at him the entire time, I don't even know what I said, but none of it was nice.

Oh, I went berserk one night when this car parking under my window kept honking its horn and I couldn't get any sleep. The longer they kept it up, the more tense I got, until finally I grabbed the baseball bat and flew down the three flights of stairs in my nightgown, barefoot, talking about I'm gonna smash your lights in if you don't get off this street and stop honking. They said they were trying to tell someone their ride had arrived. I said well one of you go to their door, then, don't sit out here honking in the middle of the night, waking up the entire high rise. You think nobody can hear you except this one person? They said they couldn't go to the door because they couldn't remember exactly where he lived. We got in an argument about whether or not that was stupid and some names were called.
 

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from what I can tell, when NFs "loose it" they become homicidal, or nearly. It's like everything good in them just drained out through their feet.

I speak from personal experience and I try very hard not to "loose it" because when I have "lost it" I'm generally capable of actually killing someone.
 

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Yeah, that's probably why it doesn't happen that often, luckily (at least for me).
 

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That but like a fragmentation bomb, keeping the anger inside and blasting it in your face at random times.

Discussion with an INFJ, while having a drink
*pleasant talk*
-spider senses tinggling, ouch, something is wrong, she will tell me AGAIN about that thing I did 3 months ago..-
"You know that time you (x) that was freaking dumb"
'yeah I know, I'm sorry'
"That was really dumb dumb dumb"
'yes...'
"no but really like, idiotic"
'right'
 

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from what I can tell, when NFs "loose it" they become homicidal, or nearly. It's like everything good in them just drained out through their feet.

I speak from personal experience and I try very hard not to "loose it" because when I have "lost it" I'm generally capable of actually killing someone.

I find it is more when I can no longer see anything I value as human in a person, I no longer have a conscience. Which sort of isn't good when combined with knowing exactly how to destroy them, and not liking them. I have a really bad habit of attacking the foundations psychologically, normally with the same method they use on others, but a lot more precision. I don't really go the sparing match, just calmly throw the spanner in the right place to start meltdown.

Luckily it is very difficult to get me to see nothing in anyone. You probably need to have no conscience and be quite destructive over a long period of time, and ignore a squillion really clear and assertive warnings I give you. And clarifications of the impact of your actions that i give you.
 

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I stop thinking and just react. Till the irritation is removed.

It hasn't really happened in the last 15 years. Repairing walls, replacing furniture, and dealing with the justice system, are too expensive in time and money.
 

Travo7

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well, define "explode"

If you mean just losing control, plain and simply, that usually happens when I'm really stressed or too pessimistic about life in general.

I don't really find it to be a bad thing per se, because usually I just get it out of my system and it's over, and apologies ensue.

I think it can also be a largely cultural/social thing as well. Brazilians (broad generalizations coming) are pretty vocal with their anger, and pretty dramatic when they are pissed. Spats, and squabbles are quite common in most households, where people lose control of their emotions, blah, blah, blah, etc...but it usually ends ok, as in it's just a part of everyday living, and not a big deal. This can seem scandalous in some cultures, I guess...

Personally, I don't think I've ever done anything more than put a hole in a wall, or beat the shit out of my futon with a baseball bat. but that was way back in middle school. I don't really do anything like that anymore since I have much greater emotional control and can keep it in to a point. But when it crosses the "line", and I have to say something, my anger usually manifests itself in a heated debate, complete with jittery hands and nervous pacing back and forth, followed by minor self-destructive behavior, like drinking too much, or smoking way too much (which now isn't a problem since I switched to e-cigarettes, haha). Glad to say it doesn't happen very often. :)


Now, if you mean lose it as in going "postal", I really couldn't say...:D
 

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lets see here I yell, then I want to stab the person who pissed me off. I go off steam for awhile plan the best way to kill them and how to get rid of the evidence. Then I get too lazy to do anything.
 

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lets see here I yell, then I want to stab the person who pissed me off. I go off steam for awhile plan the best way to kill them and how to get rid of the evidence. Then I get too lazy to do anything.

I'm not sure if I should laugh or empathise, so I'll just hug.:hug:
 

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I'm not an NF but I think loosing it is just stupid, it proves how out of control and de-evolved you are. You're not in a calm diplomatic place, you're just spitting your relentless anger everywhere which is impossible to reason with.

I haven't experienced anger since I was a kid, if you think you need anger in your life I just want to say I've lived a very happy life thus far without it.
 

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I'm not an NF but I think loosing it is just stupid, it proves how out of control and de-evolved you are. You're not in a calm diplomatic place, you're just spitting your relentless anger everywhere which is impossible to reason with.

I haven't experienced anger since I was a kid, if you think you need anger in your life I just want to say I've lived a very happy life thus far without it.

I'll bite. I'll play devil's advocate to that. What anger can lead us towards, is the argument there. There is such a thing as a "just" anger used for good. Are you not angry when an innocent man is sent to prison? Are you not angry when the ones you love are hurt and wrongfully accused and demeaned? Anger controlled is honorable, anger uncontrolled is dishonorable. The same applies to jealousy, the intolerance of unfaithfulness, as jealousy is also honorable depending on what one is faithful to. Both feelings come from an unfairness, that must be met with fairness and the truth.

