[ENFJ] When do you ENFJs open up?

[rav3n]

There will always be more bread crumbs to follow. Which I love exploring, but knowing I'll never be shown everything makes it bittersweet.

As a guess, is this your girlfriend? The reason I ask is that as friends, I kind of accept that this is what she is and when she's ready to open up, I'll be there to listen and help if possible. If not, any attempts to push her are futile.

 

[Priori]

We occasionally have sex, tell each other things we don't tell anybody else and we both know that the other is the one person we can count on no matter what. However, we've never actually dated. I think that would just be too weird for either of us.

 

[DoggyGirl]

It's easier to use triangulation to figure her out, instead of asking or believing she's opened completely up.

triangulation? what's that????

 

[rav3n]

triangulation? what's that????

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangulation_(social_science)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangulation

 

[OrangeAppled]

What is it, ENFJs, that makes so many of you waaay more cryptic than ESFJs? I mean, I know it is the effect of Ni, but how does this play out in your mind?

I find that ENFJs will disarm me by making me feel like they have opened up to me, so that I open up (and I require quite a cro-bar), only to suddenly realize down the road that I actually know very little about them. This is always a disconcerting moment, and I have to re-evaluate the whole relationship, usually coming to the disappointing conclusion that we're not the buddies I thought we were. And I know that must be the case, because I do have a few NFJs (both Es & Is) in my life who are total open books with me (and yes, then they don't shut up ). I figure either these ENFJ individuals don't open up to anyone or we just didn't connect the way I thought we did (well, I really have ONE in mind concerning this).