Alchemilla
New member
- Joined
- Jan 5, 2011
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
When I first joined the forums I made a post asking if knowing your personality type could help you manage stress. I'd heard about typology only a week or so before, and now I've had time for the information to sink in I'm starting to see some ways it can really help.
For example, I tend to bottle up and have a maze of internal walls. I was more or less unconscious of this until I spent sometime reading the posts by people on the NF forums, and I liked the way INFPs came across as very open and receptive. (It especially helped knowing that this wasn't a personal flaw that I "should" feel guilty about, but that it was a trait of many INFJs and I shouldn't worry about it at all.) The awareness of it has helped me risk opening up more, and to push myself to put words to the emotional fog I've been walking through lately.
It's been worth it.
Another area I'd like to work on is being practical, and not living in the future all the time. I think if I reigned in my focus I'd be able to do more of the things I enjoy rather than dreaming about them, and that in itself would make me feel less stressed.
Having too high expectations is another classic sore spot.
It is tricky though because I often dislike myself, I have a history of depression and anxiety and I want to make the most of myself without feeding the feeling of wanting to be a whole different person entirely.
What are your ideas, observations or experiences? I'd also like to hear more about how INFJs experience stress, even if not what they can do to reduce it.
For example, I tend to bottle up and have a maze of internal walls. I was more or less unconscious of this until I spent sometime reading the posts by people on the NF forums, and I liked the way INFPs came across as very open and receptive. (It especially helped knowing that this wasn't a personal flaw that I "should" feel guilty about, but that it was a trait of many INFJs and I shouldn't worry about it at all.) The awareness of it has helped me risk opening up more, and to push myself to put words to the emotional fog I've been walking through lately.
It's been worth it.
Another area I'd like to work on is being practical, and not living in the future all the time. I think if I reigned in my focus I'd be able to do more of the things I enjoy rather than dreaming about them, and that in itself would make me feel less stressed.
Having too high expectations is another classic sore spot.
It is tricky though because I often dislike myself, I have a history of depression and anxiety and I want to make the most of myself without feeding the feeling of wanting to be a whole different person entirely.
What are your ideas, observations or experiences? I'd also like to hear more about how INFJs experience stress, even if not what they can do to reduce it.