What I think you're talking about however, is simply irrational people, who get angry first and think later, rather than the other way around. Hot Heads, if you will. The people who would never even think to ask: Is it just, for me to be angry? Is it just, for me to be jealous? Angry for the sake of being angry. Towards those meatheads, we're on the same page lukepd.

My point in all of this, is that if you do not feel anger, you are indifferent to the sufferings of others, and are not empathetic to the world around you, and life is simply self interest. Anger is a necessity towards justice and truth, peace and love. It safeguards righteousness from unrighteousness, truth from lies, good from evil. I would question anyone's moral compass who says they are not angry towards injustice.
 

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I'm not an NF but I think loosing it is just stupid, it proves how out of control and de-evolved you are. You're not in a calm diplomatic place, you're just spitting your relentless anger everywhere which is impossible to reason with.

I haven't experienced anger since I was a kid, if you think you need anger in your life I just want to say I've lived a very happy life thus far without it.

I don't get angry either. But get frustrated by the world sometimes, and annoyed with myself a bit.

Actually, just to throw it out there, I think ENFPs probably get angry the least of all types.
 

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I'm not an NF but I think loosing it is just stupid, it proves how out of control and de-evolved you are. You're not in a calm diplomatic place, you're just spitting your relentless anger everywhere which is impossible to reason with.

I haven't experienced anger since I was a kid, if you think you need anger in your life I just want to say I've lived a very happy life thus far without it.

I wouldn't want to evolve to a point in which someone hits me/hurts me, and I walk away because hitting them or losing it would show how out of control or de-evolved I am.

Sometimes you have to be an ape in a ape's world, and swing with the monkeys in the trees.
 

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I wouldn't want to evolve to a point in which someone hits me/hurts me, and I walk away because hitting them or losing it would show how out of control or de-evolved I am.

Sometimes you have to be an ape in a ape's world, and swing with the monkeys in the trees.

Who said you can't hit someone and not be angry?

"I'm hitting you cause you're an idiot for hitting me, don't make me laugh"

I'll bite. I'll play devil's advocate to that. What anger can lead us towards, is the argument there. There is such a thing as a "just" anger used for good. Are you not angry when an innocent man is sent to prison? Are you not angry when the ones you love are hurt and wrongfully accused and demeaned? Anger controlled is honorable, anger uncontrolled is dishonorable. The same applies to jealousy, the intolerance of unfaithfulness, as jealousy is also honorable depending on what one is faithful to. Both feelings come from an unfairness, that must be met with fairness and the truth.

What I think you're talking about however, is simply irrational people, who get angry first and think later, rather than the other way around. Hot Heads, if you will. The people who would never even think to ask: Is it just, for me to be angry? Is it just, for me to be jealous? Angry for the sake of being angry. Towards those meatheads, we're on the same page lukepd.

My point in all of this, is that if you do not feel anger, you are indifferent to the sufferings of others, and are not empathetic to the world around you, and life is simply self interest. Anger is a necessity towards justice and truth, peace and love. It safeguards righteousness from unrighteousness, truth from lies, good from evil. I would question anyone's moral compass who says they are not angry towards injustice.

Not true, you can disagree with something and not be angry about it. You claim that if you don't feel anger you must be indifferent to the suffering of others. Let me be the first to enlighten you that this is BS.

If someone does something I don't like, I'll take action. Does this mean I feel anger or express anger? No.

Anger doesn't yield results, it blinds you from the truth.

Have you ever yelled at someone and not been angry? It's perfectly possible, yelling not out of rage but to really strike home the point you are trying to make
 

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It takes a lot to get me wound up but I've been known to swear threaten, throw things, etc. but I get over it once I've made my feelings known and make the offender suffer or time goes by and the offender behaves themselves. I will say my MIL said some harsh things to me several years ago at the most inopportune time (I just had surgery and was trying to recover at home). It's doubtful I'll ever forgive her. I wanted to kick her out of our house for being such a bitch. I hope she's nicer to her other daughter in law. :devil:
 

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I'm not an NF but I think loosing it is just stupid, it proves how out of control and de-evolved you are. You're not in a calm diplomatic place, you're just spitting your relentless anger everywhere which is impossible to reason with.

I haven't experienced anger since I was a kid, if you think you need anger in your life I just want to say I've lived a very happy life thus far without it.

Loosing it might be stupid (I'm actually a very calm guy but, for argument's sake ) but we NFs are already too awesome for our own good. Gotta counter it with something. Besides people fear people who lose it it (i.e. crazy people). Those that are feared have power. And those that have power have control. So there, we don't lose it after all :tongue:
 

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I'm NF and I'm part Italian. You don't want to see me exploding.

I can produce windpower with my hands. I shake like California. :D
 

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I'm not an NF but I think loosing it is just stupid, it proves how out of control and de-evolved you are. You're not in a calm diplomatic place, you're just spitting your relentless anger everywhere which is impossible to reason with.

I haven't experienced anger since I was a kid, if you think you need anger in your life I just want to say I've lived a very happy life thus far without it.

that's almost word for word something my brother would say. for the longest time I wondered if you were him, turns out you aren't.
 

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I'm not an NF but I think loosing it is just stupid, it proves how out of control and de-evolved you are. You're not in a calm diplomatic place, you're just spitting your relentless anger everywhere which is impossible to reason with.

I haven't experienced anger since I was a kid, if you think you need anger in your life I just want to say I've lived a very happy life thus far without it.

*Face palms*
 
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