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[ENFP] Why do ENFPs need time to be alone?

targobelle

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this has GOT to be my problem then.. it has to be what's wrong with me... no break never ever ever a 24hr period to just regenerate, it make take longer though....

*sigh*

kids and enfps have got to be a stressful combo
 

SillyGoose

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this has GOT to be my problem then.. it has to be what's wrong with me... no break never ever ever a 24hr period to just regenerate, it make take longer though....

*sigh*

kids and enfps have got to be a stressful combo

It's funny you say that. I was going to post a thread asking if there was any ENFP's here with children. I think any type having children is in for a challenge, but I wonder if other ENFP's have the same challenges parenting as I do.

I a single mom ENFP with a 4 year old ENFP (from what I can tell) daughter.
 

SillyGoose

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I could see myself in there =P I need time alone every night after so many things went on during the day. But I've been stuck in my room for days, and it's depressing for me. I can't stand having to chat or text for a long time. I really have a strong need/urge for exchanging information. I'd love to verbally talk to people in person and see how they verbally and physically respond. After those exchanges I then need solitude time :p

I've never been in a situation where two extreme emotions are going on, but I think it would be a fun to know what it's like ONCE

Come visit my office, love. It's an ENFP's dream (where else can you be chronically late for 3 friggin years and not get fired?) and nightmare. There is hardly any management and so laid back that almost everyone has their 'moments' in our office that would get them fired anywhere else.

Overall, very fun but can be tremendously stressful at times.
 

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^^ Sounds kinda like 'The Office'

And dooood, I needed alone time tonight. I actually left the club and contemplated stopping home but thought I'd end up staying home or being late coming back. So I went across the street to the 24 hour drug store, browsed, bought some water and mints, then used the restroom to freshen up, then 10 minutes later I was ready again to mingle.

I dunno, sometimes I feel like inside I'm running away, I just need a moment to myself to not be bothered or be exposed or...it's like I need *me* time and sometimes I need to feel safe for a second before I can throw myself back out there.

If I don't get that?

Oh yeah, I can get *weird*.

Maybe it's a need to feel in control of your environment and yourself. And partially a need to escape a stimulus that stressing or over stimulating you so you can recollect yourself and then prepare yourself so you can go back out and not be bothered.
 

Little Linguist

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this has GOT to be my problem then.. it has to be what's wrong with me... no break never ever ever a 24hr period to just regenerate, it make take longer though....

*sigh*

kids and enfps have got to be a stressful combo

OMGGG!!! NO BREAKS??? No quiet/alone time!!!???

I'm not going to be a mom, then! :shock: Nah, just kidding, but that would drive me bananas.
 

Little Linguist

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^^ Sounds kinda like 'The Office'


Oh yeah, I can get *weird*.

Maybe it's a need to feel in control of your environment and yourself. And partially a need to escape a stimulus that stressing or over stimulating you so you can recollect yourself and then prepare yourself so you can go back out and not be bothered.

Yes! Right! :D
 

IEE623

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Come visit my office, love. It's an ENFP's dream (where else can you be chronically late for 3 friggin years and not get fired?) and nightmare. There is hardly any management and so laid back that almost everyone has their 'moments' in our office that would get them fired anywhere else.

Overall, very fun but can be tremendously stressful at times.

haha... I would love to. But too bad you're all the way in VA while i'm too broke for either gas or air fare =P

i like it when my job is stressful at times. i figured that i had a problem motivate my own self. i need external motivation/drive bad :blush:. the more pressure there is, the more productive i am.
 

phoenix13

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i like it when my job is stressful at times. i figured that i had a problem motivate my own self. i need external motivation/drive bad :blush:. the more pressure there is, the more productive i am.

you said it sistah! I'm with you 100%
 

Venom

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couldn't the original question be answered pretty simply by functions?

Fi Ne INFP
Ne Fi ENFP

the same moments where the INFP has become fun and outgoing (Ne)
the same occurs for the ENFP who needs to be introspective (Fi)
 

Bee

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I don't know. I think I usually need some time alone because when I'm with other people I'm rushing around, thinking a million things at once about absolutely everything, and once in a while I need to get my head in order. Almost like clearing out some of the clutter.
Did that make sense? xD
 

kensi

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I know it's to center themselves and all but, I just don't understand it.

It's true though. I've hung out with too many people lately in the past 3 weeks so all I did was stay home today and I feel okay now. I can't explain it. But you could tell like, yesterday, that I wasn't being so fun to be around. I was kind of exhausted of being with people, even though I love them very much.

It's weird because I read that they're the only extroverts that need to do this.

where did you read this ....please tell me;)...??....this is very usefull advice to have access to if you are an ENFp and are considering possibly switching your type to account for other factors....as is the case with me.
 

SillySapienne

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I've just been surrounded by people for 48 hrs. straight!

I am now, alone in my room, and it feels fucking GRRRRRRRRRRRREAT!!!!!!!

Tiring, other people can be very tiring.

This is why I love foruming, ya'll are too far away to get up in my ENFP spi-zace!!!
 

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Yeah, I like being alone too. I get incredibly irritated if someone like a neighbor was making stupid noise late at night or if someone was getting away with murder. I'd want to kill either one of them just to equalize nature.
 

SillySapienne

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Yeah, I like being alone too. I get incredibly irritated if someone like a neighbor was making stupid noise late at night or if someone was getting away with murder. I'd want to kill either one of them just to equalize nature.
Irrational, illogical and disturbing.

:huh:

Bravo.

*hides*
 

VanillaCat

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where did you read this ....please tell me;)...??....this is very usefull advice to have access to if you are an ENFp and are considering possibly switching your type to account for other factors....as is the case with me.

I read it here: Portrait of an ENFP

An ENFP needs to focus on following through with their projects. This can be a problem area for some of these individuals. Unlike other Extraverted types, ENFPs need time alone to center themselves, and make sure they are moving in a direction which is in sync with their values. ENFPs who remain centered will usually be quite successful at their endeavors. Others may fall into the habit of dropping a project when they become excited about a new possibility, and thus they never achieve the great accomplishments which they are capable of achieving.
 

cn1234567890

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Yeah, I like being alone too. I get incredibly irritated if someone like a neighbor was making stupid noise late at night or if someone was getting away with murder. I'd want to kill either one of them just to equalize nature.

you sound like hannibal lecter hah ohh those movies/books fascinate me...
 
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