SilkRoad
Lay the coin on my tongue
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[MENTION=7063]SilkRoad[/MENTION]
sorry, wasn't trying to suggest that's how you should talk to her. was just trying to give an example for lily flower for how to speak in a Te manner that's judgmental but really wouldn't offend an ENFP at a Feeling level.
she sounds like she has adopted an issue and is kind of letting everything go to hell around it... can't say that's really something foreign to me
i bet you're totally right... i think we forget how "quiet"/hidden our Fi is, too. i know my best friend gets frustrated with me about that.
oh, sorry, I probably sound really wound up and like I'm ranting I am a bit, I guess. Sigh. Anyway, don't worry, your comments were very useful and interesting - really.
I'm just amazed at how many communication issues there are between xNFPs and xNFJs particularly. It makes more sense to me now that I know (a bit) more about Fe vs Fi. It's too bad in a way though. I genuinely think xNFPs are awesome and I think generally you guys think xNFJs are awesome too. Yet there seems to be so much miscommunication. I do think it's partly because we seem...so close in a lot of ways, and probably expect more of each other so that when the misunderstandings do arise, they feel that much sharper.
EDIT: and, you know, I am aware that it is always easier to point the finger and to judge a situation when you're outside of it. Who knows, maybe if I were in my friend's situation I would feel the law was racist too. I suspect I'd be more just frustrated with both the law AND myself, but trying to get on with it (which she is admittedly also doing), but who knows...